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PCa, does it make us asexual

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Our intimate relationship with our partner after PCa diagnosis.

I've been told by my doctor, PCa makes us avid non sexual, because we feel this. But is this true, does our Testosterone treatment really makes us asexuality?

No!

We are in command, PCa does not define us, it's a disease, our life is much more than this.

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LearnAll

Dark E....Many people confuse sex with true intimacy...Sex is just one expression of intimacy.

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Deeper emotional connection and harmony with your partner is real intimacy and it has an almost divine nature. Some people just get stuck at physical sex level and never grow up.

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DarkEnergy in reply to LearnAll

Yes, we have that, it's just I'm not fulling more, it's not easy to accept this way. It's of no choice to me, i'm no longer a normal man, I'm trying, you are so kind...

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LearnAll in reply to DarkEnergy

DE....Its how you define "being a man"

My definition of manhood is.."someone who is a caring human being who tries to have emotional strength, helping attitude and truly admires and loves his wife/girlfriend and does things to make her happy each day."

Many women have told me that they are happy if there is emotional intimacy and mutual respect...and sharing ...sex for them (esp after age of 40 ) is like a side dish and not the main course.

in reply to DarkEnergy

You’ve still got a human heart and most of us need the human touch . I sure do.. be close to her .. I had friends that had Ed and didn’t even have pc . You ain’t alone .

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Karmaji in reply to LearnAll

Most divine is connection with dance of life......

It is always timeless and joyful

in reply to LearnAll

Intimacy is divine .. losing that is the greater loss than just sex.

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DarkEnergy

Hi my brother, we go way back, you know that, thank you, we still have our manhood, I still have the goods.

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DarkEnergy

So what, the Yankees got their way, for being stupid of knowing this afterwards, they deserve to be losers!

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westof

As an avid Yankee fan, I couldn't agree more! This year, the infield and outfield are tight.

Just a bit worried about the starters.

Best

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westof

Hmm...

I tend to agree with to you. Been on ADT for over a year and I still have an eye for the ladies (including my "darling wife of 46 years")!

However, I've retrofitted my wardrobe. Slim fitted jeans (I'm down to 5"10, 160 lbs), Colorful shirts( not gaudy!) and a variety of Lands End accessories.

Hmm...

This recent post may help to explain my current attitude:

healthunlocked.com/advanced......

Best

in reply to westof

The ladies mam😂

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westof in reply to

Hmm... Jeez Scott, don't rub it in! Although, you may be right. These days, I look in the mirror (at my 71 yo withering face) and start humming the Julie Andrews song,"I feel pretty"!

Best,

AJ

in reply to westof

If ya can’t beat em , join em! I’m a sensitive bitch sometimes . A real pussy at others . I try not to look in to mirrors and keep the lights dim.. my doc says I look great . But this one didn’t know me before treatments. We will follow this path to its end. Que sera sera .im channeling Dorris day 😂

That’s a man baby!

youtu.be/WgOIEGz7o_s

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Tall_Allen

Most men have zero libido with zero testosterone. Richard Wassersug has written eloquently about the embracing the eunuch identity:

tikkun.org/embracing-a-eunu...

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Jimhoy

The common denominator is _____________.

I thought a Yankee was for when your wife wasn’t in the mood!,

in reply to Jimhoy

Yankee has lost its charm .I think I’d rather jump off a cliff than yank off.

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Jimhoy

asexual. [āˈsekSH(o͞o)əl]

ADJECTIVE

not involving sexual activity, feelings, or associations; nonsexual.

"he led an asexual life" · [more]

NOUN

a person who has no sexual feelings or desires, or who is not sexually attracted to anyone.

Sooooo

No..... PCa in and about itself does not (in my opinion).

YES..... ADT is another story.

ED and the absence of libido clearly determines our wants and needs!!

To the extent that I found it effects my romantic normals. I found myself having to remind myself to kiss and hug my wife of 44 years.

I’ve never been a cheater but I didn’t even look anymore.

Good news, as ADT goes away, as does this emasculating condition!!! Maybe not the equipment yet but the will!!!!

Jc

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DarkEnergy in reply to Jimhoy

Well, I've always been a leg man, and still got it. My wife is a bit younger and looks great. If she initiates intimacy, I do get the feeling, besides zero Testosterone.

I've started taking Sildenafil on a weekly basis, even if away on travels - Roman makes it affordable and a breeze with prescriptions.

Perhaps mind over matter...

It’s true...depending on the individual..I’d blame treatments especially adt and the resulting castration. I was very sexual prior dx but now after almost five years of adt the truth is that even the idea of sex doesn’t cross my mind.. I can perform at night . All I have to do is convince my wife to come to my side. We’ve built the Berlin Wall between us .. She wraps us like a cocoon on her side. On mine I’m always nude night tripping to pee followed by a night sweat . I purposely separate as not to disturb her. I pee 7 times a night. It interrupts sleep. Between the high thc melatonin and naltrexone prior to bed I’m an avid dreamer waking with a piss hard on all night long driven thru the jungle being chased by the cia or irs or the devil himself . My dreams vanish when I wake . Can’t remember them. That’s probably a good thing. So whatever sex was to us it will not be that again . I’m working on being intimate and hoping she comes back to me . Good luck brother . Go 9 ers !

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henukit

Perhaps part of it in our heads, not only in our nuts. We're still shagging after two years of ADT, radiation, two chemos, and zero T. Not that often as used to but still probably more than MO judging from his face expressions during the follow up visits when we go over standard questionnaire. :)

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DarkEnergy in reply to henukit

Do you take ED pills?

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skiland

I totally agree. My sex drive/attraction for sex is non-existent but I also have non-existent erection thanks to my doctors ineptitude in doing robotic prostatectomy!

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