Sleeping & Confidence

[NicoJono]

Hello again,

Looking for some guidance please - our DD is approaching her 2nd birthday and I’m conferred about her confidence and her “new” sleep pattern.

She used to sleep 12 - 14 hours in her own bedroom (in cot) uninterrupted every night. Then we went on holiday and her cot was in our room, now she WILL NOT sleep without being with us. Like spine tingling screams if she isn’t with us. And won’t go in her cot. My husband has since taking the side of the cot off to turn it into a bed and that helped by she is now happy to get in and out and tuck herself in etc.

I’ve followed blissful baby expert when she was a baby. And I have try the toddler one of recent - but nothing is helping. She’ll go into her bed asleep from 7-8 and will be awake screaming anytime from 11/midnight and then even if she falls asleep again, she’ll wake instantly as soon as we try and pop back in her bed.

Some suggestions I’ve read about is putting her in cot awake etc and walking her back to her bed - but how do you overcome the ridge straightening of the back type resistance to try and get her in? I tried from bedtime until 1am last night so literally 5 hours and gave in so we could get some sleep!

Also I’m concerned about her lack of confidence. For example we’ve just gone to a friends party (also 2!) and it took over 2 hours to prise herself off me and get involved. Despite constant reassurance. Holding her hand etc. She isn’t like it in familiar settings, nursery, family, home etc

Anyone experienced either of the above and can provide insight / guidance / support or just suggestions?

Thanks x

[Seb9]

My nearly 4 year old sleeps through the night most of the time in her own bed, my nearly 2 year old still climbs in with us and we all sleep together. I'm not in any rush to make either of them sleep on their own, we get more sleep and they love being close to us. I wouldn't worry about them wanting to be close to you for comfort or waking up in the night just yet, it's all really normal behaviour. With the shyness, some children at natural more reserved in strange environments, both my children are extremely confident in settings that they know, but can be really shy in new places, if nursery haven't picked up on any social issues, then they might just take a while to get used to new situations xx

[NicoJono in reply to Seb9]

Thanks Seb9 for taking the time to reply. Pleased you’re still a regular on here!

Nursery haven’t said anything at all! She isn’t shy etc there. Just new environments and new people. Hopefully it’ll come.

Thanks againxxx