wedding attendance four weeks from ablation

[37Polly]

I am looking for straight talk here. I am nervous.My first grandson is getting married four weeks from my ablation. I am 84 years old. Of course I want to be there, and have my dress ready. Lovely couple . First big family wedding. Venue is about 45 minutes from home so it’s an early evening. I have been pretty fatigued before the procedure, and fear I won’t be up to it. Best advice? Could husband and I do ceremony, and early exit ? Honest opinion….thanks. Not exactly our usual topic but I cannot think of a better group to get honest talk.

[Desanthony]

Every one is different and you may find that you are up to attending or may not. You can only see how you are on the day really. So long as you have no complications and have taken it easy after your ablation and done everything the Doc says you may find you are up to attending and making an early exit as you suggest. Is there no way you could postpone your ablation and have it later. It may be worth talking to the cardio team at the hospital about that. Cancelling would put you back to the bottom of the list but a chat with the team to move the procedure to another later date after a chat to the team maybe feasible?

[37Polly in reply to Desanthony]

Had ablation on Friday.waited many months and needed a warm season as it was a four hour drive each way throughout lovely NewEngland. ( not so lovely in snow). Will do as you suggested, take one day at a time. And hope. Thanks

[CDreamer]

Four weeks is reasonable time to heal but you may still suffer fatigue and doing too much for your heart after ablation will often trigger AF so In your shoes I would book a room at the venue to retire to for a rest whenever you feel like it. Often a short rest will revive so maybe it’s more about pacing yourself? I found the fatigue comes very suddenly.

That is what my mother in law did at my son’s wedding and what my husband did recently at his 90th birthday celebration, even though that was only 15 minute drive home. You really don’t want to miss it.

[37Polly in reply to CDreamer]

Thanks CD dreamer. Agood suggestion. I will check venue tomorrow.maybe stay the night. Avoid driving.😉 knew this crowd would have good advice.💕

[BobD Volunteer in reply to 37Polly]

I am totally with CDreamer here. Pace yourself and listen to your body and of course no alcohol.

[jeanjeannie50 in reply to CDreamer]

That sounds a great idea CDreamer for 37Polly. It's exactly what I'm going to do at my granddaughters wedding in York next February and I'm not even having an ablation.

[Franks-Nan]

How about hiring a wheelchair or a mobility scooter for the day, just hop out when the photos start and get one of the kids to push you around, they will think it's great fun at least you can mingle with family and friends without getting tired.

[Desanthony in reply to Franks-Nan]

Another great suggestion.

[Cavalierrubie]

LOL. 😂😂😂

[Cavalierrubie]

What a lovely, enjoyable day that will be? I send best wishes for a speedy recovery. Your body will heal better without stress, so try to keep calm and not worry or fret about the day, if you can. Don’t push yourself to get well. TLC lots of rest and relaxing. A wheelchair is a brilliant idea if you are still feeling fatigue. 🥰

[37Polly in reply to Cavalierrubie]

Thank you and everyone for amazing kindness..😍

[Cavalierrubie in reply to 37Polly]

Bless you. You are going to be great. Let us know what a lovely day you had and, in the meantime, l send love and prayers for your recovery. I think you are wonderful at 84 and very brave.

[37Polly]

thank you. I don’t feel very brave, but I smile when I recall as a child ( 6th of 9) taking myself up the street at 12 yrs old and enrolling myself in the private school, because I felt it was better. And arranged time payments for tuition from child sitting.

Feels somewhat similar. Researched for a few years and took myself to Boston. Family went along like my Mom did years ago. Remember to support your kids…really the best thing. Don’t judge. Support.

[Cavalierrubie in reply to 37Polly]

Wonderful. You are an inspiration.

[Nantoone]

I had a wedding three weeks post ablation which I attended. We borrowed a wheelchair so that I didn’t have to over exert myself. Went perfectly though after chatting to people felt tired so still left early. It was lovely to attend rather than miss such a special occasion. Family will understand. Go and have fun.

[37Polly]

thank you. So encouraging. Not saying I need to boogie the night away..🤣👏🏻👏🏻

[marcyh]

I would not miss this wedding if it were my family! I was very fatigued before my first ablation but did well afterwards. Be careful during those four weeks of recovery and follow the guidelines.

Thinking back, at four weeks I was feeling much better than before. The contingency plans already mentioned would not all have been necessary for me, but I definitely would have scaled back my expectations and prepared for taking it easy.

[37Polly]

thanks. All good advice. I will try to listen to my whole body, not just my ❤️.