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Depression and Prostate Cancer

As if there's no pressure for us APCa-ers.... there seems to be a direct physical - yes, PHYSICAL, not just emotional - link between depression and PCa spread: ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/295...

Since it's Valentine's Day...er, week....and I luv ya...here's a reminder to not forget your mental health, gents! Take a break from the numbers and the always-present whirlwind of our predicament and do something positive. One simple recommendation is to read a joke or two by brother j-o-h-n here on the site...okay, yah, he's got some groaners! ;) ..... or the other talented fellows here! Cheers. - Joe M.

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A great thought....it is hard to get your mind off the beast.... indeed, do something fun with your significant other/ spouse on VD.... and.......

Live--Laugh--Love

Fish

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I have a basically optimistic, upbeat nature so this is something I've never been troubled with. I always try to find something to be happy about. And do something nice for somebody else. That will really buck you up!

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Great advice, Steg. Often we feel that PCa and ADT strips us of a lot of our fundamental identity. I disagree...we're in here somewhere, and we just have to look. I don't want to sound too mystic, but sometimes reaching out allows us see inside.

(Hmmm....sounds suspiciously like something I heard watching "Lion King" with my daughter years ago...)...

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Interesting and I guess it makes sense but where did they find the depressed mice to research this ?😁

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They only selected the married ones... (groaner)

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Wednesday 02/13/2019 2:28 PM EST

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That is off the friggin' charts funny....

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A+, WSOP!

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WSOP and j-o-h-n make a good team. That's what I like - 2 laughs in a row. My dad's 1st name was Vernon, middle name Dale. VD. He hated that.

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I’m hooked on our great American humorist Mark Twain.When I read Tom Sawyer and Huck fin as a kid I thought I was Tom and Huck. Here’s one for you “ The only reason god created man was that he was disappointed in the monkey”” Mark Twain

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At 49 my friend that was one hell of a blow for young man .. I was 53 and took demasculation hard. you’re attitude is remarkable... depression kills...many choose anti-represents to be able to cope.. You’re correct -j-o-h-n is a remarkable man ..one in a million. He’s got it right.. Thanks for this post.. I ve had some depression in life before APC . APC has amplified this. My first two years were terrible. Now I rarely go down too far. But I still have my days. Thank for this post...

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Thanks and you're welcome, Lulu. Although this next one is very a la j-o-h-n (and I don't want to steal his mojo), it is also I joke I used to think verrrry funny a few years ago.....

Joe had suffered from really bad headaches for the last 20 years. He eventually decides to go and see a Doctor. The Doctor said, “Joe, the good news is I can cure your headaches. The bad news is that it will require castration. You have a very rare condition, which causes your testicles to press on your spine and the pressure creates one hell of a headache. The only way to relieve the pressure is to remove the testicles.”

Joe was shocked and depressed. He wondered if he had anything to live for. But he had no choice but to go under the knife.

When he left the hospital, he was without a headache for the first time in 20 years, but he felt like he was missing an important part of himself. Yet, as he walked down the street, he realized that he felt like a different person. He could make a new beginning and live a new life.

He saw a men's clothing store and thought, “That's what I need... A new suit.” He entered the shop and told the salesman, “I'd like a new suit.'

The elderly Tailor eyed him briefly and said, “Let's see... size 44 long.”

Joe laughed, “That's right, how did you know?”

“Been in the business 60 years!” the tailor said. Joe tried on the suit it fitted perfectly.

As Joe admired himself in the mirror, the salesman asked, “How about a new shirt?' Joe thought for a moment and then said, “Sure.”

The salesman eyed Joe and said, “Let's see, 34 sleeves and 16-1/2 neck.”

Again, Joe was surprised, “That's right, how did you know?”

“Been in the business 60 years.” Joe tried the shirt and it fitted perfectly.

Joe walked comfortably around the shop and the salesman asked, “How about some new underwear?” Joe thought for a moment and said, “Sure, why not?”

The salesman said, “Let's see..... size 36.”

Joe laughed, “Ah ha! I got you! I've worn a size 34 since I was 18 years old…”

The salesman shook his head, “You can't wear a size 34. A size 34 would press your testicles up against the base of your spine and give you one hell of a headache...”

Like all of us here, I was flattened by my diagnosis. But, you know what? One day I realized that this joke is still funny to me...even funnier now because I - unfortunately - really, really get it. I think a person can do one of four things with personal anger and resentment: 1. Ignore them until you explode, 2. Make peace with them, 3. Take them out on others, or 4. Put them in perspective and laugh at them. I tried the first two and I wasn't strong enough for either. I won't do the third.

So I do the fourth, and even on hard days I laugh because now it is simply habit. People think it's amazing, but it's not - it's an honest coping mechanism.

The joke also highlights why I am here in this forum now - because maybe someday there will be an alternative to what we are going through.

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“Yet, As he walked down the street he realized he felt like a different person.” Halarius ! ....Been down that street . In recent memory, and I have the newly formed Mamories to prove it. #1 was bad for me , but #3 has been my sin many times in life. Now I’m going #4’s.. Nothing can stand against humor . A great gift you posess and now share with me. It’s been a great day pour moi.. I’m with your same motivation here on HU . Try to bring others up out of the mud thus lifting myself up also some. I’m a work in progress for sure. Completion date yet to be known. Many have guestedmated my timely demise.. If I can’t laugh about that , I ain’t shit. If you live through a little hell you’d better appreciate being . I chose the ol snip snip. It was not required. My life has been that path less taken..seen some bumps along the way, seen some heaven and hell right here on earth , as most of us have. Right now I have heaven on earth sitting right her next to me on the couch. Been a great day today.Due to humandkinness.. Thank God for every smile in life. 🙏

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You have depth my friend. Thank you

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Please engrave that in stone so I can present it to my wife! ;)

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She already knows...🤙🏼

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