Can I say thank you for this weekend on here Haven't been feeling too good in myself Very weepy and anxious for now reason really Don't know if it's me thinking about going back to work or wether it's anything to do with AF It's been like as if something was about to happen but didn't and I was awake very early today just feeling weird but couldn't say how
Morning : Can I say thank you for this... - AF Association
Good morning Vonnie
Sorry to hear you've been feeling low.
As far as I know, a sense of impending doom could have different causes but is most often associated with anxiety and panic attacks. The thought of going back to work after a few weeks is bound to make anyone feel anxious. I remember well those feelings of dread at going back to school after being off sick. And once I returned, how quickly I got back into things, it was as if I'd never been off.
Maybe it's not that at all, but if it is, this is what I'd do ... as soon as I could I'd visit work, spend an hour or so with staff and patients/residents. Needn't even be that long, maybe even ten minutes just to say hi. For me that'd break the ice and help me get mentally prepared. Try not to worry if you come over a bit nervous to start with, it's normal after all and everyone should understand. I've got a feeling that once you're fully back in the swing of things you're going to feel so much better in every way.
And just remember how valuable you are both at work and at home.
P.S. Got my sister arriving today - that's going to take my mind off everything lol.
Impending doom sounds familiar, also a good deal of apprehension going back to work at times for me or even being in touch with the place, primarily because of all the red tape and nonsense coming at me for being off.
There are times with AF, work or not, I feel low frustrated fed up and bored by it. So I can empathise.
Hi Vonnie I think your feelings are entirely normal, until you have lived with P-AF for some time and got used to it there is always that feeling of waiting for the next episode to strike you down.
Also going to a hospital appointment doesn't help, you wait eagerly for months and when you finally get there very little happens and you are left with a sense of anticlimax.
It is always difficult returning to work when you have been away for a while, it's like starting all over again.
Try not to think too much of what might happen and find something positive to focus on , maybe do some task to keep your mind occupied. If I need to distract myself I clean the cooker and make some bread .
Things will improve in time as your mind comes to terms with the fact you have P-AF but life goes on and it shouldn't stop you doing the things you enjoy :-).
I don’t think that supervisor has been all that supportive or understanding.
But that is a problem with A-Fib. People cant see a cast, a bandage and they tend to not understand A-Fib. You need a sister or close friend to support you now and we will just have to be that for you. Go on and do your best-that’s all you can do. You have a purpose there and you will be ok. If it becomes too much, then look for alternatives. But...go and be the best you that you can be.
Also, you may would like to make a quick check-up appointment with doctor before you go back just to affirm your present health. Sometimes that can be reassuring. Try harder to kick the other feelings aside as “Mercury is in Retrograde” until Aug 18th and things can feel weird when planets veer off. Yes, crazy-talk-but also a little scientific.
It's really part and parcel of job Three meds rounds Sometimes four if no senior on nights or its monthly meds change over Then there's other professional visits Care plans to evaluate hand over to write Care plans to rewrite Fifteen sections Go out to hospitals or homes to assess Make sure care staff do what they need to to Help at meal times and with personal care Go every day to senior staff meeting It all adds up in twelve hours Plus social meetings with family and social workers
No wonder you are feeling a certain way! That is way too much!
You are not sitting behind a desk doing routine paperwork! Your job requires a great deal of interaction with multiple people and the stress negotiating with various personalities and individual needs!!! You are also assessing other people needs in real time. Lots of decision-making, physical movements, supervising, monitoring, quality control!
I am sorry, but can you truly do all of this and manage your A-Fib?
I dont know how old you are ( Happy Birthday Month to you!). It is a lot required of you.
What options are available where you live?
Can you get another job? Can you qualify for disability?
I will go back for less hours on phased back to work I have asked if I can stay off floor just getting to know all new residents and learn how to transfer care plans from paper to on laptop I also have to content with a male resident who thought I was keeping him locked up He threaten to him me so for my safety as he still had capacity they moved me downstairs I think I will now have to float again between floors So I don't know how he will be towards me again
I definitely think you should be allowed to ease yourself back into work. It is clear you have a very responsible job and as they seem to be expecting you to jump straight back in the deep end this illustrates to me that they need you back. This clearly suggests that you are valued but they are trying it on putting such pressure on you because they are desperate to have you back.
In the past I have done very key jobs in companies yet as I got older and management changed there were individuals and situations that made me feel undervalued at times. It is not a good feeling when you have decades of experience.
I obviously don’t know your circumstances but if after you ask nicely for some consideration and you are unsuccessful maybe you could try and call their bluff after all you do have the law on your side.
I like the idea of going back on lighter duties and shorter hours to start with otherwise I really don’t think you will cope.
Hope that helps.
I really think that to offer to use your holiday to help your employer ease you back is unfair and you are far too generous a personality. I guess you have to have a very giving personality to do the job you do.
Unless they take care of you then they cannot expect you to do your job properly.
Hi there, I think the AF drags you down. I think we live in limbo land sometimes with it. I lost my lovely hubby two years after my first ablation and the following 12 months I can’t remember at all. but anxiety and being on my own the old AF reared it’s ugly head. I now it’s wrong but I drank too much, cried an awful lot. But now here waiting for another ablation. I don’t know about anybody else but I think we put a front on. Not many people understand AF some have never heard of it. So you my lovely chin up stand tall and off you go to work. You will feel better and you will learn to cope with how you feel. X