A year ago, around this time, I took time off work to be with Cleodman. We knew it was the beginning of the end. I wanted to spend every second with him. It was the hardest months of our lives. Waiting for the inevitable.
I couldn’t imagine being at work away from him. But I know that for many caregivers, staying at home is not an option.
If you’re a caregiver that works, what do you do for your love one? Do you leave meals ready? Call often? Text? Have family stay with them?
I figured we could share tips and maybe vent about how we feel. I know the days were long when I had to be away from him. I felt worried and anxious.
Hi - at the very start of the PC diagnosis my younger sister was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer. I'm sure you all can imagine the stress and heartache. It did not help when my friends kept saying "I don't know how you can handle this". The only advice I have is that I had to rise above all of chatter and be a caretaker to 2 people at the same time. It was my choice of course. You do what you can with the time you have. I work fulltime and took every spare second of every day and night to be with my sister and checked in with my husband who understood the severity of her diagnosis. Our son and daughter in law moved from Dallas to Ohio and our Daughter and her at the time Fiancee decided to narrow down their Residencies to local instead far away Hospital. It takes a village to care for loved ones. The whole family pitches in. With so many medical family members we take advantage of those special days where we can all be together. (There are very few) My husband's siblings also try and visit when they can.
I cook extra food at dinner so my husband can eat a lunch while he works at home.
We call and text throughout the day during the work week.
At this time I don't feel as anxious as I did with my sister who passed a year from diagnosis.
When the time comes, I will work from home. I won't leave him alone if he's in pain.
I’m sorry about your sister. I’m glad you were able to be there for her. How do you split yourself in two and not feel like you’re neglecting one of them. You did a good job at balancing things out. I’m happy your husband was understanding. Being a caretaker requires a lot of that person, but I wouldn’t of changed a thing.
Cooking extra for dinner is a good idea!
Stay strong 💕