EVOLVE.

[gerrerd]

Into quality.

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Yes! As you kind of know, I've been on a rough journey. As a way of helping myself, I've been writing down the differences between me and this person. One of those difference is that I have the ability to grow and learn (your term "evolve").Thanks for sharing!

[Mrspjsmom]

I do this physically and mentally. Not every day is a great one but I go to physical therapy, do my exercises at home twice a day, meditate, journal and start each day with one goal. Be the best person I can. I'm still a work in progress but I am improving.

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Mrspjsmom]

Hi pjs... sorry you're having a rough go lately. Tune out the squeeky wheels. It's their own self hatred projected outward. You're a beacon of positivity and light. Keep encouraging and supporting the seekers worthy of your advice and insight. They are the reasons we're here. Helping other's IS helping ourselves. It's a 2 way street. Love to you!

[Mrspjsmom in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

Thank you so much for your kind words. They made my day.

[LifeIsThePitts]

YAASSSS, my friend!! 👍👍👍I am doing this process of introspection right now as we were financially violated 3 wks ago. The fraud investigations are still pending with the bank...

Traumatic events can happen when you least expect and leave wounds that are hard to heal. All my past trauma responses came home to roost in BIG BAD WAYS and I'm now processing many past repressed Traumas at once. Ulgh...big trigger for HUGE pile of 💩 to sort out.

Difference is, is that I'm doing "this" instead of just repeating my past habitual response patterns...and it's really shi++y and HARD but it's gonna be worth it in the long run. Hopefully we'll get some of our money back SOMEDAY soon. That would heal a lot of stuff at the moment 😤🙄🤬

[Mrspjsmom in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

My phone got hacked back in the Spring and I am still trying to get things sorted out. Alot of the charges have been forgiven but after two different police reports and a detective investigating things for several months everything still isn't resolved. But I keep hoping and have taken additional measures to keep myself safe. I hope things go well for you as you navigate all of this.

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Mrspjsmom]

Yes! It has been a Big set back emotionally and financially. It's taken a mental toll for sure! I didn't stop shaking and crying for days. New sim cards in phones, bank accounts, zelle, Amazon charges, credit cards, debit cards... opened fraudulent Money Gram and Sendwave accounts. They had it all. It's been a horrible experience.Slowly coming out of the trauma response and starting to work on the de-escalation process. Listening to Peter Levine's "Healing Trauma" on audiobook on YouTube. It's been a fantastic learning tool and I'm immersed in the transition.

Thanks for sharing. It helps me to know I'm not alone in this awful cyber stalking world we live in now. I feel so vulnerable and exposed and VIOLATED! ULGH...so 🤬 angry. I know it's the feelings I have to go through to get through the event, but STILL. This was not necessary and somehow I feel responsible for it happening even tho we're the victims. Not cool...😠

[Mrspjsmom in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

For me the worst part is when my husband checks our account and gets mad at me. But he's getting better since I tell him when I use the debit or credit card. Or if he's sleeping because he has to work I leave a note.

[gerrerd in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

well done you can do it.