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[Molly85]

Hi. Looking for support from fellow women who are in the process of becoming empty-nesters and also separated/divorced. How do you cope? Feeling extremely isolated

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Hi Molly

I'm not an empty nester but I am separated from a Narcissist. I had a career of helping others and giving support so I'm here for you. We all have some of that experience under our belts and this is a great place to be.

[bantam12]

Try and look at it as some " me time". I've had 3 daughters go off to uni over the past 12 or so years, all 3 now off working and living their own lives, although youngest is home temporarily. I'm proud of their success but still here to support when ever needed.

I lost my husband 3 months ago so it's been difficult for all of us and in the next month or so I really will be living on my own, first time in 39 years ! But I look at it as a new chapter in my life and I intend to make the most of it.

Stay positive and enjoy the freedom 🙂

[sweetsusie]

Sorry you're feeling like that....I'm the other extreme...I couldn't wait for my kids to be out of my house! They were selfish...arrogant...didn't give a crap about me...probably my fault...

[Molly85]

Thanks - I guess the hardest thing is that my two daughters still hold a lot of anger towards me for "leaving" them. I never left them - I left their father (for reasons I have explained to them). I keep trying to have a relationship with them, but they won't respond or see me, unless they need money or something from me. My younger daughter says that her "first priority is not seeing her mother but seeing her friends".

It just exacerbates the feeling of isolation and loneliness - it would be nice for them (or someone) to call me or check in with me every once in a while.

[sweetsusie]

I totally get it...same situation here, but mine is a Son. I try very hard not to dwell on his behavior towards me, but it's difficult. Next time your daughter asks you for $$, tell her that you've given a lot of it to a good friend of yours...that you realized that your daughter is right about wanting to see her friends instead of you...that it feels great to be seeing friends and not worrying about her....in other words: a two-by-four between the eyes...ha!

[maryemma]

Hi Molly ,only yourself can alter your life ,helping others is a great way to start ,either as a job or voluntary ,join things ,keep busy , act happy and one day you will be ,I know I did it ,I also got a little dog great company 💕good luck x

[Sunflowerxxxxxx]

If you are not working maybe you could volunteer it is a great way to meet people make new friends learn new skills and of course you are supporting a very worthy cause there maybe a particular cause you feel passionate about. Also a dog is wonderful company a true friend unconditional love lots of cuddles always happy to see you and it gets you out of the house too🙂