my wife was extremely bad after having our baby.i did everything i could to help her, but she didn't seem to like me. she got aggressive and complained about me constantly,i work nights and the baby did not sleep, but i would have the baby in the day(sometimes only having an hour or two for me to sleep before going bake to work), to give her a break.but when i told her to get some sleep she would go out instead.it was a struggle for about 6 months and she didn't want anything to do with me. then i found out she was going off to meet another man (i believe this was caused by the depression). she started seeing the other man within 1 month of giving birth. within 2 months she wanted to leave me and get married. when i found out she denied it and got worse. but finding out made everything so clear to me - every time she popped out, or was late back, every time she needed me to look after the kids when she went out. things got worse. our baby is 15 months old. .. I don't know what to write i haven't covered the half of it is there any groups i can talk to (as i cant write it all) i tried .. doctors, counsellers, health visitor. but my wife will not go to any. other groups will not help if she has not been diagnosed.