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He posted about going to Hospice 12 days ago and this was only 5 days ago.

If true - Rest in Peace my dear Brother. Your posts have been amusing and informative.

Suffer no more


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Another punch to the gut. For a friend I never met. But a real friend indeed for his amazing posts. If anyone knows any information about his obit I would like to read it.

Keeping an ear open for updates... no surprise, but still hurts when we lose a brother.

Damn. I guess its good it acted quickly if he was suffering. But damn. RIP brave warrior

R.I.P. ….. thanks Randy! 🙏

Moment of Silence is warranted.'ll be forever missed.

God Bless.


Tom, you helped me at a difficult time in my life. May God throw the gates of heaven open since you have already gone through the purgatory of this disease. Rest in peace and prayers for those you leave behind. 🙏🙏 Arlis

I keep refreshing this page hoping that I will read a post from Tom that would simply say "The report of my death was an exaggeration." Perhaps I'm in a bit of a state of denial.

Tom, you never said "I don't want to play the hand that I've been dealt-- I want a new hand!" You sounded tapped out in your last posts, but still bravely acknowledged that the game was nearing an end. I hope it was peaceful and that you were surrounded by your loving family. You have the love of your brothers here . . . we will miss you .

Why does "Space Oddity" keep playing in my mind?

Ground control to major Tom. I too enjoyed his insight. Rest now my brother.

I’m really sad, Tom67in MA.

Amazing that so many people connected only by this site can grow to care about each other so much. Everywhere you read and hear how awful people are. This site makes me think There are plenty of good guys still out there. RIP my friend. You’ll be missed.



Rest in Peace.

No, no Randy. Please tell us it’s not true and there’s a mistake here somewhere. He just shared that he had the mets lodging in his brain and that he’s going to do what he can to get over it. And now I hear this. I sincerely pray he is ok.

If anyone knows otherwise please update, thanks.

Thanks Randy for the alert.


Hello Did somebody remove his blog I cannot find it ? kindest Raoul

Yet another sad departure ! R.I.P Tom 🙏.

Although we never met you in person we are glad to have known you. We will carry on in your honor. 😢

So sad to hear this. We are all diminished when one of us dies.


Lost an inspiration. RIP if true.

A true warrior. R.I.P. Tom


We all learn something from each other. I'll always remember his posts and blogs about his love of running. Running gives one a sense of freedom. If Tom has moved on I can see him running to freedom, to the next adventure after this experience of life here.


If true, you have found peace, and no more suffering, Tom. Go with our thanks and admiration. 250,000 new PCa cases this year, and over 34,000 die from it.

If true, you have run the race well with courage, dignity and humor. Thank you for taking us, your brothers, along with you on your runs and mustang rides. Rest In Peace. 🥲

RIP there warrior. I so hate this enemy called Cancer, unseen but felt by so many 🙏🙏🙏🙏

So saddened to hear this… his blog was great. “Another one bites the dust”. He was too young 😔

here is a link to one of his blog entries:

I looked it up because I could not remember what BHAG meant.....

If he is gone, I think his spirit might be wandering in Vermont.....


Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG)

Peace to Tom and his family. He was a courageous guy who was willing to share his experiences to help all of us who are on this journey. May he and his family RIP. 🙏😢

RIP Brother Tom, peace to your family and friends.

Oh, Tom my brother, you're an amazing warrior forever!

Will miss Tom's blog's. Condolences to Tom's family and friends.RIP Tom!!

Like the rest of you here, I am so saddened to hear of Tom’s passing. Now he is at peace and no longer in pain. I will miss his posts here and on his blog as well as his sense of humor. Rest In Peace, Tom. 🙏Here is a screen shot of what his sister posted online.

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Kaliber in reply to Avanat

Well dang … I’ve been holding out hoping Tom was just off the air …. I’m so sorry to see this , Tom was such a great guy and inspiration. Goodbye valiant warrior. My heart felt condolences go out to Dawne, I’m sending her a big e-hug in her sorrow.

This really sucks …


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Haniff in reply to Avanat

Oh Man, Avanat. I was afraid of this. So sad.

But Avanat thank you for sharing although it breaks my heart, we have to face reality.

My sincere condolences to his loved ones.


RIP Tom. Thanks for your introspections on running and accepting this disease. One of my favorite posts:

I've been struggling emotionally with my cancer diagnosis the last few days. It's a period of relative calm as I've mostly recovered from surgery and radiation but haven't started chemo yet. Thinking positive thoughts and spending time with friends helps for a while, but it's a temporary fix and sooner or later I have a moment alone when all the fears and worries come out. It hits me that I could do everything possible and the cancer could still kill me in a few short years. Hysterical sobbing usually follows.

So what is the way forward? How do I find peace with a major health issue and so much uncertainty? One possible answer is radical acceptance. This is the idea that everything is as it should be. It doesn't mean approving of everything, just accepting it. In other words, not denying reality. It's part of the Buddhist concept of seeing everything correctly.

In my mind, it's a small step from acceptance to thankfulness, which raises the question, "Can I be thankful for my cancer?" Of course, the instinctive answer is "Hell No!", but let us consider the consequences of that answer.

Cancer is an undeniable and decidedly imperfect part of my body. If I'm not thankful for my body as a whole, then where does that leave me? Can I be at peace if I don't like my body? Everyone has to play the hand they're dealt (or in this case, the entire body, not just the hand, but I digress). My challenge is to be thankful for still being in the game and having a hand to play, even if I don't like some of the cards that are in that hand.

And while cancer is generally considered "a bad thing", there is some undeniable good that has come out of it. I didn't know how many friends I had and how much they loved me before, and for that I am truly thankful. I am slowly learning to make the most of each day even though no day is perfect, for which I am also thankful. As an example, I can't wait to run the Thanksgiving 5K tomorrow morning, and the fact that it will be super-frigid-cold will just make the experience more epic.

So my challenge to you on this week of Thanksgiving is to find something bad in your life and try being thankful for it. Look for the silver lining in the clouds. See how both the good and the bad have made you what you are today, and continue to shape who you will be tomorrow should you be lucky enough to have a tomorrow.

The astute reader will note that at no point did I explicitly express thankfulness for my cancer. I'm still struggling with that, and may decide that simple, non-judgmental acceptance is good enough. If it were that easy I wouldn't call it a challenge. -- Nov 2018, Tom-in-Motion

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GoBucks in reply to timotur

Wow-that is an awesome post by Tom. Thanks for posting it.

I agree with GoBucks comment about another “punch to the gut”. It saddens me to hear this yet it is the reality of this fallen world.

Well dang … I’ve been holding out hoping Tom was just off the air …. I’m so sorry to see this , Tom was such a great guy and inspiration. Goodbye valiant warrior. My heart felt condolences go out to Dawne, I’m sending her a big e-hug in her sorrow.

This really sucks …


Tom, you will be missed. Damn this is getting hard. So many fine souls lost to this f___ng disease. I thought if anybody could pull through it was Tom. It appears I was wrong.

Thanks Randy.

Rest in peace. You made this forum a better place for having been in it.

So sorry to hear this. Tom had an indomitable spirit through his many trials. He will be deeply missed.

Really upsetting and sad to read this news. This is another devastating day in healthunlocked. Rest in peace Tom. You were a great man and I will miss you. My sincere condolences to Tom's wife and family. Love from Graham

Did a 5k for Tom's BHAG and it turned out to be the day of his passing on 08/10😭If you're able, let's honor him with a 5k for #BHAG4Tom

I'll see you in Runner's Heaven

Fight on



#BHAG4Tom 5k Rest in Peace Sir
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farmanerd in reply to dockam

You read my mind about BHAGing for Tom. A fitting tribute. Walk, run, ride, roll -- whatever means of moving -- get out and BHAG for Tom.

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dockam in reply to farmanerd

Did a 5k on a treadmill #BHAG4Tom

#BHAG4Tom Treadmill 5k
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farmanerd in reply to dockam

My 5K mourning run. I don't Facebook, but still #BHAG4Tom.

5K mourning run for Tom.
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treedown in reply to dockam

I honored him with a 8 mike hike yesterday and a 6 mile hike the day before. No BHAG but something he would have liked for sure.

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TomTom1111 in reply to treedown

So hard to believe he's gone already.I was holding out for a few more posts..

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treedown in reply to TomTom1111

I know, so fast from last post just like henukit and Patrick Turner. Were they the lucky ones?

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TomTom1111 in reply to treedown

I don't know about being lucky but I do recognize there are no more throw away days to put in simple terms. Everyday is a bonus here on out.

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treedown in reply to TomTom1111

Just thoughts about the end. I agree everyday is a bonus day and I plan on keeping that thought the rest of my days regardless of what comes my way.

Absolutely heartbreaking 💔 My condolences to his family and everyone here on this site. RIP Tom67inMa 🙏

GrandFather North:You are the Warrior, you have ridden alongside my friends here into battle, you have also felt their love and caring when you were wounded or lonely; ride alongside of them, for now they are in this the hardest battle for their life, the battle for inner peace. Now is the time for you to care for them.

GrandFather Sky:

May your songs of the winds and clouds sweep the pain and sadness out of my friends’ hearts; as they hear those songs, let them know the spirits who are with those songs are at peace.

GrandMother Earth:

I have asked all the other GrandFathers and GrandMothers to help my friends rid themselves of the troubles that weigh so heavy on their hearts. This way, the weight they carry will be less; and they will walk more softly on you.

GrandMother Earth, from your womb all spirits have come when they return to you; cradle them gently in your arms and allow them to join their friends in the skies. If they want to hurry themselves to you, tell them you are not ready; and they must wait, for now they can pass on peace to others.

May the Great Spirit watch over you, and may you be at peace

He was a fighter. RIP brother.

Rest in Peace Brother TOM PENNY.


j-o-h-n Tuesday 08/17/2021 7:07 PM DST

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farmanerd in reply to j-o-h-n

It's taken me three or four tries to get my posts written concerning Tom's death. I've managed to get this one done on my first attempt through the showers of my tears. Thanks j-o-h-n.

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Kaliber in reply to j-o-h-n

Hey big guy …. Whare you been ?.. been too quiet here with you gone. Missed you …


Dear Warrior😢

See the above screenshot from Tom's sister :-( posted by Avanat

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TomTom1111 in reply to dockam

Thanks...i missed that post.It sure seems that the end is very quick

This is sad news. I will miss his posts here and on his blog.

I accept my cancer(s) ownership. It bears me no malice in its attempt to survive alongside my journey. It’s simply lost its way in reproducing itself,

Lesser for some, greater in others its struggle is primordial where we through our amazing discoveries shape it to sartorial. We despair for Tom and other’s horrible luck but beneath it all, we rise in a triumphant tide of victors…desperate in our collective struggle to ever leave another behind.

Really sad, he was a fighter and winner.

With deepest sympathy on the passing of another warrior.

Heartbreaking. RIP Tom

What a body blow so sad. He fought so hard. RIP Tom.

Tom-in-Motion. All my heroes are dead or dying. We will miss you.

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