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Vonnieruth
Vonnieruth

Can I say thank you for this weekend on here Haven't been feeling too good in myself Very weepy and anxious for now reason really Don't know if it's me thinking about going back to work or wether it's anything to do with AF It's been like as if something was about to happen but didn't and I was awake very early today just feeling weird but couldn't say how

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Good morning Vonnie

Sorry to hear you've been feeling low.

As far as I know, a sense of impending doom could have different causes but is most often associated with anxiety and panic attacks. The thought of going back to work after a few weeks is bound to make anyone feel anxious. I remember well those feelings of dread at going back to school after being off sick. And once I returned, how quickly I got back into things, it was as if I'd never been off.

Maybe it's not that at all, but if it is, this is what I'd do ... as soon as I could I'd visit work, spend an hour or so with staff and patients/residents. Needn't even be that long, maybe even ten minutes just to say hi. For me that'd break the ice and help me get mentally prepared. Try not to worry if you come over a bit nervous to start with, it's normal after all and everyone should understand. I've got a feeling that once you're fully back in the swing of things you're going to feel so much better in every way.

And just remember how valuable you are both at work and at home.

Hugs xx

P.S. Got my sister arriving today - that's going to take my mind off everything lol.

Vonnieruth
Vonnieruth
in reply to Hilly22

Thanks Hills Hope you have a great day with sister I only have elder brother and at times I wish I had a sister to drag me away for the day

Hi vonnie sorry to hear your not feeling too good it probably is the thought of going back to work getting you all upset it would me !!! It was a good point from hilly to just pop into work for ten mins have a cuppa with them ! It won’t seem so daunting on your first full day back !! Eileen x

Vonnieruth
Vonnieruth
in reply to Edm174

I keep thinking of it to be honest It's getting there and back at moment I don't drive and it's taxi there and back

Edm174
Edm174
in reply to Vonnieruth

Have you got a start date??

Vonnieruth
Vonnieruth
in reply to Edm174

Not yet sick note till 15th

Edm174
Edm174
in reply to Vonnieruth

That’s not long !!! Hope you feel better soon ! Take care

Vonnieruth
Vonnieruth
in reply to Edm174

Let me know how you go at hospital won't you

Edm174
Edm174
in reply to Vonnieruth

Off course I will !! I’ve got a list of questions to ask this time too !

Vonnieruth
Vonnieruth
in reply to Edm174

That's good I feel like a fish out of water having been discharged Never even got to see a doctor

Edm174
Edm174
in reply to Vonnieruth

I bet you do !! If it’s happens again straight to A & E !! I’m back at work tomorrow I like have 3 day weekends 😄

Vonnieruth
Vonnieruth
in reply to Edm174

They said A and E or to my GP

Impending doom sounds familiar, also a good deal of apprehension going back to work at times for me or even being in touch with the place, primarily because of all the red tape and nonsense coming at me for being off.

There are times with AF, work or not, I feel low frustrated fed up and bored by it. So I can empathise.

Thank you Just don't think I need all the stress of work for twelve hours a day again but I guess I have to try

Hi Vonnie :-) I think your feelings are entirely normal, until you have lived with P-AF for some time and got used to it there is always that feeling of waiting for the next episode to strike you down.

Also going to a hospital appointment doesn't help, you wait eagerly for months and when you finally get there very little happens and you are left with a sense of anticlimax.

It is always difficult returning to work when you have been away for a while, it's like starting all over again.

Try not to think too much of what might happen and find something positive to focus on , maybe do some task to keep your mind occupied. If I need to distract myself I clean the cooker and make some bread .

Things will improve in time as your mind comes to terms with the fact you have P-AF but life goes on and it shouldn't stop you doing the things you enjoy :-).

Vonnieruth
Vonnieruth
in reply to doodle68

Thanks doodle I know I need to get my life back Hold back on the nights out with work friends lol Just made myself go for walk to village and back with daughter I was never in before all this PAF and I won't let it beat me which it is at moment I know that Thank you for advice x

Vonnieruth,

I don’t think that supervisor has been all that supportive or understanding.

But that is a problem with A-Fib. People cant see a cast, a bandage and they tend to not understand A-Fib. You need a sister or close friend to support you now and we will just have to be that for you. Go on and do your best-that’s all you can do. You have a purpose there and you will be ok. If it becomes too much, then look for alternatives. But...go and be the best you that you can be.

So true April birthday !!!!

Also, you may would like to make a quick check-up appointment with doctor before you go back just to affirm your present health. Sometimes that can be reassuring. Try harder to kick the other feelings aside as “Mercury is in Retrograde” until Aug 18th and things can feel weird when planets veer off. Yes, crazy-talk-but also a little scientific.

My birthday this month also So need my head on straight Another year older Not good

It beats the alternative😉

Ohh yes it does

It's really part and parcel of job Three meds rounds Sometimes four if no senior on nights or its monthly meds change over Then there's other professional visits Care plans to evaluate hand over to write Care plans to rewrite Fifteen sections Go out to hospitals or homes to assess Make sure care staff do what they need to to Help at meal times and with personal care Go every day to senior staff meeting It all adds up in twelve hours Plus social meetings with family and social workers

Vonnieruth,

No wonder you are feeling a certain way! That is way too much!

You are not sitting behind a desk doing routine paperwork! Your job requires a great deal of interaction with multiple people and the stress negotiating with various personalities and individual needs!!! You are also assessing other people needs in real time. Lots of decision-making, physical movements, supervising, monitoring, quality control!

I am sorry, but can you truly do all of this and manage your A-Fib?

I dont know how old you are ( Happy Birthday Month to you!). It is a lot required of you.

What options are available where you live?

Can you get another job? Can you qualify for disability?

I was told that AF is not classed as no reason for not working

I think we can certainly work with A-Fib, but we need considerations. Surely it would qualify as an accommodated disability to allow you to work within the realm of what you are able to do?

They probably risk assess me But I don't know if they will say im able to do my role as senior I once asked about stepping down back to carer Was told I would have to wait while they interviewed then trained up and then if no position available on care I would have to leave

I will go back for less hours on phased back to work I have asked if I can stay off floor just getting to know all new residents and learn how to transfer care plans from paper to on laptop I also have to content with a male resident who thought I was keeping him locked up He threaten to him me so for my safety as he still had capacity they moved me downstairs I think I will now have to float again between floors So I don't know how he will be towards me again

Sending you hugs Vonnieruth!

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Aww thank you 😁

I'm actually 62 last day of this month

I definitely think you should be allowed to ease yourself back into work. It is clear you have a very responsible job and as they seem to be expecting you to jump straight back in the deep end this illustrates to me that they need you back. This clearly suggests that you are valued but they are trying it on putting such pressure on you because they are desperate to have you back.

In the past I have done very key jobs in companies yet as I got older and management changed there were individuals and situations that made me feel undervalued at times. It is not a good feeling when you have decades of experience.

I obviously don’t know your circumstances but if after you ask nicely for some consideration and you are unsuccessful maybe you could try and call their bluff after all you do have the law on your side.

I like the idea of going back on lighter duties and shorter hours to start with otherwise I really don’t think you will cope.

Hope that helps.

Pete

Thanks Pete My job is a full on the go one Dementia is a full hands on no matter what your position is I do love it though All I can do is see how it goes I have mentioned over phone to home manager that I use my holiday entitlement to top up my phased back

I really think that to offer to use your holiday to help your employer ease you back is unfair and you are far too generous a personality. I guess you have to have a very giving personality to do the job you do.

Unless they take care of you then they cannot expect you to do your job properly.

Lecture over

Pete

Thank you sir lol Thing is it will bump my wages up to the same as if I was full time So I would work so many hours per day then my holiday pay would make it up

Hi there, I think the AF drags you down. I think we live in limbo land sometimes with it. I lost my lovely hubby two years after my first ablation and the following 12 months I can’t remember at all. but anxiety and being on my own the old AF reared it’s ugly head. I now it’s wrong but I drank too much, cried an awful lot. But now here waiting for another ablation. I don’t know about anybody else but I think we put a front on. Not many people understand AF some have never heard of it. So you my lovely chin up stand tall and off you go to work. You will feel better and you will learn to cope with how you feel. X

Thank you that was so nice of you Glad you came through also

Hi

Unconsciously I think it sounds as if you are worrying about returning to work? Good advice by Hilly here,think that would help.A lot of us seem to be struggling in this heat as well,its draining our energy.Hope you feelbetter soon xx

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