Marriage breakdown

[Help2016]

I'm a 48 year old woman. Going through a marriage breakdown. I went through extreme emotional abuse, even though he is overseas he still tries to blackmail me emotionally daily. I've always been a very strong woman. However am feeling drained, lost and in despair.

[Gambit62]

hello help2016 - notice that your post has been duplicated - so you might want to delete one of the posts - the down arrow next to follow post.

Dealing with a marriage breakdown is extremely difficult. Really hope that you have others around who can support you. One possibility to bear in mind is that you are not actually under an obligation to maintain any degree of contact with your husband - you might want to tell him that you need space and will not be responding to any further text or emails for a while ... or you could ask a friend to just filter through them for you and only look at them yourself if your friend advises you that it really is something of a practical nature that requires a response.

Even if you don't attend as a couple you may still find that an organisation like RELATE may be able to help you deal with what is happening - particularly if you don't have a friend that can help you filter stuff.

[carraway]

Remember that you are a wonderful person and you deserve to be with someone who appreciates that. The breakdown of a relationship can feel earth shattering but this feeling and turmoil will eventually pass. Your post suggests that your ex husband is an unhappy and abusive man. This separation represents an opportunity for you to make a new start and focus on the things which make you happy.

Wishing you all the best

[JR81]

You're not alone. I've just gone through hell of a divorce, being cheated and betrayed is the most hurtful feeling that you couldn't imagine. I've been through emotionally abuse too which to my knowledge I didn't realize. I couldn't even bear to listen my x husband's voice and things get triggers that leads me emotionally breakdown and into depressive state. I told him not to contact me if he hasn't something nice to say. So far we only communicate rarely via email. I cut down everything that connect us, anything that has value and memories, apart from having our son in my side who also suffers from all the traumas I've been through.