On August 31st as I sat with my husband George held his hand told him I would be fine how much I loved he passed.
Hospice had been called in seen him twice thought it would be about two weeks.They were wrong. I told the nurse no he is declining fast. She said she would return Wednesday not Thursday.She went over the medication they provide .I knew it would be soon He was done . After I gave him the due meds he needed our Grandson and my son law came to help me get him comfortable (only second nite in hospital bed) He said Hi Jaxson pretty much his last words I heard. I went to bed to get some rest. I was woken by our 3 year Finnagen barking I heard something else over the Oxygen noise. I knew he was leaving me. Barley 5 hours later he passed quietly pain free with me at his side.
It was the way we wanted and I thank God for this. I want to thank everyone on this site the information was helpful! In the end the patient makes the decision and they must have all they can to make the best decisions! Our Oncologist was wonderful he came to our home the Friday before to see George! George was so happy to talk to him and thank him.
He also came back Saturday to pay his respects and tell me their practice got notice Pluvicto is still not available here😔 George was waiting for this. God Bless all you Warriors fighting this beast and to the loving caretakers take care of you also.
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I was just checking some info on this site and saw your husband had passed💔I wanted to express my deepest condolences to you! I hope you see this no other way to get in touch .Answer back if you did!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you got to be there with him till very end. George knew, he was loved and that is ok for him to let go. You gave him the ultimate gift. I hope this brings you some consolation. I wish you peace and that loving memories will soon prevail.
My most heartfelt condolences…. This brought tears to my eyes. George went peacefully without pain and was very lucky to have you there at his side. That’s the best any of us can possibly hope for. I hope your heart will heal quickly.
Very sorry for your loss of our beloved husband. How comforting that it was peaceful and free of pain. What an exceptional oncologist. Blessings to you and family.
He was so lucky to have you fighting for him from the beginning through the end. Thank you for letting us all know. Caregivers like you who share their experiences teach all of us how to give our men our best the way you have. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry to hear about his passing. I'm glad he was not in pain and you were there to send him off. I'm just amazed your oncologist came to see him - that says something about the quality of men they both were.
Than you! My daughter & son in law (like a son) are with me! George worked all over the world and I have received such wonderful thoughts and prayers filled with love! Telling me what I knew! George was a sweet Southern boy with a gentle manor, honest to the bone(hard in construction business) I was truly blessed to have been his wife!
George sounds like a great man, hope to see him in the next life but not too soon I hope I pass without pain as well. I hope the Yorkies are comforting you and the family.
Yes they are! Bella 15 our first blind due to genetic eye disease Cognitive decline and deaf1 But she loved her Daddy. Finnagen I got at 9 weeks as I feared I would lose George or Bella together.What a blessing he is! Now sleeps at end of bed waiting for his Daddy George💔
What a sad news but at least the transition was pain free and with you by the side of your loving husband George. Sending you love and light at this difficult time.🙏
My sincerest Condolences. You have both done great. You will always remember these moments and sometimes in future you will be united again. I wish you strength and energy for the upcoming days!
Dear Yorkielover2 - so very sorry to hear your devastating news - the only small consultation was that your hubby passed quietl, pain free with you at his side - now that his suffering is over May he rest in peace - sincere condolences to you & your family
You are right! Thank first his Oncologist for always understanding the pain from cancer and providing what George needed. Second for Hospice providing for every possible thing he might suffer through at the end. God helped us both
Thank you. Cancer is a battle and I did all I could to get George through it. The men on this site with all their personal experiences was so useful when trying to make decisions or just getting info on what to expect.The wives partners who sometimes don’t have an easy time are Angels with their care and info for the rest of us.Thanks to all
I'm so sorry to hear your news - my condolences! My Dad passed at home with us as well and you will find that, as time goes by, the knowledge that George was able to pass peacefully, at home, with you by his side is very comforting. Being able to give that to your loved one is an incredible gift. My heart breaks for you as you go through this difficult time. Please know that I am sending some extra love and caring thoughts your way and to all your family as well. HUGGGGS!
So, so sorry for your loss. I was at the side of my sister-in-law and my father when they passed 2 years ago- I found it strangely comforting to be there and let them know it was ok to go and be free of pain. A last gift of love. George sounds like a wonderful human💙
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience, as difficult as that must be. It is helpful to us as it offers hope for a peaceful, painless death with a loving wife nearby.
So Sorry to hear of George’s passing. I am always in awe by the support and love our spouses and family provide as we battle this disease. It is clear how much you loved George and he loved you. May the memories warm your heart and soothe your soul. We continue to be hear for you.
Please accept my heartfelt condolences in your profound loss and we all grieve with you . I hope the memories you have made sustain you and lessens your grief even a little. Praying for you and your family to receive God’s peace, that “passes all understanding.”
It does. It was I wanted to love him as he passed and tell him I was ok. I stayed with him before I called my son in law (upstairs) because I read it was a very spiritual time I felt peace.
praying for you. This is a difficult time. Please don’t let others pressure you to recover from your grief too fast. I have seen that happen as a GriefShare group facilitator.
It is with sadness I read your post informing us of your husband's passing.
Please take care of yourself now. It is what your husband would wish you to do. Family, friends and clergy can be helpful--and sometimes --not. At times we just need to be by ourselves.
We never "get over" a significant loss. We learn to do our best, which is never best, to live with the loss. As for me, as painful as some losses have been, I would not give up the pain to have never shared life with those that have gone before me. They are still with me, as your husband will always be with you.
Find some little bit of peace every day. Eventually it will ease but if you are like me, there will be days when the pain of separation will be as fresh as if you were experiencing it again. Then we realize that to have experienced a deep and lasting love that transcends death, is the most precious gift of life, even if it is a double-edged sword.
Be strong when you need to be. Grieve when you have to. Look towards tomorrow.
your devoted pathway of harmony and compassion towards your soul mate you have done would of been his true way of saying I LOVE YOU and thank you for the wonderful always at my side wife..
May God find and hold your hands together one day and please take good care of yourself
It's sad to hear. Your comment that you told him you will be ok would be so comforting to me when the time comes should my wife voice the same.
I think you were pretty active in threads when I first came here to the forum 2 1/2 years ago. Your yorkielover2 stood out to me as a familiar and special person and my god you and him very special.
Since I was PSA 1621 at diagnosis I gravitate towards those like your husband with the PSA's in the thousand's.
I truly hope you will find peace soon from the grief. That the pictures in the mind will soon transition to the happy ones and not the ones at the very end of life.
I was devoted to him and his care.I was with him every scan,every Oncologist visit.All Chemo ,Xofigo and Research visits.He would of been there for me. I even helped Hospice nurse wash and change him before they took him.Love was deep and forever
There is nothing left to say, that hasn't already been said. So now you are starting all over again. It takes awhile. But we all do it. We have to. I hope you are looking to the paths forward.
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. It is a blessing that George was pain free and with his family at the end. You were also blessed to have a hugely compassionate oncologist.
So sorry to read of your loss. Everything has already been written, but thank you for all of the love and care that you gave to your husband. He was a lucky man. Please take care of yourself and remember the good times, the laughter. Graham
Keep fighting I understand the loss of so many but many can survive! The word must be spread to the Internists The PC Doctors 40 and over PSA test! We women are continuously told Get Pap Get Mammogram Why not our Men Fathers Brothers?
Very sorry to hear of George's passing. We hope it will comfort you to know that so many people share your sorrow and pain and are keeping you in their thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. May time and friends heal your pain and bring you peace, and may fond memories replace your sorrow and heartache.
love is simple not enough when you have to say goodbye and it hurts because time spent so deeply in love that all you Both wanted was to last to eternity’s beyond. I am deeply saddened and regret yiur bundle of great joyous years have transitioned but I also believe hearts of all hearts he would say THANK YOU FOR YOUR LOVING ME
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