2 year old tantrums

[AGKG]

Morning all. I'm feeling rather deflated. My daughter is 3 at the end of July. She has always been hard work constantly on the go and demanding. But the last couple of weeks she really paddys when she doesn't get her own way. She screams in anger and smacks me (lightly) or smacks hits the wall table etc.

I put her on the step to cool down. But then 20 mins later she will paddy again. My son who has just turned 6 gets upset because she is constantly screaming and annoying him. If I cuddle my son or try to chat with him. She trys to interrupt and will cry for attention

When she's good she is lovely. Very loving and cuddly .

Amy good advice would be appreciated

Thanks x

[Shopper85]

Is she 2 or 3 years old? I think you can Try a reward chart something they can physically see and control together. Collect stickers for good behaviour and get a reward at the end. Or you can get some books about feelings and emotions read together. You can make lolly pop stick faces and talk about how she feels holding it up and why.

[AGKG in reply to Shopper85]

Hi. She's 2.

[alohalu]

Each child is completely different, so asking for advice from other people may not work for your specific child. What I recommend is that you build a “toolset” of techniques you can use and just try until you find what works for you. I read “How to talk so little kids will listen” and they give you some tools for dealing with tantrums.

[AGKG in reply to alohalu]

Thanks will need to look for the book.

[Seb9]

Hold on in there! My friend described this period as survival mode, and I definitely feel like it is.I know my toddlers can't control their emotions, but it's so hard not rising to their tantrums.

My only advice is to try and spend time one on one with each child so that they get your attention and make time to fill your own cup, a night out with friends or going for a walk by yourself, so that you're not trying to give from an empty cup xx

[Abs1403]

I have no advice... just know you're not in it alone. My little boy is 2, turns 3 in August so is a very similar age to your little girl and is going through exactly the same thing, it's particularly trying when he's over tired.

My lb responds best to us when we stay calm, but it's far from easy. We have an 8 month old too, and bed times are stressful so staying calm doesn't always happen, but the more stressed I get the less he responds in a positive way. Take time out for yourself if you can when things get tense xx

[Shelleybean]

Just wanted to say hang on in there! My little boy is 3 this weekend and we had a few months like this after Christmas where he was having full blown tantrums and I struggled cope/ know what to do (he’s always been a pretty laid back child). I definitely think it could have often seemed related to him being tired/ or if hungry so avoiding this as best we could was key to survival. Would also agree that time spent individually with each child could be important for you guys. But just mainly to reassure you that, like with most aspects of parenting seem to be, this was just a phase for us and we are now out the other side just a few short months later. I’ll keep everything crossed you can stay sane whilst navigating your way through it and it also passes soon! xx