Our biggest worry for our kids

[Onthemove1971]

Since finding this in blog, my life has been changed for the positive. Being on this journey of raising a child with ADHD is so hard. For many of us we continue to worry about our children being successful when they grow up. Will they be able to go to college (or for trade school) will they get a life sustaining job, maybe have successful relationships? These questions often keep us awake at night...

Well this TED ( Technology, Education and Design) talk discusses about the root of addiction and why people do drugs...

youtu.be/PY9DcIMGxMs(Not working as expected?)

We work on so many "fronts"- medication, education, etc.. what if we tried to fill our kids lives with a very supportive network. If we could help our kids to have close friend and build relationships... so that if they tried drugs and or alcohol it would be a " so what" then they could move on with their lives. As opposed to if they are isolated with out human connection they may become an addict??? Hmmm.

Your thoughts? I know for us we drive so hard to try to make everything o.k. maybe we need to work harder to help him build their self-esteem and help him build successful relationships/networks.

Thanks for taking the time to consider this with me..

[Crunchby]

Thanks for sharing. Can't wait to listen to him.

[Reeeba1]

I have not watched yet but addiction has been a serious future concern i have for my son. His personality is so compulsive, and it is so hard for him to rationally self-limit when he likes something or it makes him feel good (video games for example). Thanks for sharing.

[Onthemove1971 in reply to Reeeba1]

When you get a min. Please watch for me life changing. I will dedicate my energy in making sure our son feels connected and supported in hopes to avoid addiction to drugs.

Hope it helps your child.

[Reeeba1 in reply to Onthemove1971]

Thanks. Best to you.

[Janemariekathryn]

Thank you so much for sharing! This was so interesting , informative and moving.

[Onthemove1971 in reply to Janemariekathryn]

I am glad this could impact someone else. A new approach to addiction, which we worry about.

Best to you.

[Sofi515]

Thank you so much for sharing. This is extremely informative and eye-opening. It makes a great deal of sense that human connection can overcome so many obstacles. It also confirms that a positive approach is superior to a punitive approach.

[KMLMPLS]

Thank you for sharing! It's so interesting and really helpful. Before I learned our son has ADHD and is more prone to addiction I worried...but now I worry more. I have a lot of addicts in my family and think they have those connections but maybe they don't? They seem to have connections, a lot of connections and love and something worth fighting for but maybe they don't see it? When there appears to be connections and love there is a reason they don't feel it so there's another thing to figure out...but this approach is eye opening I'd rather be like the Portuguese.

[Pennywink]

I also saw this recently & found it so compelling! Thanks for posting here. 😊

I feel I’ve such an “against the grain” household -so many families I know are running in circles getting kids to activities / experiences and earning their little pieces of candy. We barely go anywhere, I encourage my kids to be bored & figure out their own amusement, and to spend a lot of time together, with little external reward. Since my first child was born, I’ve been putting people in their lives that I trust, that I hope they will go to when they don’t want to come to Mom or Dad (including having grandparents here constantly - which I’d rather not have. Lol!$ This helps me think maybe I’m not doing it all wrong. 😊

[Onthemove1971 in reply to Pennywink]

Thank you for you comment. Rarely do we get the feeling like there is hope in the future. There is no guide to raising these kids and when we pick the right path..we hope it will really make a difference in the future. This research helps me believe that we are doing the right thing becuase the medication helps now and in the future.

Thanks for your comments!