Well.... It's official no hope of surgery any time soon so back to square one 🙉

[Positive2022]

Had official confirmation that there is no hope of my planned surgery going ahead any time soon. After being cancelled twice i'm just devastated. I think I cried more today then ever. But at least it's out of my system. Just need to find some way of getting some closure and acceptance on things. Hope you are all okay. Sending love and hugs as always ♥️

[Hidden]

Oh so sorry to hear this. Have you spoken to PALS. Maybe when things start getting back to normal your GP could write to the department and do an expedite letter explaining your situation? I’m constantly sending of expedite letters for patients and it can work xx

[Positive2022 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your reply. I spoke to my GP the other day (about something different) and mentioned that I am feeling very low about how i've been left after giving birth (multiple complications requiring surgery... Unable to try for more children until surgery is done etc...) and she wrote a letter for me. Sadly made no difference. I was told that they have already responded to my GP saying that there is nothing that can be done given the current climate. After my surgery was cancelled in February (for unnecessary reasons according to my consultant) I sent a letter to PALS. Got me no where in the end but i'm half tempted to write another letter to them. Just feel so cross that I have been left in such a bad way through no fault of my own. I'm looking into counselling (if services are running) to try and get some closure on things as i'm starting to think perhaps I just need to accept that this is how i'm going to be from now on 😔

[Hidden in reply to Positive2022]

Maybe once they start announcing that services are going to start running again ask the GP to send that letter again as it’s always possible they will then consider it. Definitely chase PALS. I know it’s hard thinking your being a nuisance but honestly there are people out there who kick up a fuss for much less of a problem than you are and they get somewhere.

Maybe try and take this time as you can’t do anything to move this forward to take time for you and recharge and prepare yourself mentally for when things start getting back to normal.

I can’t imagine how you are feeling but I know I would be exactly the same as you and would really struggle so big hugs xx

[Positive2022 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks lovely. I feel like i'm such a nuisance and I hate feeling like this but i've had such a bad patient experience that i don't want to be a number lost in the system, although that's how it feels at the moment. My GP has been fantastic and i'm sure will support me. I even feel a nuisance to her as i have taken up so much of her time already. Thanks for giving me the encouragement to write to PALS. If I don't get anywhere soon this will be my next step. Take care ♥️

[QT314]

Hi! I have no advice to give but wanted to say I'm sorry to hear that and that you're going through this. Sending you hugs x

[Positive2022 in reply to QT314]

Thank you ♥️ such a difficult time for so many of us isn't it?!?

[gillyl]

So sorry to hear this, thinking of you xx

[Positive2022 in reply to gillyl]

Thank you, i know im not alone in feeling the effects of covid and there are far more urgent cases out there but it was devastating news to hear. Somehow we manage to pick ourselves up dust ourselves off and move forwards but it keeps getting harder and harder 😔

[Arya10]

So sorry to hear this. Definitely look into some counselling to help you process, it’s even worth it purely for the trauma you’ve been through - think of it as getting your mind healthy for whenever things do open up again and you do get your surgery (and potentially try for another baby - I’m sure you’d be apprehensive about complications again so work through this with a counsellor). They are doing telephone and zoom counselling.

Corona won’t last forever, lockdown won’t last forever, you WILL have your surgery! I know this doesn’t help you right now. Don’t give up, don’t just accept it, you won’t be this way forever.

Once you feel upto it, I would just periodically write letters to whoever (including your MP), like you say you don’t want to fall through the cracks, just keep speaking up to not be forgotten. You’ve got this xx

[Positive2022 in reply to Arya10]

Thank you for your amazing words of wisdom !! I emailed our local counselling service. I received an email back saying they are closed indefinitely and to just 'hang on in there' i was v surprised that they didn't offer a phone call 🤔 managed to speak to health visitor briefly and have a telephone consultation booked for next week so i can go through everything and see what services are actually running and what help is available. Once this is over, i feel I want to put everything in writing which i think will help me move forwards. I think the upshot of everything is the fear of not being able to have any more children. I hope you are doing okay. Fingers 🤞 we get some good news from the government tomorrow