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hey 💗

Little one is just over 6wks and she’s showing signs of potentially going some of the night without a feed now.

last few days she’s been 8pm/2am/6-7am we are very lucky that she’s a good sleeper!

So do I try dream feed her about 11pm/12am and see if she goes to 6am?

I also feel I should leave her to work it out on her own as only one feed a night is brilliant anyway 🤗

Any advice welcome xx

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Seb9

There's absolutely no harm in trying a dream feed. If it works enjoy the sleep, having had two terrible sleepers, I'm not jealous at all 😂

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Fudge1980 in reply to Seb9

omg we are so lucky with her! Am so sorry you got bad sleepers 🫣. You never know I might be posting “HELP BABY NOT SLEEPING” 😂

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HollyT7

I would just keep it as it is. last thing you want to do is make her wake for an extra feed.... which we did 🙄 my moto for our second frostie is going to be.... never wake a sleeping baby 😂 xx

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Fudge1980 in reply to HollyT7

I should just feel lucky that she’s doing so good right?!?!?! Hope your doing well lovely xx 😘

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HollyT7 in reply to Fudge1980

she's doing really good! ❤️ enjoy it before a regression creeps in 😂

Thank you! I have two weeks left!! Sweep tomorrow 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼😂 xxx

yeah I would wait personally until that 2 am feed creeps later before trying dream feed to stretch / shift it out. Yeah do absolutely enjoy the sleep - not to fear monger but things can change at any point ☺️ With these babes!! Good luck x

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thanks! I am under no illusion lol I will enjoy it whilst it lasts x

Hi Fudge, we have a very similar sleep pattern and my little one is now 13 weeks! Something you could start to do now is a bedtime routine… a time before bed where you bath / bottle / bed at the same time each night. We’re now trying to implement a whole daily routine and that’s blooming hard. But they make sleep associations at 4 months so getting ahead will make it easier.

I’ve ummed and ahhed about the dream feed but we think since it largely works without we should leave it for now. They can still need to wake in the night and it’s unusual they’d go the whole night through until later (6 months ish) - personally we don’t mind the wake ups so will only introduce a dream feed once a full routine is established

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Fudge1980 in reply to Positivechangeplease

it’s a great idea I started last night we bathed and fed for 8pm then she went straight done till 1:30am then till 6am. I make sure I change her nappy first in the night so not to wake her after her bottle. It’s working so far 🤞🏼

Am so glad your little one is having good sleep too 😍. Is your little one having less sleep in the day? I’ve noticed she’s not sleeping as much in the day xx

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Positivechangeplease in reply to Fudge1980

she was actually having too much and it’s why we started her on a routine. She’s really struggling with the lack of sleep. This routine goes 7 to 7 with a long lunch time nap and a short morning and shorter afternoon nap. But for instance she woke at 6.16 this morning (which was only her second wake) so it sets her off badly… we do think she’s still reverting to her old bedtime of 8pm - so she’s still acclimatising to the changes… and it apparently can take a few days/weeks… but the idea is that she’s going down in her cot now for all her naps and by the end of the month can self settle

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Fudge1980 in reply to Positivechangeplease

I honestly think she would go longer at night but her trapped wind wakes her up and she’s a grunter lol.

I need to look into different sleep techniques or routines!

Which are you doing? With my son 24yrs ago it wasn’t really a thing we just let him take the lead but he didn’t sleep through for a while xx

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Positivechangeplease in reply to Fudge1980

yeah I was all kind of for letting her choose but getting her into good sleep habits can only be a good thing and it’s easier to plan a day with a routine. We’re doing the littleones baby sleep program.

We always change her nappy if she wakes in the night as it gets heavy. Although I know you don’t have to.

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Twiglet2

we were about the same as you at about 8 weeks and started a dream feed about half 11- midnight and by about 10 weeks he was sleeping through from 11-6.30am then going back down for another hour! We brought bed time a bit later though so he was up until about half 9-10 then over the months moved it slightly earlier. I would just go with what your gut and baby is telling you 😘 no harm in trying it for a few nights xx

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Fudge1980 in reply to Twiglet2

thanks lovely I am still considering a dream feed but probably in a while. Perhaps I shouldnt mess with her as she is setting her own routine?xx

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Twiglet2 in reply to Fudge1980

yeah they do what they want really 😂 so maybe just let her tell you what she wants 🥰 I only tried it to see if he was waking for food but actually later bed time ended up working better for us at that age so it can also be a bit trial and error sometimes. We’ve been so lucky that other than bad teething or heavy colds (and the week he learned to walk 😂) he’s slept most night since 10 weeks old for at least 8 hours but normally 11 hours so it might just be they like there sleep and leave then to it lol xx

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Fudge1980 in reply to Twiglet2

such a good sleeper you have! Oh teething I remember well. Highly recommend teething crystals 👌🏽 It’s weird I remember some things after 24yrs but other things I am struggle to figure out 🫣xx

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Twiglet2 in reply to Fudge1980

thank you 🥰 I think that’s him got all his teeth now hopefully (not venturing my fingers in these days much to check 🧛‍♂️ 🤣) he started getting them at 3 months which no one prepared me for 😂 I think we are all just muddling through tbh I’m forever asking people stuff that they look at me like I’m daft (my latest ‘when can I stop quartering the grapes and just give him it halved 😂) but my god sleep is thee most important thing you just don’t want to rock that boat at all lol xx

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XOXO13

Hey, when mine were little, as they were tiny and below birth weight for a while, I’d wake to feed every 3 hours. However, once above birth weight consistently, I never woke them in the night. My little girl has been sleeping through the night since she was 9 weeks old. My little boy hasn’t but he’s had a few challenges along the way which means he isn’t as settled. But even with him, I wait for him to wake me.

In the day, I’d wake them for a feed every 3 hours (4 now they’re older) which should keep them going through the night ☺️ Xx

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Fudge1980 in reply to XOXO13

thanks lovely 💗 I honestly think she’s getting herself in a routine on her own. Right now I am grateful that she sleeps 😍 She’s definitely topping up more in the day which is good for her. She took 5oz for the first time last night xx

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Bozo_the_pumpkin

what an interesting thread.. I’ve not even heard of dream feeding -I am totally behind with my knowledge. Baby is 6 weeks today and she is fussy and cluster feeding and wants only me.

To top it all off, she refuses to sleep in her cot so I am reduced to holding her right through the night! She wakes up every 2-3 hours and has always done .. but I thought babies should be fed every 3 hours or so? And does sleeping longer not increase the risk of SID?

I am clearly a bit late to the party… if anyone has some recommended reading/links/books I would appreciate. And advice on how to get her to sleep in her cot would be useful too-although I have to say that I am not keen on having her cry herself to sleep!

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Twiglet2 in reply to Bozo_the_pumpkin

I think there is mixed school of thought on this in terms of ‘waking’ baby to feed every 3 hours and never wake a sleeping baby my midwife said it really depends on circumstances (bottle or breast, how much they are taking, if they are gaining weight and how young they are). Our little guy moved from 25th to 91st percentile within weeks so we didn’t see the need to keep him ‘topped up’ so religiously as he was having lots of milk when he did feed. There’s nothing on the nhs website about it preventing SIDS. For the co-sleeping you’ve probably already tried it all but have you put an item of your clothing in a next to me crib right next to your bed and warmed up the crib a little for her getting in? That and me having my hand on my little guys tummy or stroking his face, white noise and a star projector helped him settle in his cot. We also had swaddles and then sleep bags (he preferred arms out ones) and that all helped him sleep soundly in his own little next to me crib probably about a foot away from me but made all the difference to my nights sleep (and his) 🤗 xx

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Sim2015

I would actually wake them properly at 11 to try and ensure a substantial feed as opposed to dream feeding. It’s been recommended to me to do it this way (baby due any second). Just thought I’d throw it out there.

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Ell493

That's what I do (and it works) but I waited until 10 weeks.

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Emdog87

I would leave her. Babies can wake out of habit so you might find she wakes twice in a night.

My little girl was exactly the same, she was going 7/8pm to 4/5am some nights then back to sleep until 9am but sadly this all changed after the 4 month sleep regression. She’s still a good sleeper but not like she used to be!

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