I have searched several posts about this issue, none are super current that I saw. My son is currently refusing to go to school - if he does go, I am there to pick him up in a few hours and he has done no work and spent the whole time crying. It seems like a reward to keep him home doing work, because that is what he really wants, but at the same time, he is at a private school and they do not have to keep him or office or "warehouse" him the way public schools do. This is a positive and a negative. We have spoken about how sending him home is a reward, but he also can't stay and disrupt all the other children. Its a tricky situation. There is not a bullying issue. I noticed a lot of posts mention second grade and the child being around 8 years old. That is exactly where we are. We have just set up with a new counselor and are trying to arrange testing and a psychiatric consult/visit. Rewards or taking away do not seem to be a huge motivator when the best reward is just being with Mom. I run my own business, but sometimes, due to scheduling clients, this can be a huge disruption. Maybe I am just impatient with rate of progress. Anyone have any advice?