My Jeff …
They aren't doing the spinal tap. Due to his rapid decline, they feel he has days to weeks left.
They are attempting to discharge on hospice today.
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I am saddened by the news.
So very sorry.
Not cool.I am really saddened too.
I want peace and comfort for Jeff, you, and the family.
He's too damn young and his pc moved and mutated so fast. No time to relax and live in the moment day after day for at least a year or more and occasionally contemplate what the end will look like. He's delt an unlucky card and the end keeps breathing down his neck treatment after treatment.He's kept his head up the whole time looking for what was next as your many posts and pictures attest to.
What a guy. And what a family.
Diagnosis December 2020 … a measly 18 months. He has endured so much in that time, never asking “why me” or “complaining”. He has always looked for the positive and refused to stress over the things he couldn’t change. He’s one of the bravest men I know. All the men here are. My Jeff is my hero.
I saw all that you say (brave, take it as it comes, hero) from your words and pictures this past 18 months.
His eyes sometimes look in the pictures like mine do. (cancer, chemo, treatments seem to show in the eyes).
What a load to carry and yet persevere as much as he has.
You are both heroes! Bleeping cancer!
in reply to Pancake_Lefse
Indeed ,he’s a strong hero to me…kind and calm . 😔
Sending you hugs and love as you continue your journey. You are amazing and give me inspiration to continue my fight.
Oh Jesus
DarrylPartner
We are with both of you
May love, peace and tenderness surround you both. Holding hands with you and "My Jeff."
So sorry!
Sending prayers for strength and comfort.
Sad news... peace and love to you both. If I were Jeff, I would want you to hold my hand.
Heart wrenching…….. but if they can help bring him home …. Home with loved ones is probably the place we all want to be …. when it’s getting to be “ time “. That’s a good thing , isn’t it ? I’ve already been at the open doors of hospice once myself …. I know how both of you feel ….. you are an impressive , strong lady…. my mind just boggles for Jeff’s headspace. I’m so sorry.
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I know Steph will see this and just feeding off what you sad brother Kal.
I'm not particularly religious but she is an angel. That’s the word. She’s kept him and the whole family together and moving forward with every set back never freaking out or losing her bearings. Strong, supportive, loving, caring, on and on. (Come on family were all going to XXX with Jeff to have breakfast etc.)
If a higher power has anything to do with Jeff's journey that power then also inserted a strong woman like Steph into the picture to lead and up lift thru the misery.
Well said buddy …
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Aahwwww Yea man.And as you have said before it puts things (things are us) in perspective.
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CAMPSOUPS/Kaliber, I can’t tell you how much your support has meant to me.
But for the kindness of others, this journey would have been a completely different experience.
I’m grateful beyond measure for your kind words.
With love,
~ Stephanie
It still sucks that some have to burn thru here like a fuse just to remind me what I am doing here and how important to appreciate today.
You've been the kind one. Many times over.
Both of you have been such an inspiration. Peace be with Jeff, you, and your entire family.
sorry to hear this
I'm so sorry - I don't have the words to express the sadness I feel for you all. This has been so unrelenting and so fast. I can only send my love and prayers.
I am so sorry to read this. Jeff and all of your family are in my prayers.Love and peace
Graham
Such sad news. I was so hoping that he would be able to take the family on vacation next year as he had planned.
Im also so sorry for Jeff and the whole family. I would want my family by my side with my doggie on my bed resting his head on my chest at this time.
Stephanie, Your life will forever be better because Jeff has been part of it. Cherish the time you had together and whatever time you might have left. You need to know you are a blessing to so many people. Thank you for sharing Jeff's story with the people on this site, many of whom you will never meet. You truly are an inspiration and we all appreciate the updates.
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Better hospice now for whatever time remains. Just be present with each other. Bless you. Peace. Peace, Yes please. A life well lived, and with love, is to be honored and celebrated.
I've been following you since this all started... Sad to see one so young go through so much so fast and suffer so much.... Here's hoping Hospice can make him comfortable for the rest of his journey....
So much strength and so much love in your family. I hope hospice brings some peace to you all.
I'm so sorry to hear that :-(. Damn PCa taking good men!
My sincerest prayers for a long, peaceful hospice with all the family there. My hope is for a peaceful passing with the loved ones present. My bestie Bonnie has already confirmed that she will have me in hospice at her home with her and her family
Hugs from CA
Randy
Tonight on my walk I will pray the Divine Mercy chaplet for Jeff. So that he might not be frightened, and pass into God’s tender care.
Pancake_Lefse in reply to
Thank you ❤️
I've followed your posts with admiration. Peace be with you both.
He’s gone through hell already ! But , you are all by his side . He is loved! Stay strong family! 😔💔🙏
So sorry 🙏🙏🙏 for all of you…
God bless . SheilaFx
This is a sad news indeed. Hope and pray that the hospice will bring peace. You have left no stone unturned in the treatment. The very best to you all. 🙏
When all is said and done let us all remember how much worse this would have been for Jeff but for your selfless dedication and wholehearted support. Jeff has undoubtedly been incredibly brave in standing up to this implacable foe but you are a true heroine to whom few could ever compare.
You are both in my thoughts !!
Sunrise after the dark of night
Aww, you made me cry ❤️❤️❤️ Such a beautiful, thoughtful message. Thank you.
Thinking of u all xx
S sad. You are lucky to have had each other to lean on.
Jeff’s brothers/warriors from this forum salute you, pray for you, and thank you for trusting us through this journey. Two words that come to mind are perseverance and dignity- which your family has offered with love. God bless you all. 🙏❤️
Disheartening. We’re in this with you, as others have said. And you have been an example to your family and are the best of us.
Sad news Prayers and strength for you during this time a head
So sorry. You’ve been a wonderful caregiver. My prayers for Jeff and you.
You are a warrior in your beloved’s fight!You’re lucky to have each other.
My heart breaks for you Steph and Jeff and your whole family. I have just been there. I know the desperate feeling, the heartache and stress of this whole damn battle. My only advice is to love him and hug him and hold him close. Treasure every moment you have with him right now. I so wish I could just talk to my brother again. I don’t think you’ll ever get over the grief, you just learn to live with it. He will forever be in your heart. You have done so much for him. What would he have done without you? I pray when his time comes that he passes peacefully. He has endured so much, so bravely. My faith tells me that you will see him again someday Stephanie. I truly believe that. There is so much we don’t know. We can’t even figure out the damn cancer for crying out loud.
From my heart to yours Steph. God bless you.
Jeff “gets to” go first. It’s us that have to wait our turn. I don’t necessarily know what happens next, but believe it’ll be magical and we’ll be reunited again. ❤️
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🙏💔 I agree , love is eternal . We will see our loved ones again in happiness with no pain or suffering . Only joy! Hospice is mercy . Keep him comfortable if possible . 😭
So sorry to hear this news. Prayers going out for both of you!
You have been always been his light tower and beacon to shine and guide his evolving medical issues as well as this dreadful disease.True love never ever evaporates and that is your strength we and this forum admires.Through his transitional above I know he is one I truly have a beautiful courageous giving caring who was at my side unconditionally for that your are exceptional woman but also he still is the gladiator that he always and shall remain forever and ever.
xoxo ❤️
I am deeply saddened by this news. I pray all remaining days for Jeff to be peaceful, painless until he falls into the ever caring hands of the Lord. He will be surrounded by the angels in the Heaven but I am sure Stephanie, your Jeff will never forget the most caring angel he had in his life in this mundane world that is the one and only you ! Not only for him but you have also placed your thumb impression on this site as a great woman of love for all of us giving sheer inspiration with your courage and outlook. We will never forget you and your love for Jeff. May God bless you all 🙏.
Y’all keep making me cry 🙂❤️ Thank you so much
in reply to Pancake_Lefse
We are all crying for Mr Jeff! 😭
So sad…
I have walked a road much like your on with my first wife. My heart goes out to you!
Surrounding Jeff and you in love and light. ❤️
I grew up in MN and I feel a particular sorrow from reading about your tragic struggles with this disease. For you and your family I will pray.🙏
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I can't imagine what it means to Jeff having you by his side. Many people wonder if angels exist; I see one right now here on earth. Everything has happened so quickly for Jeff, and I count my blessings with the stability of my cancer (so far!), but I know that all of us will reach that time on our own carousels when it is just time to get off. I hope that Jeff can find some comfort in his remaining time and that any pain can be managed. Take care
What to say, but I am so sorry. I hate and love this forum. I hate it when one's journey is coming to a conclusion. I love the sharing and caring always on display here. As usual, I need a tissue to continue reading.
May you both find comfort and peace towards the end of his journey, knowing you did everything possible.
I am so brokenhearted to learn about this. My prayers are with you and your Jeff. I pray that he is spared from pain and anxiety. I pray foryour strength and ability to cope. You are a blessing to him..
As Jeff’s care has moved to comfort only, they have discontinued all nonessential prescriptions. They left him on his pain regimen, but also added a Fentanyl patch and Lorazepam (Ativan). The Lorazepam is for anxiety/restlessness/agitation.
He appears to be resting comfortably. He is basically nonverbal at this point, although he seems to understand at least some of what we communicate to him.
He’s just so utterly amazing … earlier this morning, our children told him they loved him. Jeff’s response was more of a string of grunts, nonetheless it was clear he managed, “I love you, too”.
The exchange made me cry.
Jeff turned towards me and for a moment, his big brown eyes were clear and focused on me. He knew I was crying and this precious man questioned me, “what’s wrong?”
Jeff always put others first and in that blip of time, he still wanted to take care of me.
Every moment of life is so precious - though happiness or sadness ! This is what I learn from your wonderful writing in all sincerity.My love and respect for you Stephanie ❤🙏.
This made me cry……. I admire you and Jeff and how you both are handling the inevitable. I cannot imagine how I will handle myself if my time is up. Thank you for letting us into this window of your life stay strong, hugs to both of you
So sorry.
Stephanie,
Time and again, you've opened the door to allow us a peek into Jeff's journey, his trials and tribulations while traveling his path. You've shared intimate details and vision of your lives together, an amazing bond and souls that share love and feelings beyond what words can accurately describe.
As a result, we have come to walk along this path with you two, and feel, get to feel, we are with you if even just in a small way. To some, it becomes larger than just words on a forum as we too feel the joys, pains and sorrows as they come to be. It's not only Jeff who has benefitted by the unselfishness, by you sharing this journey, we all do! And thanking you can never be enough...
To say I'm sorry, or feel sorrow now, to understand what and where Jeff is along in his journey, is an understatement. It is difficult to express in words how this effects myself, another warrior, standing in line, steadfast and locked arm in arm with everyone else in this battle. We are all strengthened when someone shares their success, and in contrast, are weakened when another falls! The line bows, but is not broken because of those who prop us up, support us and embolden our footsteps along the journey, by those like you!
Hearts break, and we walk a little hunched over from the weight we bear, knowing another warrior is nearing their end, or have departed. It's all our inevitability, but this is different, it's here and it's now. I can't express enough my thanks to you, for Jeff and to him, again for allowing me to have this glimpse, that little view into your lives. I wish that all the rest of the way it is gentle and smooth as the sun setting on a calm day, so that night might come as a gentle fog clears away. And that God bless you all! Love is an amazing thing and I'm so glad the two of you have this as an everlasting tribute to one another!
Love Conquers All!
So beautifully written, I will carry your words in my heart ❤️
Our thoughts are with Jeff and you and your family.
Truly a man’s man if I might say that. You have been his guiding light, his advocate, friend, and wife as readily seen by your posts. Thank you for the dedication to one of our own, so filled with admiration for you, also one of our own. Praying for God’s peace, which passes all understanding, and continued strength for you Jeff, and family. Praying also for wisdom and discernment for the hospice team caring for him.
I am so saddened by this post. The both of you have shown so much strength, always holding on to hope, managing to smile and grab all of those happy & funny & holy & sweet moments through all of it. You have shown all of us caregivers how to help and comfort our loved ones. Jeff has shown us all how to keep fighting and smile through all the darkness. Continued prayers for you both in this next stage. Prayers for comfort and strength.
Stephanie, You are like a fearless bright light that shot through here. I would like to be more like you.
As you and Jeff are entering this phase you should read the post from Cleodman as he was entering hospice a year or so ago. It may be helpful to you both.
Stay strong.
Thank you, I have read the posts from Cleodman, however, I think it’s time to revisit. I appreciate the recommendation.
Shit..........
j-o-h-n Saturday 06/25/2022 5:31 PM DST
Exactly 😞☹️
Much condolences. You've done everything possible.
Sorry to hear, my husband also is now with hospice after his 2 year battle with small cell prostate cancer. Prayers for you all during this hard time
You as well, I’m just sorry anyone must endure this. ❤️❤️❤️
I believe everything in life leads us to our greater purpose, some are so quietly spoken the words are missed, some are spoken loudly by their actions and we rise up and listen or lie down in despair. You and Jeff heard the words and thru both of you so did we. How blessed I am to know you through this, I went back from the beginning and read all your posts. You are such a beautiful writer and I clung to every word and image. Please know that Jeff and you have made a difference, you will never be forgotten and your true purpose will continue to be revealed thru it.
Thank you ❤️
Breaks my heart. I have been rooting for you and Jeff since the first day you posted on the site. You both are in all our thoughts and prayers.
Stephanie,I shall continue to keep Jeff, yourself and all your family in my thoughts. I wish you all a peaceful hospice experience.
My sister also named Stephanie, was moved to hospice (lung cancer) yesterday and thankfully I got to spend some quality time with her.
Wishing you continued strength,
Hugh
Oh Hugh, so sorry to learn of your sister’s plight, but so very grateful you were able to spend time with her. It breaks my heart that both of you are battling this monster. Sending love and solace your way. Warrior on. ❤️
Bless you and your loved ones
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