pregnant 6 months after miscarriage

[ThirdTimeMum]

Hello all, I am 41 and already have two older kids, got pregnant 8 months ago with a new partner and miscarried at 8 weeks. Found out yesterday I am pregnant again and I’m so, so worried it’s going to happen again because of my age.

anyone else an older mum/mum to be and feeling the same anxieties? I never felt like this with my first two when I was a lot younger.

[Ell13]

Hi congratulations. I've just been through exactly the same thing. My oldest is 12 and I had my youngest 6 months ago when I was 41. I too had a miscarriage just before my last pregnancy, so I was worried all the way through the pregnancy. I asked for an early scan, which helped a little. The midwives didn't seem too worried about my age though, kept reassuring me that it was normal now for women our age to have children. Hope everything goes well for you. I had a completely healthy little girl, so had no need to worry in the end x

[ThirdTimeMum in reply to Ell13]

Thanks so much. I appreciate you replying. I think I will book a private early scan, just to keep me sane. Xx

[Emdog87]

Congratulations.

The first 12 weeks are so intense anyway aren’t they. I had a miscarriage last February and fell pregnant the following July. Me and my husband just didn’t want to acknowledge it, we were terrified of getting excited, we were just so scared of it happening again, we didn’t really start getting excited about the pregnancy until I was about 20 weeks. But she is now a beautiful healthy 7 month old.

I don’t really have any advice. I think I just took it a day at a time. Tried to remain positive and made sure I was looking after myself. I was lucky in the pregnancy as I was being monitored from 5 weeks so I was able to see her each week on a scan, that was due to my history of miscarriages (plus an ectopic). If you’re anxiety is going through the roof you could maybe look at getting a private scan to your little bean?

Good luck and try to remain positive

X

[ThirdTimeMum in reply to Emdog87]

thank you for sharing your story with me - I really appreciate it. ❤️

[jowalk6]

Hi first of all congratulations. I have 2 grown up children and in 2012 my little girl was born asleep at 39 weeks. I was blessed with my rainbow baby when I was 41. I worried the whole way through and burst out crying when I heard his first cry. You will be monitored closely because of your loss and your age. You will get your rainbow baby hun x

[ThirdTimeMum in reply to jowalk6]

I am so sorry for your loss 😢 I can’t imagine what you have been though.

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement 🙏🤞 xx

[FlyerFlower777]

I’m so sorry for the loss you suffered. Please try not to worry. I had my first baby at 43..I was almost 44! our little surprise blessing! She’s 4.5mths old now and absolutely perfect. Worrying will do neither you nor baby any good… Stay calm, positive and focused and all can be well. Good luck and very best wishes xx

[ThirdTimeMum in reply to FlyerFlower777]

Thanks so much for your reply. I appreciate it x

[Smithy1981]

love these comments you ladies all give me hope that it will happen again for me as I am 41 had my first miracle in 2021 but unfortunately suffered a miscarriage on the 15th Sept 2022 but all these amazing happy endings brought a smile to my face. Good luck 🤞🏽 but I am sure you won’t need it and all will be well xx

[ThirdTimeMum in reply to Smithy1981]

best of luck to you too, and sorry for your loss. Xx