It’s not your thoughts or emotions that keep you suffering. It is your constant struggle and rejection of your current state that does.
Non-acceptance of anxious thoughts and feelings is the same as resisting and the cause of so much extra suffering. You are constantly at war. Not only with anxiety and depression, but with yourselves by trying to push it away, trying to do anything to stop yourselves feeling what you are currently feeling. It’s exhausting and the reason why depression develops because emotional reserves become drained, the brain loses its elasticity. Sufferers can no longer think around a problem but only the problem itself. This struggle prevents the natural healing process whereby the mind and body reverts back to their natural default position of peacefulness.
The “war” is caused by sufferers not wanting to feel it but if you have anxiety, then you have no option but to feel its presence. Nothing you say or do can stop those feelings from being there. There is no method or technique that will make it go away permanently.
If you had flu, there is nothing you can do about it. You feel bloody awful and have no choice but to ride it out and allow it to pass. Gradually, you start to feel better, not by trying to fight it, suppress the symptoms or worrying about how you feel all day. Googling the symptoms doesn’t help either. In all probability, you would feel more exhausted and take longer to recover. So, fighting the symptoms is counterproductive but this is what most anxiety sufferers do every day and feel complete despair because they don’t understand why they are not feeling any better. They do not seem to realise that they keep themselves from recovering by fighting, instead of accepting how they feel.
When you give up your battle with yourself and allow yourself to fall into any state, your thoughts and emotions will change naturally. You don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to chant positive thoughts or feelings. They return naturally. You can’t force or create a particular state through struggle or will power. This will only create more suffering, physically and mentally.
Much of life’s struggles are caused by a refusal to accept things as they are. The same is true of anxiety and not allowing yourself to feel it all and the cause of so much pain. If anything, it is a lack of understanding which keeps people suffering needlessly.
It doesn’t feel great to experience emotions of anger, fear, irritation, anxiety, sadness or any other negative emotion. However, if you allow yourself to fall into your current state without struggle and resistance, the suffering is less intense.
An attitude of Acceptance allows your mind and body to start the process of healing. You are no longer fighting to feel better or different or trying to suppress it all. Your mind and body finally have the time and space to heal themselves, in just the same way you recover from that flu (man-flu is much, much worse, granted 🤢). The trick is to accept it all, step aside and allow Mother Nature to do its job.
I recovered when I realised I was creating all my own suffering and learned to let go. To let it all be there and do absolutely nothing to change it. Recovery wasn’t instantaneous. It took time for all those thoughts and feelings to disappear but it got to a point where they were still there but I just lost interest in them. I just let myself feel everything willingly, no matter how bad it felt.
This is how to recover. We all have it within ourselves to recover. No special powers or bravery. Just an understanding. Accept, don’t fight it.
Hope this helps
Best wishes
Beevee