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I am very sad to advise you that Mark passed away at 10:44, Monday morning on May18 from complications from prostate cancer. As you might know ,he fought a stage four diagnosis for almost eight years being originally given only three years. After a bout with sepsis from his port, he spent 18 days in the hospital and was never able to recover . He enjoyed this venue of questions and answers and found it very useful during his illness. Thank you all. Sincerely, Carole, his wife in

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16starsky

Dear Carole, words are not enough to tell you just how sorry I am to hear this awful news. My husband is also a stage 4 guy, sounds like your man was a real trouper.

All I can say is may God surround you in his love, and help you through this terrible time, may Mark be at peace now.

God Bless you and yours

Kim xx

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vandy69 in reply to 16starsky

Thank you so much for

your kind words.

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Lyubov

So very sorry for your loss of your beloved husband. He surely appreciated your loving care & support. Blessings to you & your family.

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G9doingfine

My sincere condolences. He fought hard for many years. His life beyond the initial prognosis will give countless others hope.

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Jscjac

I am so very sorry to hear the news about your husband. Peace and blessings.

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Sunlight12

Carole, I'm so sorry to hear this. What a tremendous job you both did to successfully fight the disease for so long. And yet, it never is long enough, is it? Please accept my deepest sympathies. Peace to you and your family <3

-Sunshine

I have no words.

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Tall_Allen

I'm so sorry, Carole. He was lucky to have you by his side.

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Bodysculpture in reply to Tall_Allen

Tall Allen

Bodysculpture here it was suggested I ask you this question

When diagnosed my PSA was 13.5 however my Gleason was 9

Just finished Docataxal and I am doing comparison scans this month

Prior to treatment my ribs metastatic hurt like a toothache

Te pain has subsided my is his now 1.67

I know the PSA was low when diagnosed

I am praying for a good result

Can I have your input

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Tall_Allen in reply to Bodysculpture

Good response to docetaxel! How can I help? Maybe you want to PM me?

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WayneSC

I pray that the Lord brings you peace and wonderful memories of your years together.

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Scoofer33

Dear Carole,

I can’t imagine the pain and loss you must feel. I’m so sorry to hear of Mark’s passing. I feel for you and pray that God would come beside you and uphold you during this time of trial.

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DSEE

Mark was very helpful to us. We are also in Atlanta. He responded so poignantly to me when My husband passed away just this January..

They were very much alike in diagnosis age and treatment.

My heart goes out to you.

I remember him telling me you were married 47 years? We were 45 years.

You just kind of take it a day at a time-

And find peace that the pain is gone.

We feel we raised a pretty good sum for prostate cancer research by asking for donations in lieu of flowers.

May peace be with you during this time -

I could tell he was a great man.

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garyi

RIP, Mark, after a good and noble battle.

Cherish the good times, Carole, and get on with life.

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monte1111

Just so sorry to hear. My troubles fade away and are small compared to yours. Best of wishes for your future.

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Cheerr

Carole I’m so sorry to hear this. I pray you get the peace you seek. Best wishes.

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dockam

Oh dear, another Brother taken :-(

Rest in Peace Sir and suffer no more

Hugs

Randy

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Charlesd

My sympathy to you & your family. I lost my husband 2 1/2 years ago. Our husbands fought a courageous fight. May God wrap His arms around you.

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Longterm101

God bless him. He was always very helpful. Rest In Peace

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ctarleton

Condolences. Peace be with you.

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Doseydoe

Dear Carole, please accept my condolences. It must be a very sad time for you and your family, 🙏 regards DD.

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RalphieJr64

I am so sorry to here this. He was a good friend and support system. He was a real fighter. Never give in. God bless you both.

May Mark suffer no more. There is no greater love than for caring for us fellows with pc . It’s an up hill battle that we all trudge . Give and take solace in the love that you’ve given . 🙏.....Scott

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Boywonder56

Prayers.....and may the good memories..make the quiet times bearable...

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GeorgeGlass

God Bless you. This will be a tough time for you but you surely have many amazing memories from such a great man.

Time will help you heal. RIP Mark God has you now.

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tallguy2

With deepest sympathy for your loss.

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dress2544

Condolences

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Amandaking

Your life will feel so empty but close your eyes and remember the lovely times - marks life was not defined by illness but a by a love for you - peace x

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Haniff

My heartfelt condolences Carole

Stay strong and do take good care.

Haniff

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lincolnj8

So very sorry for your loss of your husband. He was so fortunate to have you by his side. Blessings to you and your family.

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Blueiris2

I'm terribly sorry for your loss. Be strong!

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binati

Sorry to hear. The passing away of a loved one is terribly hard. My condolences.

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Sisira

My deepest sympathies to you Carole and your family. May your husband rest in eternal peace🙏 Sisira

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MMK-XFuture

So sorry to hear about your loss, Carole. Condolences and may Mark rest in peace.

My sincere sympathies and condolences to you ❤️ stay strong and bless your family during this tough time.

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Rmurchu

Carole, please accept my sincere condolences , I wish you strength In the coming months . I am sending you hugs and hope that you will take good care of yourself, it’s your time to heal ❤️

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Bodysculpture

It's always sad when one of our soldiers is called home

He faught bravely for 8 years

That's a General in my opinion

Rest now Mark

We will March on though our ranks are weaker as a result of not having Mark

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Fanger1

Mark's words...."Best Wishes. Never Give In," resonates in all of us. Sorry for your loss🙏

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Flydoggy

So sorry for your loss, hope that your good memories of your life together will help sustain you. May you be at peace.

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Wongle1

Thinking of you all xx

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Tmetz

I am very sorry. Sending prayers to you for strength and peace,

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MarkBC

Sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you have great memories to carry you through this time of grief.

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Newyork6264

May he Rest In Peace. My condolences to you v

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DarrylPartner

Condolences

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Brackenridge

So very sorry for your loss 💕💕💕

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ctflatlander

Peace be with you.

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pleinairpainter

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family on the death of your husband. He was most fortunate to have you by his side during this battle.

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Curehunter

My deepest sympathies to you. May he rest in peace and you find strength to move forward in your life.

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larry_dammit

So sorry to hear another warrior has lost the battle 😢. Hope he did not suffer. Rip 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

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leo2634

My sincere condolence .

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SooHwa99

Big, big hugs. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

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Hotrod65

Sincerest condolences to you and family for another prostate Warrior lost.

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michael00

Condolences for your loss. Take comfort knowing you made life better supporting him. May god bless and watch over you

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snoraste

My condolences. Wishing you and the family peace.

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Jackpine

Carole,

So sorry for your loss!!! Thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Armywifedublin

I am so very sorry. Many prayers to you and your family🙏🏻

We all share in your sorrow.

I saw in a post from 4 years that Mark discussed using Olaparib. Do you know how long it had worked for him? I have been on it for 15 months and PSA has now slowly risen from undetectable to 0.02 to now 0.05 within the past 3 months. I understand that average effectiveness is 9 months.

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vandy69 in reply to HopingForTheBest1

I am sorry that I don’t know about this drug. Thanks ,

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Break60

So sorry to hear the bad news. May he Rest In peace!

I am sorry for your loss as well as the loss of another brother. Please take care of yourself and thanks for taking such good care of your husband.

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rocket09

Sorry to hear that. May he live on in your heart.

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Psa73

Sorry for your loss, Carole. Condolences to you, family and friends. Mark will suffer no more.

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MeliaQuinn

I am so very sorry to hear of the passing of your husband. Be gentle with yourself as healing is a process. I am wishing you and your family strength during this time.

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Jmr11820

I’m sorry. Peace be with you and the days ahead.

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elainea53

I am so sorry. May you be comforted.

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RonnyBaby

Thanks for being a key support to a loved one, who will be missed.

This non-discriminating disease affects so many.

May God bless ....

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Magnus1964

Words cannot express our sorrow.

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Nirman

Very sorry to hear about your loss. May his soul rest in peace. My Prayers . Stay strong

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dadzone43

Carole, he was blessed to have you on the team. May your grief last only as long as you need it. Your grief is a measure also of your love for him.

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huntergolfer

Very sorry for your loss. May god watch over him, and you and your family at this difficult time.

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Jamtu27

I'm very sorry for your loss! The death of a beloved spouse is a heavy burden to bear, but God's infinite love can provide comfort and strength for the journey.

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Rocketman1960

May our Lord bless and keep you Carole until we are all united again. RIP Brother Mark.

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keepinon

So sorry for your loss. He fought the good fight. May his soul rest in peace. Peace be with you

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Lt036

So sorry. God bless you and your family

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Currumpaw

vandy69,

Sad to read your post. My sincere condolences. Thank you for taking time to inform us on HU. Do not forget to take the time you need for yourself. It is never easy even when expected and sometimes hoped for just to end the pain. I've been there, watching and waiting. Remember to care for yourself.

Currumpaw

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blueCello

Dear Carole, I am truly sorry to hear your sad news. It sounds like he fought hard for his life and now you must remember those wonderful times together. Wishing you peace.

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Tkwham

Carole, I was stunned by the news about Mark. As you know, we became “buds” at Hampton, and I made every attempt to stay in touch without being a nuisance. I enjoyed every minute talking with Mark and my only regret is that I had not met him sooner. I loved his attitude and knowledge about our situation (s). Please accept our condolences-Tom W.

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vandy69 in reply to Tkwham

Hi Tom, Mark really enjoyed your friendship and joy of life . He also wished that you had connected sooner, but really enjoyed your phone calls. He fought so hard for so long , but in the end he was in such pain that as hard as it is to let go, this was the kindest thing for him. Thank you for your friendship! He is in a much better place .

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Gary64

So sorry Carole. RIP Mark.

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Bunkerboy

May Mark RIP🙏🏻 My deepest condolences Carole. God Bless you🙏🏻

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Captsquid2u

So truly very sorry for you, I feel your pain. Cherish your memories and the love he shared with you. 💔💔💔💙

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strummer

So sorry for your loss.

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j-o-h-n

Mark is with the angels now... He was with us here at H U for four years. He is free of his pain and worries and can now enjoy his time with all of his passed friends and relatives. Carole, May God watch over you, your relatives and friends. And don't forget Mark will be watching you..."Life to the living".....

ps. I always wondered why Mark used vandy69 as his userID?

j-o-h-n Sunday 06/14/2020 5:11 PM DST

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Collarpurple

I am so sorry for your loss , he gave it such a Gallant fight. This horrible C is Relentless and just keeps pounding and pounding On husbands,

And men in our life. Each time we go in for a test we hold our breath for our man and pray , let it be good🙏 May God hold you so tight and help you and family in all the yrs

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immunity1

my sympathies from the other side of the globe. R

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Vitaminlover

Oh Carole, so very sorry for your loss. This is what we all fight against every single day.

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dmt1121

After reading all your posts over the years, it is obvious that you and your husband went through a lot. Your determination and research is why he was able to live so long. While I am sorry he has left you and other family members and friends, it sounds like it was really getting hard for him and for you also.

I hope you find the time to grieve and have many great memories of times spent together. At some point, it will be time for you to begin living a new chapter that I hope brings you all the joy, and adventures you have dreamt of.

I think every man here wishes that for their spouse, and significant other who spent so much time helping them through an illness that would have been impossible without them (You). We want you to live your life and be as happy as possible!

All the best to you.

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Jlaine

My sincere condolences to you and your family! May Mark rest in peace!

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Rayjr43

Carole, I send my love and prayer your way. I am in year five of the stage four battle and very fortunate to have my family’s help. Your husband was blessed to have you by his side. Ray

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benninger

So very sad to hear this. Prayers for you and your family.

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SPEEDYX

May the beautiful memories fill your future day's....and may God's love strengthen you!!!

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sujkap

Peace to his soul and strength to you.

🙏🙏🙏

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gleason9guy

May he go in peace, love, and the light of he world.

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Peterd110

I’m so sorry, Carole. I pray the Lord gives you and your family comfort until you meet again.

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konichiwa12

I am so very sorry for your loss Carole. My thoughts are with you.

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LifeWorks

Carole, Thank you for letting us know about your husband's death. My heartfelt condolences on your loss, and I offer my prayers for you and your family in this very difficult time.

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henukit

Dear Carole, I'm very deeply sorry for your loss. No words can heal wounds of such life events. I'm currently in position of your husband - at the edge. The words I tell to my wife, love of my life with whom I spent 5 best years are: "Life goes on, and life is beautiful in all its facets. This will not break you and you'll find peace. I want you to be happy and will always remember your smile. " RIP Mark.

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