Another IEP Meeting Today - Pray For Me

[Janice_H]

Hello, this is my second IEP meeting in 2 months. My son's new school has been so disorganized with my son's IEP. Things we discussed at our October meeting were left off or incorrect. He had Math Problem Solving goals, but the 3 objectives were removed and replaced with new objectives that are completely unrelated (telling time and money). I'm so frustrated over having to take off from work to go there again and get corrections. The whole process is stressful. Most times when the meeting is over I want to just sit in my car and cry.

Please pray for me. Thank you

[Onthemove1971]

Please make sure there is a supervisor of the staff doing the work. Some times this is an off site coordinator. Without this power mistakes will most likely keep happening. They should be sending you progress on goals also.

I assume this is a resource teacher?

Doesn't sound like they have much experience.

Good luck, let us know how it goes.

[Janice_H in reply to Onthemove1971]

Hi Onthemove, a member of the school district was present and was able to get the corrected goals put back on. I do get progress reports, but I really think they are "generic" and not a real reflection of how he is doing. The resource teacher is fairly new and overloaded with cases. I don't think she has a lot of experience with writing the objectives and goals. Seemed very flustered and confused in today's meeting. I'm glad it's over. Instead of crying in the car I went and bought a huge box of french fries. I stared at the bottles of wine for a long time but decided against that as I had to get back to work.

[Onthemove1971 in reply to Janice_H]

Thanks for sharing. Hope she can get it together for your child..each one needs individual help.

Way to go at advocating for him.

Tonight the wine comes out.

[Janice_H in reply to Onthemove1971]

Thanks for the encouragement and advice. I am always a nervous wreck before the meeting. They shouldn't have to be so stressful.

[Onthemove1971 in reply to Janice_H]

One way to cut down in the stress is to ask for reports and info. Sent to you 1 week before. Then you kinda know what is coming. Also, they can't invite someone you don't know ( like a new specialist) unless they ask you.

It should get easier the better he does and when they do their job. The stressful ones are when there are issues.

Take care, enjoy the holidays.

[Cjkchamp]

Those meetings can be so difficult. I often feel like it's me against all of them....I see a lack of follow through. When they say they are going to send daily reports and then I see nothing. When nobody communicates with me. When I don't know what is going on with my own kid in class. Stick with it. Your kid is worth it!

[Janice_H in reply to Cjkchamp]

Hi Cjkchamp, I sometimes feel that way also but I do my reading and research and know what rights I have as the parent. Every day I ask my son if he had in-classroom support and who was with him. I also ask if he went to the special education teacher and what he was taught. He gets annoyed from the same question each day, but I have to be sure they are doing what they should.

We are fortunate to finally be at a school where all of his teachers are excellent and genuinely care about his success. They are very timely with communications and I see that all his accommodations are followed. I frequently ask about how his modifications are included and how in-class support is going. I want all of them to know that I am monitoring it all.

It is time consuming doing this, but if I am not insisting they follow his IEP plan, who will do it. You might also do the same. I really do not care if they cannot stand me or if I am irritating them.

[Hidden]

I prayed for you and your son. Like you, I take it to God. He has provided peace and wisdom to my family. I hope all goes well.

[Janice_H in reply to Hidden]

Thank you shaper sooooooo much for your prayers. They worked!! Everything got resolved, there was a little chaos but it worked itself out.

[Onthemove1971]

I sit in over 30 IEP's a year and I always sit on the parents side and send my information to the parent ahead of time. When there are any issues I always call and speak to them before the meeing no suprises with me.

I wish everyone could be stressful..

Happy holidays!

[BlueMama1]

That sounds horrible. I definitely understand how that can be beyond frustrating. Have you spoken to the superintendent of the school? When I had many failed communication problems with my daughter's school I stopped banging my head against the wall and went over their heads to the superintendent. At first, all he did was refer me back the school's principal (who was part of the problem) then I made it clear that HE needed to deal with his disastrous school and I was not taking no for an answer. Needless to say, those problems have now ceased to exist. Keep at it and voice your concerns, repeatedly. Your child is the priority and they have an obligation to do right by him.

[Janice_H in reply to BlueMama1]

I've gone to the school district twice, had a representative join 2 of the meetings. I still had difficulties. The last time I phoned the school district parent response unit to discuss problems, they would not answer the phone and would not return my calls. I don't know where to go now.

[Pennywink]

*hugs* and prayers!