Increasing anxiety

[Sissatread81]

HELLO! I AM NEW HERE. I FEEL IT IS IMPORTANT TO INFORM OF MY CURRENT MENTAL HEALTH. I HAVE ADHD, BIPOLAR, AND, MOST RECENTLY, SEVERE ANXIETY. I AM ON MEDICATIONS BUT ABOUT 2 MONTHS AGO MY DEPRESSION WAS AT ALL TIME WORST WITH SUICIDAL IDEATIONS. I DID CHECK INTO A MENTAL FACILITY FOR 2 WEEK AND WITH HELP OF DOC, MY MEDICATIONS WERE ADJUSTED AND HELPING TREMENDOUSLY! I WAS RELEASED ON FRIDAY. IM WRITING THIS THE FOLLOWING MONDAY.

ALEIA, MY SWEET, BEAUTIFUL, LIL ANGEL......

SHE WAS DIAGNOSED 2 YRS AGO WITH HYPERACTIVE ADHD AND CURRENTLY NOT USING MEDICATION. I DONT WANT TO LOSE HER PERSONALITY. WHEN SHE SAW ME ON FRIDAY SHE WAS SUPER HAPPY, LOVING, CARING, AND RESPECTFUL SO HAD A GREAT DAY. DAYS FOLLOWING NOT SO WELL... I FEEL HORRIBLE FOR SAYING THIS BECAUSE I LOVE HER SO MUCH BUT MY ANXIETY IS SEVERELY AFFECTED BY HER BEHAVIOUR AND LACK OF RESPECT. I LIVE IN A COMMUNITY WITH LIVE SUPPORT GROUPS BUT I NEED HELP!

THAN YOU IN ADVANCE

[Mamamichl]

It is hard being a parent where both you and your kid have adhd. I speak of this from experience. My kid and I feed off each other mood-wise. If one is anxious or moody, the other is as well. I’ve learned to make sure I go away and regulate myself before coming and helping my kids as well.

As for medication, I was concerned about that as well for my kiddo, but my partner has been taking meds for his for years. It actually helps his personality come out rather than impulsively making poor decisions. It allowed him to decide what to spend his time and energy on. I didn’t understand until I took it myself too. It’s like it allows me to take a breath and choose my personality. To be hyper and energetic about things that matter instead of not being in control.

Also, my brother has bipolar. He used to have some severe thoughts and behaviors until he started taking the shot at cmh. Not sure what medication you are on, but if you’re not taking the shot, I do recommend it.

[MyReese]

I totally feel you on this! It is so hard to help a mentally challenged child when we are mentally challenged for one thing or another. I suffer from depression and anxiety myself and have a hard time, very hard time, dealing with my DD who has ADHD, ODD and whatever else. My anxiety is through the roof dealing with her. I possibly have ADD myself, but never diagnosed.

I am glad you got help for yourself. It stinks our kiddos have these problems to deal with. Take care of yourself❤️

[STEM_Dad]

Welcome to the ADHD Parents United community Sissatread81 .

There are also communities on this site adult ADHD, anxiety and depression. You might consider joining these:

• CHADD's Adult ADHD Support

• Anxiety and Depression Support

Medication is often an effective treatment, but not every medication works the same for everyone.

With my own ADHD, I've found that when my anxiety goes up, my ADHD gets more severe. Also, when I'm struggling with either, I can become more reactive to my kids when they act up. (When I get depressed, I tend to under-respond, or even withdraw.) So, it's a balancing act to keep my anxiety under control and to try to keep from getting depressed. (For me, thankfully, the same medication works for both.)

I haven't been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, but my mom has bipolar II. I've seen how it affected her, and I observed that when her stress went up, her bipolar symptoms got more severe.

I've gotten good at using mindfulness to help me in the moment when I can feel anxiety rising. Research shows that daily mindfulness meditation can help to regulate mood. Regular exercise can, too.

[Benaware]

Thanks for sharing so vulnerable. That’s great you decided to get help.

My husband has ADHD and so as my son. I asked my husband what helped him to connect with my son and he said spending time and doing something fun. They recently went rollerblading and they had a blast. Perhaps you can find some activities that you and your daughter can enjoy together.

Also, if you are not 100% on giving your daughter medication perhaps taking a more holistic approach will help. I was very aftaid of giving my son mediation at such a young age bc of the side effects. I decided to give him natural supplements like Gaba (calm his anxiety) , kid’s Neuro Vite multivitamin ( overall mental health), magnesium ( helps to sleep), prebiotic & probiotic for the guts and omega (EPA/DHA). for a healthy brain. All these supplements have been helping him tremendously. Also meditation, physical activities( I.e swimming), having one one encouraging /positive talks and therapy have helped a lot.

Keep fighting and never give up. Your daughter need you more than ever. I wish you the best.