Hello, bit of advice / your thoughts...
As you know, I had my miscarriage. In the same week another member of staff lost her beloved dog. My manager knew what happened to me and I had said I really did not want people to know. In the past she has organised flowers for certain staff who have been off sick but do not want to have the details of their sickness disclosed. Anyway with this staff member of staff who lost her dog, she organised flowers. It sort of bothers me but then I think I shouldn't really care. I mean I obviously have a problem holding onto a pregnancy. I am asian and most of my work collegues are white and I didn't know if this 'bias' had anything to do with it.
The only other thing is another work collegue is unwell and she did not disclose for a number of months what was wrong to her team. Again she is asian. Now after 5 months, she has discolosed she is ill with cancer and the team are organising gifts. The senior managers knew all along and again did nothing until now ( with other collegues she organises pamper sets with her own money and then lets the team know what she is doing for cetain collegues going through a lot but don't want to diaclose).
I'm not sure if it is any type of racial bias as a male white collegue a few months ago was off ill and he got nothing organised for him. He did raise it at a team meetinh and it was brushed off. Thr manger just shrugged her shoulders.
I just wanted to ask what you all thought really of this work practice and if you think it 's fair.
In one way it is nice to think your work collegues think of you but as the practice is not equal I would also find it awkward, especially if you are not the 'Chosen one'.
On balance , I am ok with it but I personally find the practice unfair for collegues not chosen and unsure if it builds any resentment. This is a very minor issue , I know, when we think what others go through in the world right now x