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My Daddy finished his journey on 4th July

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After a lot of choices that life gave my father since the May of 2017, he finished his journey on 4th July 2019. With me, my mom, my siblings, being around him more than ever in this time span- he made us love him and back much more than ever. With the little energy that he had a day before his death- im glad he spoke his heart out. He has been a wonderful father and i can not imagine my life without him. Though i am sure, the world he is in now is perfect, bright and very comforting.

To his journey ahead- Om Shanti! πŸ™

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LearnAll profile image
LearnAll

We are all in this cycle of life and death..Our journey thru this world has to end so we can merge back with our creator. Your father's soul is in an extremely peaceful state ...liberated from this cage..what we call body. Wishing you enough strenghth to understand wisely, accept and grieve this loss.

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Thanks LearnAll

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Magnus1964

I am sorry for your loss. We all feel the loss when one of our own passes.

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Thanks Magnus1964

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dockam

I'm so sorry to hear of another Brother take. My sincerest condolences to you and the family. Rest in Peace Sir and suffer no more😒

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Thanks Dockam

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CantChoose

I'm so sorry. I wondered how things were going for you. I hope there is comfort in all being together and knowing you gave your father what he wanted by being there with and for him. Peace.

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Thanks Cantchoose for thinking about us

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Tonyland

Hi there,

I lost my dad a year ago July 4th to this horrible disease. It was really a ride and me, my mom and brother were with him during his transition.

You and your entire family are in my prayers. I have been in the exact spot you are in right now. Find perfect peace in knowing you served him until the end. It's what I cling to, to get thru.

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Summmβ€’ in reply toTonyland

Thanks Tonyland. I hope you and your family found your peace too!

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j-o-h-nβ€’ in reply toTonyland

I think by now your DAD has adjusted to his wings and learned how to play the harp. God Bless him may God keep his memory alive forever.

j-o-h-n Sunday 07/07/2019 6:29 PM DST

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Tonylandβ€’ in reply toj-o-h-n

Awww thank you John. I needed that and I sure hope so. Funny, my dads name is John. I still refer to him in the present.

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HOPEFULSPOUSE

So sorry to hear. Sounds like he was a wonderful father - he was fortunate to have you as well. Holding you close in my meditations and prayers. Namaste.

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Thanks Hopefulspouse

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Tall_Allen

There's nothing like imminent death to get us to focus on the things that really matter. I'm glad you had that special time together at the end.

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Agree Tall_Allen. Thanks

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YostConner

I’m so sorry for this, though I’m glad he found peace. My warm wishes to your entire family.

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Thanks YostCorner

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gleason9guy

I honor a man who is loved so much by his family. My prayers go out to you all.

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Thanks Gleason9guy

I have felt your loss in my life and wish the memories of your father brings a smile to your life - bless you and your Dad.

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Thanks JorgeW

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TNCanuck

I'm very sorry for your loss. May your memories bring you comfort.

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Thanks TNcanuck

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Summm

Thanks Nalakrats for your prayerful words and all the advise that you ve shared for my father in the past!

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Costarica1961

I am so impressed by the love one man generated in one life. How fortunate, you all are to have known him and honored to have loved him. Cherish those memories of a life lived well.

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Summmβ€’ in reply toCostarica1961

Thanks Costarica1961

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Schwah

I am a father with this terrible disease who has a daughter who like you, loves me and is with me often. I am certain your father felt like I, what a lucky man he was to have helped create a child to continue his legacy and who loved and cherished him. And like I , his greatest wish would be for you to feel thankful that you could be with him and for you to live your life now as best you can. He will be there for you in spirit I am sure. God bless you and your family .

Schwah

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Summmβ€’ in reply toSchwah

Thanks Scwah! I am sure my father would want that... bless you

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keukalake

He lives on in your memory ...

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Thanks

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Cheerr

Hi

Summm,

I am sorry for your loss. Be proud of everything you have done so far and will continue to do in honor of your dad. God bless you and your family and give you all the strength to cope up.

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Summmβ€’ in reply toCheerr

Thanks much Cheerr

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Currumpaw

One of life's greatest gifts, loved ones near when that time comes. Although it hurts to be there while death occurs, your family, his family, gave life meaning and value to him at his time and now, his memory for all of you to continue.

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Summmβ€’ in reply toCurrumpaw

Thanks Currumpaw. Agree- being around him around the time he was crossing over gives a little relief

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Tippler

The final destination is the one that counts. I have a daughter like you and a loving son. Jesus is my Lord and Savior and I know that everything will OK with us(your father and many of us). I am not going to miss the many ugly things in this life. May God rest him in peace!

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Summmβ€’ in reply toTippler

Thanks Tippler. Im glad you have loving children.

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siouxbee19

Sending up prayers for peace and comfort...πŸ™

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Thanks Siouxbee19

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jgmcbride

Sorry to hear that. Hopefully your fond memories of him will carry you through these troubled times.

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Thanks jgmcbride

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dadzone43

He was blessed by your love and vice versa. He goes in grace on his pathway.

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Thanks dadzone43

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ronnie1943

So very sorry for you and your family.. I'm sure he will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved him.

No more pain and suffering.

Sincerely

Lynn

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Thanks Ronnie1943

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larry_dammit

😒😒 go in peace πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

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Thanks larry_dammit

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Litlerny

I’m truly saddened to hear about your father’s passing. His journey here on earth is completed. His eternal Heavenly journey is just beginning. It was wonderful he was able to express his love for you and your family, and feel your love in return. Today (Sunday) I will keep him, and your family in my prayer requests at church. May God bless you all and bring you comfort.

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Summmβ€’ in reply toLitlerny

Thanks much Litlerny for keeping him in your prayers and for your kind words.

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JuanVV

Sorry for your loss, lots of light to you.

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Thanks Juan VV

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whatsinaname

My heartfelt condolences. Your dad will not be in excruciating pain and suffer any longer.

Thankfully, he didn't have to go through this crap for another year or two. I am sure your mom, siblings and yourself will have the courage to bear this loss.

Om, Shanti, Om !!

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Summmβ€’ in reply towhatsinaname

Thanks whatsinaname. No more sufferings is the only solace

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Tua32427

My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry for your loss. I just lost my dad to prostate cancer on june 5th. He battled for 10 years. Cherish the memories and the fact your dad was surrounded by all that love!

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Thanks Tua32427

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j-o-h-nβ€’ in reply toTua32427

I apologize for missing your post regarding you Father's passing. I would like to add my condolences to the many you received from the members of this unique and compassionate group of fighters. May your Dad rest in peace with the memory of his family who loved him and most of all the wonderful times you shared together. God Bless your Dad and your entire family. It's wonderful that you continue to post here and we need you more than you'll ever know.

j-o-h-n Sunday 07/07/2019 6:44 PM DST

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Summmβ€’ in reply toj-o-h-n

Thanks John... ill surely visit and keep posting on this page - for someone like my dad might be looking for some words of comfort -may be.

This has been a wonderful little group with most compassionate and helpful souls being a part of it. I really feel sad though - why such lively and lovely people must go through it

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benninger

So very sorry for your loss. We will keep him and your family in our prayers. Peace and love

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Thanks Benningner

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Pierreb

A am so sorry to hear about your father. He is very fortunate to have such a loving family. I too believe that death is not the end but the beginning of another journey. May god bless you, your family and father. Om Shanti! πŸ™

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Thanks Pierreb. Om! Om!

Very sorry for your loss--

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kikepana

We are never ready when we lose a parents. Rest In Peace. πŸ™

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I am so sorry for your loss. We are all in this group to provide support for each other just as much as to gain information to try to help our own loved one dealing with this terrible cancer. I hope this group did provide you with friendship and support as well as information. You will always have your Daddy in your heart and in your memories.

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Summmβ€’ in reply tokick-prostate-cancer

Thanks kick-prostrate-cancer.

Indeed this group was a great support at many levels. My heartfelt gratitude to each and every member of this group for all the words/advice/guidance/support/hope/ prayers/willingness and kindness they ever offered and the admin too for building this up. Bless each and all! Om!

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Zetabow

Sorry for your loss, he sounds like a great father. Looking back on family members I've lost, it always seems that cancer takes the best of us away. Keep hold those fond memories and special moments, for he still lives within you. This is something I've told both my boys (10 and 9 years), I am part of them and will always be with them.

2 years is quite quick from diagnosis, was he very advanced or just didn't respond well to treatments?

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Summmβ€’ in reply toZetabow

Thanks Zetabow. I am sure your boys adore you for your love and learnings they seek from you.

Yes he was diagnosed advanced metastatic with lymph nodes and bony involvements. Also he didnt respond well to any treatments starting from Hormones, chemo, Xtandi, Lutetium... nothing. The disease came back with an aggression each time.

Sad. Sending my condolences and love and hugs. God bless you πŸ™

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Thanks cloc

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monte1111

So very sad for you and yours. Never are there words at a time like this. Hug your loved ones. And then make some memories. May peace be with you.

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Thanks monte1111

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Collarpurple

May all the memories help. It’s so hard when a parent dies and not all the words in the world

Will stop the painπŸ˜ͺ For me it was remembering the silly things my dad did and some of things that he said that made me smile and made each day a little easier sometimes when I was having a bad day I would see something out of the ordinary that was just about my dad I keep thinking that’s him saying kiddo I’m OK Look for those signs because your dad wants to make sure you and your family OK

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Summmβ€’ in reply toCollarpurple

Thanks Collarpurple for sharing your experience. Its heartwarming. Blesss...

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BadNews4me

Summm, life is but a journey we all make. At some point we all reunite and I know your dad will be waiting with open arms.

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My god bless you here on earth and your father in eternity .. My dear brother Mike passed away at 63 on the 2nd ... from a heart condition .. My sympathy .. Your love for him is also eternal .. Peace to you the loving daughter.. Scott from Az.🌡

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LuLu, I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your brother Michael. At 63, my goodness that was in the prime of his life. You know that I'm into humor, but this time I must be serious and extend my condolences to you, your family and to your brother's family. God Bless you all.

j-o-h-n Sunday 07/07/2019 7:04 PM DST

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Thank you , God bless you j-o-h-n

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Thanks Lulu700. 63 is really the prime time of life. My dad too left us at 64. I am sure your brother has found eternal bliss and peace. Wish you and family great strength

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Thank you ..take care..

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JazzMan42

Sadness for his passing, but happiness in remembering his life.

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Thanks JazzMan42

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afab

I’m thankful that you and your dad were in my path for a short time. You’re someone I would want at my bedside in my final days. He was blessed. Blessings to you. Art

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Summmβ€’ in reply toafab

Thanks afab.. your note left me teary-eyed. Bless you with all the love of your loved ones

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Vitaminlover

So very sorry for your loss but your wonderful memories of him will live on.

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Thanks Vitaminlover

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Jamtu27

So sorry for your loss, but your father is in a place where pain and suffering don't exist. Hold on to all the happy memories for sustenance.

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Thanks Jamtu27 for your hopeful words

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jedgar1

I am so sorry for your loss.

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Thinus

Thank you for this beautiful letter. We in this journey, need people and love like you. Your dad was privileged to have a wonderful family around him. May God comfort and bless you in His own good time.

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Thanks Thinus. Bless you and healing light for you.

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j-o-h-n

Nothing like a Dad... (Mom too of course).... His loss is actually his gain. No more suffering and battling that evil cancer. He will be enjoying eternity knowing that he had a wonderful and loving family. He will continue reading these posts and his heart will be expand just reading today's posts. God Bless him and God Bless you all for being a loving family.

j-o-h-n Sunday 07/07/2019 6:59 PM DST

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Summmβ€’ in reply toj-o-h-n

Thanks John for your comforting words. Nothing like Dad.... absolutely nothing and no one. i am sure he is watching, reading through with peace and a smile.

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bluephi

I an so sorry to hear of your loss. Your father is in a better place now. May God bless you and your family.

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Thanks Bluephi

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Longterm101

God bless you and your family. We are all here for you!

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Thanks Longterm101

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Bunkerboy

My deepest condolences to you and your family. God Bless.

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Thanks Bunkerboy

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jfoesq

Such a nice statement from a loving daughter reflects what a wonderful man he must have been. I am sorry for your loss.

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Thanks jfoesq.

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Kobina

I also lost my husband June 20th to this dreaded disease! It was totally awful he was diagnosed 2 years almost to the day! The last 6 weeks where the worst days of my life seeing him suffer soooo much. I feel your pain and am sorry for your loss. The only thing now is to be thankful they are no longer in agonizing pain!

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Summmβ€’ in reply toKobina

Sorry to know about your loss. It isnt easy to let loved ones go niether to see them in pain.

Good for them, if ot comes to it but the void left ... is always going to pain.

I wish you strength and perseverance in this difficult time

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j-o-h-nβ€’ in reply toKobina

Dear Kobina and family,

Your poor husband went through a lot of pain in the last two years. His pain is finally gone but his spirit and love for you and your family lives on. May he enjoy eternity knowing that you and your family loved him and stood with him during his fight against his cancer. I went back and re-read your previous post about you crying a river during his last few days.

You will continue to cry but those tears will slowly fade away but your memory will always be with him. During the passing years I still think of my family members who are gone but not as often as I used to. Time heals all wound but always leaves a scar. God Bless you all.

j-o-h-n Monday 07/08/2019 4:53 PM DST

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Kobinaβ€’ in reply toj-o-h-n

Thank you

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Lettuce231

You will see him again, sweetheart.

Our love to you.

Phil x

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Summmβ€’ in reply toLettuce231

Thanks Lettuce231. Love and healing light back to you

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sujkap

I write to you while I sit at my dad’s bedside in the hospital at New Delhi , wondering if we are soon reaching the end of the road. Diagnosed with advanced PCa, Gleason 8 in June 2017, we are 2 years down the road of treatment. Firmagon gave a great one year, thereafter Xtandi, Honvan and Zytiga have all but failed. Not a candidate for chemotherapy due to advanced age. With blood transfusions needed every month to maintain his haemoglobin and keep him alive, we are thankful to have him.

The suffering is too great, I hope we will have the courage to let him go when it’s time. Meanwhile I also hope we go home for a few more happy days together.

God bless your family. Peace to all.

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Summmβ€’ in reply tosujkap

Thanks sujkap.

I can feel what you are going through.

It isnt an easy road to take but niether to see them suffer everyday.

Please take your dad home well in time, i am sure you all will be happy to be home together.

I am around new delhi too, pls call me 9050313540- if there is anything i could do.

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caretkrβ€’ in reply tosujkap

Prayers with you and family.Its not easy to see loved one suffer, do take him home if possible for some time. God Bless you

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Survivor1965

I am so very sorry.

John

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Thanks John

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MelaniePaul

I am so very sorry for your loss but relieved that your dad is no longer suffering and that you made the most of your time together and that he was able to talk to everyone before he died.

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Summmβ€’ in reply toMelaniePaul

Thanks MelaniePaul. Those words of his will always stay in my heart.

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caretkr

God bless you and family. Sorry for loss but good to know you were together in his journey. May he rest in peace. Hang on to those loving memories and be strong.Love..

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Thanks caretkr! πŸ™

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Je1234

Please accept my deepest condolences. I too lost my daddy on March 2nd this year.

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