Finding a Tribe

[Viciouscircle]

I have exhausted all my support around me and thru research discovered I should find people with the same challenges I deal with so I can be understood and not have to reinvent the wheel on ways to cope and enjoy life and my family. I look forward to hearing and learning anything that can help.

[EmbrceNeurodiversity]

Im also having a really hard time finding people that understand and support. Ugh. I wish I knew what to do. Its a lonely place.

[Viciouscircle in reply to EmbrceNeurodiversity]

I have battled adhd all my life but not diagnosed until about two years ago but until I started researching all the Issues it causes I now understand why I act and do the things that cause my life to be in chaos and why I can’t relate to non adhd people. I feel better knowing about my adhd and has been a relief to know that it’s not that I am and was a total dink. I’ve ran off and alienated most of my friends and family but find the few friends I still have, I’m closer to the ones that I believe have adhd as well. Your right it’s totally lonely but I’m glad I found this site.

[dgs2018 in reply to Viciouscircle]

I've found that some of my best friends have resulted when we both were in a difficult situation together so that brought us a type of bond. I have mostly friends that are non-ADHD as far as I can tell, but you know how and with whom you relate best. You're far from being a dink.

[Nick1913]

Hi Circle,

Being able to relate, understand because we have similar issues is a basis for a friendship, virtual or real. What are some of the issues you are facing?

I agree that once you see why you did some of the things you did in the past , for me it was like a pressure release valve finally opened. I could see why I did stuff and not others. Why I lost some friends and not others....

it is also good to have neurotypical people who you can trust around to.... getting their opinion sometimes helps me see things from a different perspective (not like them) but different than just my own vision. Don’t be to hard on the neurotypicals..... they all think differently than us.

[Better_Life]

Hi Viciouscircle. (your Nickname explains it very well). Have you heard of ‘How To ADHD’? This is Jessica McCabe’s youtube channel. Has some really good stuff. This is her site howtoadhd.com/

All the best

[happy_kitty]

Welcome to the group! it sounds like you definitely came to the right place. My friends are probably about 50/50 neurotypical/learning disabilities, but my neurotypical friends mostly tend to be the kind of people who are very compassionate and try to be understanding of people who are different.