New Mama

[KR2022]

Hi all, I'm new to the whole pregnancy world! I've been trying for a baby for over 7 years (was with an abusive partner at the time) but after being with my new partner for a few months I'm now expecting!

The thing I want to ask is going to sound weird and no one seems to know what I mean or say that I'm making excuses.... when you eat your craving(s) - mine are grapes, custard creams and anything spicy - did you find you lost control of yourself? Like you HAD to have that specific food and once it was in front of you nothing else mattered, manners went out the window..... you basically lost control of yourself for as long as it takes to consume those things.

I've been embarrassing myself for a while and I started joking that *baby took over* and I've been literally told not to make excuses (other than my SO who not only finds it funny but, somehow, endearing.... weird boy lol). For example, last night my SO surprised me with a KFC meal of on the bone chicken and spicy rice. I would normally never eat off the bone and would instead sort it so that it's all separate. I can't believe I'm going to admit this but here goes.

Once the smell hit me I took handfuls of rice, ripped at the chicken without de-boning it and got covered in grease ect, SO said I sounded very happy but honestly, I didn't recognise myself. I didn't even use cutlery! I ate everything in a matter of minutes, I even picked the bones clean and I've never done that in my life. Am I worrying over nothing or is this as weird as I feel?

Thanks x

[Purpledoggy]

I really wouldn't worry about it! Hormones do weird things to you physically AND mentally. Let the pregnancy excuse account for it and enjoy eating your food. I have struggled to eat throughouy my pregnancy for one reason or another and would love to be able to dive into something like that 😂 xx

[KR2022 in reply to Purpledoggy]

I know exactly what you mean, I've been struggling to eat but when it comes to those specific foods my brain goes "oh boy" and slams the door shut on me 😂Thank you 💕 x

[Fruitandflowers]

I wouldn't worry about it for a second (unless you start craving non-foods, like dirt, or charcoal, which can be a sign of a problem). I never touch sweet things ever, don't even like them, but for about a month in the early stages of this and my last pregnancy I shovelled (I mean that, like handfuls at a time) haribo. My dentist asked me if I was in the haribo stage before I even mentioned it, and he said it's super common, along with citrus fruit - seemed to make him a bit depressed as both are bad for your teeth but he said there's no getting in between a pregnant woman and her cravings And it can change - my first pregnancy I couldn't even have meat cooked in the house, let alone eat it, but last week I absolutely devoured spare ribs (and definitely didn't use cutlery). Just enjoy it and sod manners, and trust me when the baby arrives and you're eating biscuit crumbs off your cleavage and wondering how long you've had dried yoghurt in your hair, you'll be in a different league of what you consider socially acceptable x

[SRA8]

Congratulations. Enjoy your food and your pregnancy.

[Gardener11]

that all sounds perfectly normal! Whenever I could eat during my pregnancy I ate twice as fast as I ever have done. I also had a few weeks where as soon as a certain food popped into my head I was possessed until I had it and had to go and immediately get it. This was often good I don’t normally eat. Don’t worry! Baby (hormones) are in charge now ha.

[Hidden]

Sound to me, that you are a very "in control" type of person who cares little bi too much about what other people think of you (being in abusive relationship does some damage...) I believe you should think about the reasons why you feel eating chicken with your hands is somehow improper?

You need to loosen up a bit, relax and listen to your body more than what other people say.

Being spontaneous, able to listen to your body and being in touch with yourself will come handy in labour... and life in general...

Also, the craving stage will most probably pass, so enjoy every moment and good luck!