Single mom with 2 special need kids my 8 year old daughter has Down syndrome my five year old son has ADHD wow what a challenge

[Cooky1617]

I'm a single mom of two special-needs children and now I'm suffering health issues myself I don't have anybody to help me with my kids and honestly I have a hard time finding someone I could trust with them due to their needs it is a challenge for me on a day-to-day basis

[geemamom]

i am so very sorry to hear that, i can not imagine how difficult this must be.

i have been a single mom of 2 and now am not single and raising an adhd child

and both are challenging - the adhd moreso.

if you were in my area i would be happy to volunteer a couple hours to you just so you could accomplish some things or just have a little break.

hugs to you. keep fighting.

[Cooky1617 in reply to geemamom]

Thank you so much for the understanding i havent had a social life for five years maybe one day but i just want to make sure my son doesnt go down the wrong path,he wants my complete uninvited attention on the other hand my daughter is incapacitated, they cant play together ,hes to rough people think i dont discipline him ,he runs all over the place crawls on the floor loud and has outburst ect. I'm currently working with a guidance counselor with a treatment plan for him so we could get him on the right path trying without medication someone told me to give him a Mountain Dew every morning that it would help him

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Single mom hanging out here with you! It is really hard, does your son have a psychiatrist? Have you talked about medication? Sometimes it just feels paralyzing but I just have to keep going - Hang in there!

[Crunchby]

Wow. That's a lot for one person. I wonder if there are community services in your area that may help. Community clinics (talking u.s.) have funding to assist you and your children. Medicare can provide some medical help as well. What city/state are u in?

[Janice_H]

I understand how you must feel to be isolated with no support at all. It's tough enough trying to manage it all being a single mom. You are a great mom and have been marvelous at raising your 2 children. Don't ever doubt how wonderful you are. You are also capable. Pray and ask for strength and energy to accomplish all that there is to do in one day. You will have to eventually find a person who can keep the 2 children so you can find peace within yourself. Even if it is just for 1 hour to sit in the car and drink a cup of coffee. If you do not find time for yourself, you are going to break down.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

[janeejo1]

What state are you in? I have twins (age 10) both have ADHD and my daughter (one of the twins) has DS. I know many states provide respite services based on state programs. Is there a local DS association that can assist you finding resources or state if not local. I feel your frustration.

[Cooky1617 in reply to janeejo1]

I'm in Jacksonville Florida and my daughter she is in the currently in the shining stars for the Down Syndrome Association they have a meet and greet with mr. And mrs. Santa Claus on December 1st that we're going to attend where you located and I'm not sure what other resources they have but I guess I can look into it thank you for your help

[susanv1994]

My hat's off to you. You are a very strong person. But even strong people need help sometimes. I know I had to learn that the hard way. I understand how hard it can be to ask for or even accept help. I had to have a complete physical break down. (and the truth is I still struggle with accepting help)

Have you heard of Autism Speaks? They are non- profit that helps parents with autistic children. Perhaps they have some programs that can help you. Or maybe Care.com can give you help, they have a guide with check list on how to find good respite care.