adhd inattentive girl32

[roarofthetiger]

Anyone else diagnosed after 27 years of feeling like a crazy, lazy, overwhelmed, anxiety riden cucumber?

[STEM_Dad]

...and then some!Diagnosed at 45.

Inattentive ADHD struggles first noticed in 1st Grade, but most of school I flew under the radar.

I was "twice-exceptional" (2e), meaning both "gifted/advanced" and undiagnosed ADHD. Struggles really began in ernest with adulthood.

[Jiraf]

Same for me. Diagnosed at 59. I always struggled (and beat myself up mercilessly), but managed to do okay until I combined a new job that was not as ADHD friendly with Menopause which of course made all the symptoms worse. Thank all the powers that be for the diagnosis and effective meds (Concerta 54). What a relief not to feel like such a failure.

[ShoesGalore]

yup, inattentive female here officially diagnosed 2 months ago at 59. Yup what a relief to know I’m not lazy, crazy or stupid.

There’s a reason I’m great at my job (deadlines, structure, stress, field I love, need to prove my worth, ego boost, reason to get out of bed), and that I suck at home life and adulting. There a reason I’ve struggled with lateness and time blindness all my life, there’s a reason Ive made thousands of to-do lists with few check marks, there’s a reason I start all kinds of fun projects and never finish, there a reason it’s quicker for me to go out and buy something in person than order it online (research rabbit hole, indecision), there a reason friends don’t know how much I appreciate and value them even tho I don’t reach out (thinking of them but no action).

I could go in and on, welcome to the club!. I’ve done the hallelujah and the gratitude and the anger about my late diagnoses, now in the research and decision (yikes!) about my meds journey.

And of course Adderall is the choice and there’s a shortage on it . Isn’t it ironic she sang.

[Hominid711 in reply to ShoesGalore]

Singing beautifully here. You're speaking my mind. I'm on Vyvanse here in the UK. Would that be easier to obtain?

[Hominid711 in reply to Hominid711]

Singing my mind especially re your words about friends one loves and needs but doesn't contact and the importance of finally having a reason. PS I was also diagnosed very late after age 55. Funny to think about it, yes, the missed opportunities, but how about all the coping/managing/excelling-nevertheless strategies one has developed BECAUSE of not being diagnosed at the right time and where they stand you in good stead?We have learned to endure, accept our limitations, laugh about them, look for and think about alternatives all the time, be ready to move on at the blink of an eye, deal with others' frustration etc etc.

What do you think? Do you recall challenges you successfully mastered BECAUSE of ADHD/ADD and which embellished you with certain characteristics/qualities?

[al2454]

Yes! I was around that same age when I noticed how I started 10 tasks & by the end of the day had not finished 1. Yet in other parts of my life I did things at the speed of light esp if I liked it. 😀

[Fayerweather]

Yes, after 46 years. Spent the majority of my life wondering why I was so good at some things and then so very bad at others. Constantly second guessing my intelligence, skill level, worth as a person. it's nice to know it's been largely out of my control this whole time. It's freed me up to pursue solutions that work! (haha cucumber!)