Happy but then wishing........

[tiny83]

So my best friend tells me she's pregnant Friday, and although I am really happy for her I find myself wishing it was me. I feel like it will never happen, I am a kidney transplant patient who has alot of complications....doctors say there should be no problem getting pregnant but the steriods I take pose so many risks (small). We have been trying but to no luck and I find myself getting more and more depressed, know there must be something wrong with me and my heart is breaking.

[amidra]

Be happy for her so that your breakthrough will come. Alwaz trust in God cos i know he never fails he is able.

[Kaleidoscope]

Tiny83 I understand, it's hard to be happy for someone who is experiencing something you long for and hope for. I know you are happy for her but sad for you. Although not the same at all but whilst at uni my best friend at the time was creating work that was highly appreciated by students and lecturers alike, she didn't really work hard, barely turned up to lectures but got these amazing marks and response. I on the other hand worked soooo hard, took everything so seriously. I did ok but not like my friend. It took a lot of strength to not let what turned out to be jealousy spoil me enjoying my friends success. I did tell her how I felt which made things easier and she was so sympathetic and encouraging that I wished I had been honest sooner.

Trying to conceive is such an emotional journey that all I can say is enjoy the coitus! Relax, know that it's ok to feel how you do about your friend and about yourself. Trust the doctors who know you better medically than anyone else. You will get pregnant, your depression will ease with the support and love of those around you. If you feel able to and your think your friend will understand, talk to her about how you feel, let her hold you and sooth you, she'll understand that it is hard for you, it may have even been hard for her to tell you at all as she no doubt knows about you trying to conceive and the potential issues around it.

Thinking of you and wishing you the best of luck. xxx

[Bobby87]

I no exactly how you feel, I'm trying for a baby as well, and everyone around me seems 2 b falling pregnant and I wish more than anything that was me! I wish you all the luck in the world and lost of baby dust xx

[tiny83]

Thank you all it makes it bit easier to know there are people who understand or going through similar situations.

[mumofone2009]

I know how it feels too myself and my partner were trying for another as we already have a daughter who is 3 and at nursery and everyone else around me was falling pregnant at one point i felt envious towards them but then i realsied my time would come i stop trying in july this year and i went on a weekend break away in august and i came back and 10 weeks later i found out i am pregnant with baby no2. i am 10 weeks 4 days pregnant i wish you all the luck x

[Envgirl]

Hi, I am new to this community but felt moved to post. We have been trying for 23 months and at last weekend got a positive test, I have an appointment with the GP tomorrow. I reckon I am about 5/6 weeks so still very early days. In the time we have been trying which feels like forever, although it has been enjoyable trying! many friends have had babies and are contemplating the second! It is hard, you will be genuinely happy for your friend and will feel a little why isn't it me. The worst was when my friend told me she was pregnant with number two and I gave her a huge hug, then cried. Then she cried. I felt awful for raining on her parade but she understood and her baby is so cute and now I get extra cuddles! Everyone has told me to keep the faith it will happen just relax-sound familiar?! Easier said than done, I know it's hard but you have to stay positive even though each month you feel like curling into a ball and crying about it. Good luck and keep the faith x