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My wonderful Father has left us πŸ€

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Nickhmcg
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My wonderful Father passed away peacefully on Friday April 22nd at 4.02pm. After spending almost 4 weeks in hospital we barely had a week at home and had to go back in as Dad wasn't sleeping, was getting increasingly confused from medication and his pain was difficult to control. 8 days in hospital and we transferred to hospice. I can't even begin to explain how incredible they were at caring for Dad. He was extremely weak and had stopped eating and drinking, was pretty much asleep most of the timeq, 4 days later he took his last breath, the hospice staff couldn't believe he held on so long. I've often heard the phrase "they are at peace now" but never truly understood it until I witnessed by courageous Dad passing away. I instantly knew he was OK. My little sister passed away as a child of 5yrs old and we just knew he was with her as he left us.

My brother, sister and I literally never left his side for the last 2 weeks of his life, always holding his hand, laughing with him and reasuring him we would be OK.

He didn't want to go, he didn't want to give up but the disease burden was too great, his bone marrow had failed, we didn't get to try the last treatment which would have been jevtana. He was taken too soon and its not fair, but nothing about cancer is ever fair.

I wish you all nothing but love and strength and thank you all so much for every piece of advice, kind words and understanding you have given me in this last 20months. You are all incredibly brave.

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So incredibly sad that your dad has passed. I am so sorry. What a blessing for him to have such a wonderful family to be with him to the end. Sending hugs to all of you

I’m so sorry. Your father lives in through you and your siblings. Peace be with you and your family in the days and weeks ahead.

I know your Dad is at peace and was very lucky to have the love and support that your family has given him.

You will all be in our prayers. Remember all the good times and know that our time here is just a brief snapshot of eternity.

"My brother, sister and I literally never left his side for the last 2 weeks of his life, always holding his hand, laughing with him and reassuring him we would be OK." Wow! Who could ask for a better death than that, surrounded by love, as he was? What a gift you have given him as he departs this world and waits for the rest of you in the next. I know how hard you pulled for him, and I know he appreciated all you did for him. I'm so impressed by the love you have shown.

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Lulu700 in reply to Tall_Allen

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It was a great picture of you two. Its just so hard to believe someone that looks so good could be so ill. I know his reunion with your sister was joyful.

It is sad when one of our own passes.

With deepest sympathy on the loss of your dear father.

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DarrylPartner

Condolences

I am so sorry for your lossπŸ’—πŸ’—

Hello, There are no words to express how sorry everyone in this community feels. Your father was very lucky to have such a supportive family and I am sure he brought a lot of joy to everyone who knew him. It is nice to know he is at peace. Take care!

Your angelic sister and beloved father are together in love in heaven now! Only joy, no more pain. My dad passed 24 years ago. A yr after an rp. But he lives inside me in my very dna. So does your father live through you . I’m happy to hear that he was not alone and surrounded by love. This is a good thing. We can’t really ask for more than that. Now you must heal

From the suffering that you all have witnessed.. life and health are important .. everything else is minor in comparison.. Thank you for caring so much for him and sharing with us this story of family love. God bless you all ! Rest In Peace your father! πŸ˜”πŸ™πŸ’”

I'm so sorry for your loss. You gave your father the gift of love, support, presence till very end and reassurance you will be fine. Now it is time to take care of yourself and start healing.

My deepest condolences for the loss of your father …. big hug out to you and the family.

❀️❀️❀️

I’m so sorry to read your Dad has passed but convinced he is reunited with your loved ones especially your sister.

When my time comes (I have just been diagnosed with stage 4 at just 52) I hope my three children will draw on the same reservoir of love and memories as you and your siblings have shown.

God bless you and thank you for sharing your journey with us, please take care.

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Lulu700 in reply to Matthew2022

Hola Matthew! I was 53 myself upon #4 dx 7 yrs ago. I am pulling for you to be around for the kids for decades ? πŸ™πŸ˜Ž

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Matthew2022 in reply to Lulu700

Very kind of you to say, thank you! Your story is massively encouraging. I’ll happily follow you into future decades of life πŸ™πŸ˜Š. Be well and take care.

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jfoesq in reply to Matthew2022

Matthew- FYI and hopefully for encouragement- I was dx just about 10 yrs ago at age 54. Seems like my Lupron and Zytiga may finally be failing me, so I will likely have to move on to the next therapy in a few weeks and hope it too is very effective for me. Wishing you the best.

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Matthew2022 in reply to jfoesq

That’s wonderfully reassuring. Lets hope your response to your next treatment is every bit as effective as the first! Thank you very much for taking the time to reach out. It’s especially poignant as we mark the passing of good men who have been taken early by this awful disease.

Wishing you and yours health and happiness.

My thoughts and prayers are with your family. Dad was lucky to have such a wonderful daughter.

Once again our deepest and sincere condolences.I truly think you were an angel at his side of deep comfort with power positive energy of love giving everything you have to make this painful transition.I’m sure your dad knows.May peace be with you on your journey and please manifest happy thoughts the life you had together

Thanks for being there….,

I’m so very sorry for the loss of your dear Dad. You and your family did such a wonderful job of caring for him and surrounding him with love. May you find peace in knowing that he is free from pain, and reunited with your little sister. Thank you for sharing his journey with us, it has helped me navigate my own father’s treatment. I will be praying for comfort and strength for you and your family. May God bless you all.

YOU are incredibly brave, and my heart goes out to you. If all men had daughters like you, we would be truly blessed men.

May your father rest in peace.

Sorry to see him go. I was following acct I had 9 taxotere treatments, Xtandi and now Xofigo . Very sad day when we lose another brother here, esp. one with same treatments and history as our own. Bless you for your loving support in his last months here on earth. As I've told my kids and brothers for years, The day I leave here, I won't hurt anymore. Now he doesn't.

My heartfelt condolences. I am so very sorry for your loss. You are a wonderful daughter and did your very best. Take care of yourself and stay strong knowing that your Daddy's love is with you always.

Sending Prayers for peace and comfort for your family! It’s wonderful to hear the peace you have with your Dad joining your Sister with the Lord!! He fought the good battle!!

I'm so so sorry to read your post. I've been following your journey with so much hope. He fought the hard fight with you by his side. He was blessed to have so much love and support. Prayers for you and your brother & sister for strength and comfort.

Very sorry about your Dad. May he rest in eternal peace. Good that you were with him to the end.

Im so sorry, I'm sure that your Dad was so proud of his children and would only want for you all to think of the happy times and love that you shared in the past before this beast entered your lives.

Your Dad is at peace now.

Our love to you and your family.

Phil

Dear Nickhmcg - my sincere condolences at your sad loss - your dad was far too young to be taken from you. He was so very lucky to have you and your brothers & sisters as advocates & supporting him till the end. I’m sure this gave him great comfort & he is now reunited with your little sister. His suffering is over & I'm sure your family will provide each other the love & support you all need. May he rest in peace.

I am so sorry for the loss of your father. He fought the good fight and was blessed beyond measure to have the love and care of a dedicated daughter.

Sorry for your loss.

Heartbreaking post , I am so sorry , your father must have felt incredibly loved by you and your brother.

Your dad was young. You gave him as much love as one can give and he was lucky to have you and your siblings at his side. My dad is much older and in a similar condition as your father was a few months ago. I am afraid he will leave us soon and I am afraid I will not know how to do what you did so generously in your accompanying him to the end.

I am very sorry to read this. My heartfelt condolences.May your dad rest in peace. Sending you love and light.πŸ™

I am deeply sorry to read of your loss.

I'm so sorry this disease robbed you and your dad of many more years together. His passing came way too soon. You fought so hard for his life and his comfort. What an expression of love.

My prayers and sincere condolences for your siblings and yourself. The love and support you gave to your father is truly humbling. May your Dad rest in peace.Love

Graham

Given the unfortunate loss, I want to express my deepest sympathy to you and your family.

So sorry for your loss.

RIP

Thank you for sharing, and I pray with heartfelt condolences for your dad and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm sure as you've mentioned that there is some comfort while being there as you all were, you know he has now passed to a better place, and a state of peace. I'm humbled by all the love you've shared and is a tribute to how wonderful a man your dad had to be!

I've made notes before on the passing of warriors and how humbling it is... How the rest of us standing in line, as fellow warriors shoulder to shoulder, can feel the weakening of our collective front in battling this disease each time a warrior falls.

How the universe has this force, a little pebble falling into a still pond, sends ripples we can all feel, even if ever so slight, not matter the distance. It means a lot when it happens. Especially when we get to know the person, if even just here. How we somehow know we are a little less in strength for a warrior is now gone.

A sad day for all.

Again, condolences and sorrow! May you all find peace!

Best Regards

Well said. πŸ‘

So sad that your Dad passed. Experiencing the death of a loved one is always difficult. May he Rest In Peace and may God give you the power to move on.

My deepest condolences. Sending you lots of love and light.

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Peace to you and your family.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m goin through the same thing with my Dad right now….God bless you and your family.

Our sympathies to you and your family. What love you showed him throughout his journey. Peace to you.

So sad, yet so wonderful that your dad had such a supportive, loving family. Condolences.

My deepest condolences on the loss of your father.

Dear Dad's loving daughter,

Your exquisite message brought tears to my eyes. You and your family did everything possible to extend Dad's time on earth, not to mention the utmost love you shared with him.

The suffering has ended, and he is now existing in peace and the company of your little sister.

You are truly an icon!

He was blessed by your love and attentions.

So glad your Daddy had you and his family beside him for love and support!I know you will miss him terribly. Prayers for you for strength and courage as you face life without your Daddy❀️

Dear daughter,I am so sad about the loss of your father. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

Away from all pains, may he rest in eternal peace πŸ™.

So sorry for his passing. He was surrounded by a wonderful loving family. He has no more pain

Surrounded by love and laughter, what could be better! Peace to you all.

Nothing greater then the love you gave your dad

Oh I am so sorry for your loss. You did everything you could for him. As a parent the scariest thing is leaving your children behind and your reassurance that you all will be ok and being there during his final time on earth is the greatest gift you could have given him. My heart breaks that you were robbed of time with him, but I truly believe that they never really leave us and we will be reunited with our loved ones one day. Take care of yourself and lean on your loved ones. Sending you love.

Hello, you must have brought your father much happiness. I am so sorry for your loss. May his memories always bring joy.

You were a blessing in his life, especially when he needed it most. Sending you Love and Light.

What a beautiful experience you gave your father by being at his side. We can only hope that we all have our family by our sides when this time comes. Sincere condolences.

My condolences. MAY HE REST IN PEACE

Prayers πŸ™

Sorry for your loss. Looks like your father had raised a great full family. Condolences to you all!

Yours is a very sad story but your response seems right. It was time, maybe past time for him to leave and he loved life and wanted to stay. Sometimes, people stay for their family and you certainly sound like a family that loved him very much.

So sorry for the loss of your dad. I am sure he will be missed but, as you said, I believe we meet up again with those we love on the other side. I wish for all of you who stood by him throughout the process will be able to start enjoying life again at some point. All dads want their children to be happy.

Take care and thank you for sharing his passing with us.

Very sorry to read about the death of your father. Way to young. I say this because he's the same age as my husband. Hold your family close and remember all of the great times. πŸ’™

So sorry for your loss but your loving family has made this the best it could ever be. Thank you for posting.

Sorry for your loss. Its always sad when we lose another to this damned disease.

Too soon but left with such love❀️We should all hope for thatπŸ™πŸ™β€οΈ

I am so sorry for your loss. Please now take good care of your self over the coming weeks and months.

Hugh

May his memory be a blessing. I am sure he loved you and was greatly eased by your care and attention.

Sorry about your wonderful Father.

I am so sorry that you have been cheated out of many memories. Cherish the ones you have. Dad may not be in a better place, but his pain and suffering is gone. I do hope you have little ones to love. They will help to endure your grief.

Your father’s loss is heartbreaking to those of us who have been reading your posts. He left us way too soon. Please accept our heartfelt sympathies. 😞

You and your siblings were so kind and caring and conscientious, your father was very lucky to have your help and to have you all by his side during his last days. May God rest his soul and bring your family peace, knowing that you did all you could. G

Sorry for your loss.

Sorry to hear that ; Condolences to you and your familia, πŸ™

So sorry for your loss...

My deepest condolences for you and your family. What a blessing that you were all able to be with him. May his memory continue to be a Blessing πŸ™β€οΈ

Your love and his courage are inspiring to all of us. Thank you.

Dear Nickhmcg,

I am saddened to read of your loss, your family's loss.

Family, friends and clergy can be helpful but--not always. At times we need to be alone with our own thoughts and memories.

We do not "get over it". We do learn to live with a loss, some better than others and some faster than others. It takes time. Be kind to yourself. Take the time you need. It can be a time of conflicting emotions, thankfulness for sharing life with the one who has passed, sadness that it has ended or even anger.

Your father left a gift to others in, you, his children, the family he raised. The love and concern you have had for your father certainly will be extended to even strangers as empathy.

I believe that you are right about your father being accompanied on his passage from this life. I have felt similar things at times as well.

Be at peace when you can.

Currumpaw

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