Too impatient

I got way to impatient tonight and just wanted to get it over and done with so got a pregnancy test and im doing it tomorrow my first wee of the day so excited to see if i am... If im not im gonna be so unhappy if its ment to be its ment to be!

[DrFluffy]

You're only 16 - if it's not positive, try not to fret! You have time on your side! I'm a 36 year old first timer - my best friend from school is 4 months younger than me and a grandmother! It will appen when I happens - fate has a funny way of helping things work out

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I know i jusy dont want my child growing up with no grandparents

[DrFluffy]

All 4 grand parents to be alive and well here!

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My baba would only have 3 but all 3 mean thw world to me and cause their all in their 80s now i want them here to watch me be a mummy

[DrFluffy in reply to Hidden]

Ahhh! You're talking about your grandparents (else your mum must be in the record books!) - bubba to be's great grand parents! Thought that was a dig at older mums! My mum is 55, and there is no way I could do this without her. I have one grandparent still alive - something that hasn't changed since I was 8. She's busy knitting like a demon!

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Yeah haha sorry that came out wrong my grandparents are all in their 80s haha my mum and dad are in their 50s not ans i just dont want to lose any of them before i have a child :/ awww well my granny the lives near me... Shes dottled out her mind and isnt gonna last much linger im talkimg 5 years maybe?

[Littlebill]

Hi Hannah, it is unlikely you will have a positive result this early so it might better to concentrate your efforts on trying ?? rather than testing.

I read about your sister who was stillborn when you were only 8 years old, very sad and must have been devastating for all of you especially your mum. I hope you don't feel you have to make this better by providing a baby of your own, what happened happened and will never go away.

I do understand what you mean about your grandparents, my mum passed away at Christmas and I would give my right arm to have her here now. The thing is you can't 100% control everything in your life, you can make a decision to have a baby but your body will decide when that happens, it would be great if your grandparents could see you become a mother but if it doesn't happen what are you going to do? Life just happens, people get old and pass away, people pass away even when they are not old! Your grandparents might live to be 100!

Don't stress out so much because that will not make an egg jump out of your ovary all ripe and ready to be fertilised. It will happen when it happens.....

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Hi littlebill

Yeah maybe :/

Yeah it was jard the worst was when i got to hold her she was 38 weeks and 6 days old she would be 9 this year nah i domt feel that providing a baby would make it go away ive wanted to be a mother for a while like i misscarroed at the age of 14...

Im sorry to hear about ypur mpther yeah i underatand but if you get me i jist want everyone to be around i know it wont happen but like i just wosh it could who knows of i am i am if im not im not...

Haha yeah i know this made me giggle the last bit couldnt help it haha

[Comet1]

Gosh, Hannahdeex, only 16! Are you sure your ready? I mean I'm 34 and I only felt ready in the last 4 years or so! I did get pregnant in my mid 20's and miscarried, but felt more relieved than upset, if I'm being really honest.

Have you spoken to your parents, GP, maybe a midwife, just to make sure you really are ready to give up your own chance to be young & fancy free?!

Look, I understand the thought of losing people close to you & you have experienced the loss of a baby sister already. Experiencing this early in life makes you realise how precious life is & how quickly it can change & not always for the better. And those feelings can sometimes make you make rash decisions.

Both my parents are now dead, both to cancer & both when they were young. My dad died at aged 49, when my brother was 15 & I was 20. My mum died at aged 51, when brother was 23 & me 28.

It's hard for me to accept that they aren't here to be grandparents, they so would have loved it! Honestly, I haven't really "gone there" yet with those feelings/thoughts too much. I'm slightly worried about what can of worms I may open. I also know that ever since they died I have always felt a pang of regret and sadness when things have happened in my life that they aren't here to be a part of - both good & bad things. But this hasn't stopped me living my life & getting on with the things I want to do, so I guess I'm saying that yes, it would have been nice to have them here, but I'm not sorry that my life has taken the path it has. I know their strength & love will always be with me and so will your grandparents for you.

I'm sure you want to be the best mum you can be, so why not take some time to discuss your ideas & feelings with a family planning clinic, counsellor or trusted teacher?

All of our lives sit on a pin head, that's why it's so important to be sure you are make the right decisions for the right reasons, for you.

Good luck!