Losing my wife

[Losingmywife2018]

Hello my wife has started back on vyvanse she stopped the year we met so now I find she is a different person I feel she is not the woman I married I love her and do not want to see my wife and friend lost due to a divorce I am very understanding and I have been by her side through a lots of things but I feel I can't handle this new person any help is appreciated thank you

[dubstepMaul]

hello. How is your wife a different person when on vyvance? Who wants the divorce - you or her?

[Nick1913]

Hi 2018,

I have had un-medicated ADD all my life.... recently through this avenue of help and information , had a growing understanding of the choices I made in the past. With medication and life changes I have started to be able to make better and healthier choices.

I don’t have the right or wisdom to tell other people what to do, only what I would do.....

You say your wife changed once on medication.

Good changes bad changes? I was but on Adderall... got a hair trigger explosive temper, easily frustrated... that was a bad change so medication was stopped immediately, changed to something that works a lot better....

Why the divorce? Have you changed? Do you see her differently ?

Most important what is in you hearts?

Life is full of choices. We can only control our own choices.

My personal opinion is divorce is not easy or Pretty. I don’t like it but sometimes it’s necessary for self preservation.

Good Luck in your decisions

N.

[happy_kitty]

Have you tried discussing these changes with your wife and/or her doctor? Different kinds of meds can be prescribed if the ones she has now are affecting her negatively. Perhaps of you discuss it with her you can help each other understand the changes that are going on and you can explain why you see them as negative. I know change can be difficult, sometimes it's easy to get angry at unfamiliar things without trying to understand them first. Perhaps the changes you see are not as drastic as you think?

I hope that helps, sorry if I misunderstood or seem like I'm judging you (I'm not) I just like to see and show things from different angles and I try not to jump to conclusions. Best of luck.

[Contessa_dolcevita]

I know exactly what you mean by personality changes and have felt them in myself even when my husband has not noticed. Perhaps she could work on taking less than prescribed and working up to the prescribed Vyvanse dose. I personally have perscriptions for both Adderall and the Vyvanse equivalent for this reason. I take Adderall in half doses throughout the day to avoid any jittery or anxious side effects. Some weekends I take a break from medicine all together. Its difficult the first few weeks of taking vyvanse especially because it is time released but I promise you her body does adjust and she’ll be herself again!! Try your best to be patient and keep the communication lines open. A lower dose of vyvanse or a non time released medicine may provide more flexibility for her day to day and help curb any mood changes you’re noticing.