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On January 4, 2019, I lost my husband of 34 years. It was a long 3 year battle with so many highs and lows. Last year was definitely the most challenging. Thank you all for sharing your experiences.

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softwaremom00 profile image
softwaremom00

I am so sorry for your loss. Lots of hugs and prayers for you.

Softwaremom

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greatjohn

so, so sorry for your loss. Try to remember the "highs" and forget the "lows".

John

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dockam

I am so sorry to hear of his passing, my sincerest condolences and prayers for you and the family. This had been a horrible span in which we've lost too many to this d*mn cancer.

Hugs - Randy

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Sanpatricia

I am very sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family. Hugs

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YostConner

I am terribly sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace. Yost.

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Tall_Allen

I'm sorry for your loss. Three years can take a lot out of both of you, and I'm sure it will take some time to recover from that experience.

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AlanMeyer

You have my sincere condolences and my best wishes for you and the family.

Alan

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NPfisherman

May God preserve and strengthen you and yours at this time of great grief and sorrow...

God bless you,

Fish

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Tub111

My deepest and heartfelt sorrow for you...please like others said remember the high/good times. it’s what is getting me through my recent loss as well. Love and prayers to you and your family. He suffers no more ❤️

Sheri

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benninger

So very sorry for your loss. God bless you and try to remember the highs and love.

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Tjc1

So sorry to hear. God Bless

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Jscjac

I am so very sorry for your loss. Peace and blessings.

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Emmett50

I’m so sorry for your loss. Peace be with you.

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Carmen2

We send you our deepest condolences. God bless you and your family. It's really tough to lose a loved one in any circumstances, but an illness like this beast brings special hardships. May you find peace.

God bless you and yours

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dress2544

So sorry to hear the passing away of your beloved husband. Heartfelt condolences.

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wifeofvet

my husband flew away one year ago, yesterday. it still hurts like hell. i find myself unable to look at his sickly pictures and have resorted to just looking younger pictures of our healthy times together. it helps...being young and healthy and total infallible. i hate that you're going through this. it's been the worse year of my life and, here, i thought watching him suffer through the last year of his couldn't possibly be any worse. His cat has suddenly become stuck to my side, day and night, so i pretend his spirit crawled into the kitty. that helps more than anything. he'll always be with me, no matter what happens.

i wish you peace.

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Bcgkelly

I’m sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace

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lincolnj8

I am very sorry for your loss. Three years is a long time. Try to remember the good times. No more pain now, may he rest in peace..

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savingdaddy

My deepest condolences. May God’s love and strength carry you through this❤️

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Litlerny

My prayers are with you and your family. I know none of us here can fully comprehend your grief and pain right now, but we all care, and empathize with you. Hopefully, your sorrow and sense of loss will soon be replaced by the laughter of the happy memories you two shared in your 34 years together.

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dvcarola

So very sorry for your loss. Sad news like this makes me sad and scared for my husband. Prayers for strength and comfort for you and your family.

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Ahk1

So sorry for your loss

Very sorry for your loss.

May he rest in peace.

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Lombardi24

Sorry you list him to this horrible disease. ❤❤❤

Bless you and be brave. Peace.

Derektwright profile image
Derektwright

So sorry for your loss. I’m glad he is no longer in pain. As a caregiver watching the pain they have to go through is heartbreaking. May God wrap his loving arms around you for comfort

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yamobedeh

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Thank you for sharing here.

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Fitzbruce1

So very sorry! I am sure he appreciated everything that you did for him! God bless!

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grahaminator63

Sorry to hear of your loss.

monte1111 profile image
monte1111

I am so very sorry. Hoping you have family and friends to hug. Best wishes. Monte

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n

To: Xmas1960:

66 years old when he passed his time on this earth. Too Too young. May you remember only the good times you had together for the 34 years you were married. He is finally without pain and anxiety while being in a place of peace and tranquility. I know he left you with the thought of gratitude and love for you, his wonderful wife and caregiver.

Η ζωή στους ζωντανούς.

j-o-h-n Friday 02/01/2019 1:32 PM EST

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JimVanHorn

I am so sorry for your loss and wish you well in the future.

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Vitaminlover

My sincere condolences for your deep loss.

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Nutters85

Peace to you and your family

EricE profile image
EricE

I'm so very sorry. I hope the pain will dull over time and you will be left with many happy memories. Give it time and go easy. Peace.

Thank you for sharing. Peace to your family...

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dmt1121

The time we spend with our loved ones is too short. The time we suffer or see others suffer is too long. As a patient, I know that my time here has been so much better with my wife by my side, helping me however she can. No one can stop the pain, the depression and suffering that this type of disease brings but having a hand to hold, a smiling face and encouragement from your partner makes it all endurable.

Your husband must have gone through a lot but you were there with him and made his passing easier by staying with him and comforting him. That kind of love transcends our experiences here and brings tears to all of our eyes to think of what you and he went through and what you now are going through, as you mourn his loss.

That bond of love will always keep you together. As time goes by, maybe you can begin to come up for air and take a deep breath, see the sunshine and all the wonderful people and experiences that are still out there for you. Don't ever give up on living your life!

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MelaniePaul

I am so sorry for your loss but glad your husband is at peace now and his suffering is at an end.

Love, Mel.

Derektwright profile image
Derektwright

I am so very sorry for your loss. Take comfort in that he is no longer in pain or suffering any more. God Bless you

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