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Tjc1
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I always said i would like to play guitar publicly. Before i get to sick. I dropped my guitar to raise a family(never was much good) .

I picked it back up in the last 6 or seven months. And last nite got a call to come Jam. Small crowd but had a drummer and mics and stuff. Enjoyed the crap out of it and will lead to more events i think!

Moral of this is dont forget to dream and live!

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greatjohn profile image
greatjohn

Fabulous! I wish we could hear it! Carpe diem!J

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treedown

I am jealous, and think I would like to do this at some point but doubt I will. I never dropped guitar but I was reignited upon dx and bought a new one. Its an important part of reducing stress while I work so I play almost every day.

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Tjc1 in reply totreedown

Very small group , not a paying gig or anything. I was pretty bad, little nervous. But it was cool!

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Shooter1 in reply toTjc1

Got to live the best life we can while we can...Keep it up, Life is Good.

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treedown in reply toTjc1

I understand and suspect if it was a chance to open for Dave Matthew's you wouldn't have done it. I would see it as no less exciting to do what you did. I did that once in a bar about 30 years ago and pretty sure the only people watching were the bartender and my brother. I loved it all the same. Enjoy the moment and maybe the opportunity will come again. Thanks for posting.

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Cooolone

Hahaha I kept clicking the play button!O.o

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Tjc1

Thanks everyone! Happy 4th!

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London441

That is great! I have always agreed with Alex Kapranos of the band Franz Ferdinand, who said playing in a band is ‘the greatest adventure you can have with your friends’

I have been a guitar player for the last 55 years and it’s still a thrill each and every time I pick it up.

At this point my hobby is playing in club bands in my area. This past Friday we were playing our last set in a bar when the sound guy came up and told us the Tedeschi Trucks band had just come in. They had just finished a show not far away.

We are fans so we played one of their songs and at break carefully approached them at their pool tables, not wanting to intrude. We wanted only to say hello and thanks for the their efforts and artistry.

Non factor. They were incredibly welcoming and gracious, very complimentary of us. In fact we hung out with them there for the remainder of the night.

Talking slide guitar with Derek Trucks was surreal, and the whole experience a thrill for us.

I have played all through my treatment of course (6/19-9/20), but shows were pretty exhausting in late ‘19. no performing for 18 months until recently bc pandemic. Incredible timing in that way, I got time off when I couldn’t gig anyway.

Completed my ADT last September and testosterone has come back to over 500 in the last few months.

Been feeling really good and then nights like that…just had to share. DOES NOT MATTER how late you start. You’re living your version of this corner of the dream. Keep playing!

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CAMPSOUPS in reply toLondon441

Wow. Unbelievable. But then again its the second time I have heard how down to earth, friendly Derek Trucks is.His influences run a range of many and I don't think many people realize it. From Indian Sitar to jazz you can sometimes pick it up in a so called blues tune.

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London441 in reply toCAMPSOUPS

Absolutely well said, you can definitely hear the multiple genres in his playing. He reminds me of Richard Thompson in that sense. And no surprise to hear that about his personality; they acted like they were throwing a party we were invited to.

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Boywonder56 in reply toLondon441

R thompson....beeswing ....what a wordsmith

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Tjc1 in reply toLondon441

Wow just went to their show last night in frederick Md. !!!

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London441 in reply toTjc1

I live in Washington. We played in Frederick on Friday the first of their 2 nights. Small world! Do you live up there? Where did you play ?

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Tjc1 in reply toLondon441

Played deep in the woods along the potomac river...lol. you played in Frederick Maryland? I live about 45 munites west of Frederick.

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London441 in reply toTjc1

Yes, we played at Champions off 85. We’ll be back in Frederick at Bushwaller’s on September 4th. Come and see us if you like.

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Union98 in reply toLondon441

Wow! How amazing that must have been!!! I've met Derek once a long time ago, and he was very quiet and intense.

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London441 in reply toUnion98

That’s interesting for sure. He was anything but quiet and intense on Friday night. More like friendly, relaxed and inclusive. We’re happy for him!

I also dropped the guitar when I got married and had kids, I picked it back up when the Man Made Virus struck and locked us "SICK PEOPLE" Inside for what seemed like an eternity. The Guitar was my sanctuary from the hate and political mayhem circling and cycling the events of the day.....it was F***ing groundhog day every day for 20 months. Our Nation was Purposely Divided, and put on the brink of bankruptcy ,ALL for a Political coup. Rediscovering the guitar helped me get through it. I'm still mad as hell at the Marxist takeover of America, but I'm thankful on this Independence day to still be battling this Stage 4 demon. ROCK ON Tjc1

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Tjc1 in reply to

Thanks Tommy! Yea im 11 years in...thankful for every month!

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Wow, 11 years. I'm impressed, I'm only two years 3 months since diagnosis. Stage 4 bone, lung and lymph node involvement 629 PSA and 9 Gleason in all cores. I hope one day I can profess to 11 years. Be well, and rock on

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right on..

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tomtom9148

I am a drummer and went back to college to become a teacher. The job was difficult and I had no energy or time for the drums, I played in church bands , but when I retired 7 years ago , I needed more. I helped form a band that got pretty good and played regularly in our mountain community. During my first chemo we lined up our gigs to land in the last 2 weeks, and most of the time it worked. This year got tough with the regimen I chose, Docetaxel and Carboplatin. Nasty side effects and no breaks during the 3 weeks after. Thanks to COVID-19, our gigs slowed down. Our front man had to relocate, so we are on hiatus until we find a replacement.

Yesterday, I went to the local winery to hear some friends play. I have not been mobile or out of the house much (besides treatments), so it was a treat. They asked me to come up and play! I did about 4 songs and it felt great. Cancer was gone during that time, no fatigue, nausea, or leg pain . Thanks for this post.

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Tjc1 in reply totomtom9148

Your welcome! Play on brother!

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London441 in reply totomtom9148

Being a drummer with our situation tough! Much respect. I was playing long 3 set nights with my band in late ‘19 on chemo and that was a challenge for sure. I hope you’ll play more again now, much more.

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Spyder54

Lovely escape! Go back to that space in time as you fall asleep each night. Enjoying the moments is a big part of life🇺🇸

That was a great to hear about playing the guitar, I have been playing guitar since I was 9 years old and I am 71 now, I have had some pretty awesome successes but the best one is now I am older and still in remission for 4 and half years , I now play in the nursing homes with a friend doing all kinds of music and songs and taking request ,it is the best to see the faces of the patience's when they request a song from their time and with big smiles, it makes me feel like I brought back happy memories of their past. I can remember the 60's and all the great music that came out of that era , and the great times as a young man and a musician. I say keep learning and when you play a song for someone that requested it , look at them and see the love they are sending out . it is amazing , I can't explain it but you will understand when you do it. God Bless

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Tjc1 in reply to

Thanks! Good to have all these musicians relate!

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London441 in reply to

Bobby congratulations on 4 years. I started playing senior centers, assisted living homes etc a few years back (early 60’s). Very enjoyable but I came in with a repertoire of 1930’s and ‘40’s jazz standards that my mom played when I was a little boy, not realizing in a sense how old I was.

I figured it out quick when I would come in to set up and they were watching karaoke TV and singing along. It was Ricky Nelson, Roy Orbison, Early Motown etc. Instead I was playing THEIR parent’s music as well!

So it was easy enough for me to shift to that era on request, but with plenty of the old jazz too because everybody digs it generally.

Just so funny to me when I was first struck with the realization that they weren’t THAT much older than me:)

Those are the gigs I missed most during the pandemic, and they’re slow to return where I live. Looking forward to picking it back up again for sure. Happy 4th!

Rock n brother! Music soothes the soul. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🥳

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Boywonder56

Im one who loves live music and jamming...my problem as buddy guy said ...you just gotta get your fingers to sing....well mine wont so im the sound man....love hearing the stories...my brother and few others hace been garage banding since 71 tallent show in high school.....pick on warriors

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Union98

That's awesome! Music=Life! Music has helped my husband keep his focus - until Covid, he was in a 80's cover band playing lead and I ran sound. He had to leave the band because we have an immune compromised 100% disabled son-n-law that can't be vaccinated and in our area most musicians aren't careful. It's been hard on Keith to not be in a band - and he's trying hard to find something else that can fill the void. He still plays, nearly everyday, but without the live gig pressure he doesn't have the need to stay on top of things.

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London441 in reply toUnion98

That is tough, I’m sorry for him. Hopefully the Covid continues to abate, and soon to the point your son-in-law’s is normalized. The 80’s are waiting for your husband to return!

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