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Teen ADHD lacks motivation failing high school

Would like to connect with others who have a teen going through similar situation. Son has IEP and in learning center for English and math and failing all classes for not turning in work or "trying" his teachers say. They are all frustrated with him. He's extremely lazy at home. Been on Concerta for years. What will get this kid going? I have no idea.

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Hello MomAteen. I am suffering from an almost identical situation. I am a single mom with a 13 year old son on concerta. He never picks up a book, never has any passion for anything but video games. It is truly a struggle to get him to do his work and to do it well and not just slap things together. I find myself lashing out with frustration and impatience...yelling too much.

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When my son was in 7th grade his IEP teacher no longer had him do "home"work because he gets irate when I try to help. He does it at school. Well he "doesn't " do it now which is why he's failing. I thought the special ed teachers would understand him but they don't! They say he shows no motivation or trying anything. But that's their job to find what motivates him right!? That's their specialty. I'm not an educator. If they give up on him then what?!

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Hai Jogoldy

I am also sailing in the same boat. My son also shows no interest in studies. He was under concerta which s not permanent relief so I stopped which has made him worse. Share ur contact number or watsup me 0096566327822. Lets stay in touch to discuss further

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I feel for you!!!!! I am going through the same thing with my son. He has an IEP too. He could care less about school. He is failing all of his classes except band. He would be passing if he just did his homework. I work with him as much as I can but most of the time he doesn't have it to work on. I don't feel the school is doing as much as they can either. I think he is just overwhelmed with the subject matter and has just shut down. I'm at a loss of what to do.

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I am in the same boat my son goes to a public school, has an IEP he is failing all core classes etc PE and a personal finance class. He is overwhelmed and unmotivated in school. My son says school is boring and he doesn't see the point. My son has struggled for years and has given up on school. I stress and worry trying to figure out what to do.

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My grandson is in a magnet program and was failing. Not only did he not care but he was really having trouble with aggression. The doctor thought it was depression and put him on an antidepressant which after awhile increased the violence. You should see his bedroom door!!

A month ago he was started on Risperdone because I flat out told the doctor I could not live with this anymore. Not only is the violence almost gone but he managed to pull his grades up to passing before report cards came out. I will say I constantly emailed teachers, worked out a tutorial schedule, etc. The teachers would tell me he did much better in tutorials with them than in class.

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I’m also in the same boat. 12, almost 13 year old. Homework is a nightmare. It’s destroying the family.

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My friend with a high school freshmen and an iep with adhd and odd. He does not have homework but did his class work. He also has a study skills class where they help him be organized and where he can get his work completed. The homework was ruining her family as well. My freshman has taken a long time to get in track: he comes home, has about an hour of down time ( i leave the house before he gets home so i am not tempted to nag about hw right away). He knows when i get home it is time for hw. We go to therapy every week (now together so we can communicate better). He still misses homework sometimes but has improved with using one folder for all H.W. or using an accordion folder - one for each subject- homework goes in, and when completed goes back in to the subject slot for him to find easily. You might also see if the teachers are posting on blackboard.com or the remind app so you can see the homework - the key is many teachers done us it. Good luck.

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The other thing to keep in mind: the school needs to be responsible to the IEP or 504. They have to follow it. Fight for what you think is best for your son. The hard part for me was to realize that my relationship with my son was more important than his grades or getting his homework done. We worked in compliance- it was done by i didn’t how he did it. Now that he has gotten better and doing it and turning it in, consistently we can start working on quality but that is up to the teachers. Rally have struggled but I don’t care if he gets C’s as long as he is trying. If he gets less, then he may behave to drop from honors but i would be ok with that- his dad not so much

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We are having a very similar issue with my son. He has seen a therapist in and off about his lack of motivation and we are heading back to her. He asked for this as well as a tutor or coach type to help keep him organized and on task. I will be searching for someone today to tutor and I will begin checking his backpack and all work again. While he is 16 yrs old, he still needs this to succeed I guess and I will do whatever I can to help.

Most of his teachers think he doesn’t care and is just lazy but that’s not it. Those are characteristics of a person with ADHD which I feel most teachers are not as knowledgeable as they should be about it.

We are hoping the therapy will help and getting a tutor to oversee his work and help him stay on task. If not we will just keep trying to find something else to help him. It’s definitely a struggle as a parent Bc we just don’t have the answers but all we can do is research and keep trying to help

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Hi! I have a 15-year-old son who was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 5. He didn't struggle with school until middle school and is now failing all of his classes in high school. He's tried several meds (stim and non-stim) and has also been in counseling for almost 10 years. Nothing seems to be helping. He has changed schools 3 times in 3 years, hoping for better options, but things only seem to be getting worse. I'm a single mom of 3 kids, working full-time, and I am really struggling with how to help him and balance everything else. Feel free to reach out! -Jaime

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Hi jaimejoy! The environment changes probably aren't doing your son any good. Because our brains are already kind of hectic, constants are practically a must in day to day life. Depending on his eating habits, the meds can fluctuate in effectiveness. I've personally noticed that I have to limit my caffeine and sugar intake and can't have caffeine and sugar at the same time. I hope this helps you with your son!

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Hello MomAteen! I've been in a similar situation as your son and am also currently on Concerta. One of the ways I got anything done was to break larger projects into smaller projects with "due dates" so I wouldn't feel overwhelmed. Teachers, and a lot of parents, have issues communicating with an ADHD child because the teen feels isolated because of their disorder. I suggest you sit down with your son and just let him vent to you. Try to listen to what he's going through emotionally and try to step outside of the mama bird mindset. Try not to lash out and yell as that triggers a fight, flight or freeze response and he'll probably just shut down or yell back. I find that this helped me and my mother communicate better and I hope it will help you and your son, too. Best of luck to you!

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Hi there: I'm caring for my 16 year old grandson who has been on Concerta for some time. Regardless of whether or not he is on the medication, his motivation for school, taking a part-time job, cleaning his room, household chores, etc is nil. I'm worried about his future prospects. Without motivation where the heck will he end up? Looking for advice, guidance and support! MJ

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going through the same thing. My 16 year old is completely lacking in motivation, could care less about failing history (currently an F) while getting A's in math. He doesn't seem to get that this will seriously derail him in terms of getting into college, or having any sort of productive life. Is this a temporary phase while his frontal lobe is developing, or is he doomed for the rest of his life?

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