Hello everyone

Hi all, I'm Sam and a newbie here 👋

I'm a mum to a 12year old daughter & currently 12 weeks pregnant with baby number 2. I'm looking forward to getting to know others & support/get involved as much as possible as well as at times looking for advice etc too 😊

[Missjej85]

Welcome to the group and congrats on your pregnancy 🤗.. the community here is great and very supportive which is ideal especially in times like this!.. iv found it really helpful hope you will too xx

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Thank you so much xx

[Sevy571]

Welcome!

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Thank you 🙂

[Winter_Girl]

Hi Sam. We've already spoken but I just wanted to say hello 🖐

How is your daughter feeling about becoming a big sister at 12? I became a big sister for the first time at 7 and for the last time at 15!

Are you finding that lots of the advice has changed since having your daughter?

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Ahh thank you for your message 😊

hello lovely, we had tears at first it's by a new partner & as it's been me & Christiana for so long (living together) she was worried I would leave her out & not have time for her anymore 😪 so I found there was a few weeks of loads of reassurance & lots of questions (will we have to move home, will the dad move in etc) one thing she said which bought a lump to my throat was she was worried about people judging me as I'd have 2 children by 2 different fathers but sat & explained how she shouldn't have to worry as relationships break down all the time etc & people move on (she's extremely sensitive) but she's really excited now & desperate for a baby brother haha

I'm actually amazed at how much things have changed, I find myself scanning the site for topics that I might want to find out but someone may have asked so its definitely helping me & the replies have been so helpful especially atm to my nausea/sickness situation. I've got my first scan next Wednesday which is exciting 🤗🤗

I hope all is well with you? Xx

[Winter_Girl in reply to Hidden]

Awww bless her! That is so hard. My parents separated and both had children with different partners (said siblings). I was an only child for 7 years then had a brother and sister within a year! I did love it though, I've always been quite maternal so had my own little dolls to play with!

It sounds like you have done everything to reassure her and keep her involved. I'm sure she will love being a big sister and helping out with the baby. Fingers crossed for a boy 🤞😂 Will you find out?

Glad you're finding the help and advice useful - it's invaluable having support and that reassurance is so important, I have found.

Ahhhh that's so exciting, bet you can't wait. Let us know how it goes xx

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I think she's always struggled with the fact her dad & I aren't together although we split 10years ago after 10years together & he moved on before I did, but she always tells me she wants to be happy - shes literally my little best friend 🥰

Thank you, your right it's a great support group I had never heard of NCT until i became a nanny & my bosses spoke about NCT groups & found this group once i followed a link on google for leaky boobs 😃

I'm so excited, I had a private scan really early on (6wks 5days) as I was on the pill so wanted to make sure all was ok, it's been nerve wracking the rest of the time up until my 1st nhs scan but hoping all will be well.

I didnt want to find out at first but my partner & daughter do so now I'm had my arm twisted that I've booked a gender scan at 17 weeks as I'm now impatient haha

I'll defo keep you all updated 🤗 xx

[Winter_Girl in reply to Hidden]

Christiana sounds like a real credit to you. 😊 xx

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Thank you ♥️ xx

[mushy19]

Hi Sam

Congratulations 🥳 on your pregnancy, I hope all continues to go well for you.

I also have a older daughter who is now 11.5yrs old and I am currently 32weeks pregnant.

Although this baby has the same father as my daughter we have still had a lot of questions and worries from her. Will we love the baby more etc

Totally understandable as she has been our only child for all these years and the centre of both our worlds.

When we first told her she broke down in tears of happiness. I think she had resided to the idea of being a only child forever after years of asking for a sibling. Unbeknown to her we had fertility issues and needed to undergo IVF treatment.

We also had more tears from her of shock and disbelief when we found out it will be a boy... as she wanted a girl, I guess we all just presumed it would be a girl.. So needed time to get used to the idea.

I found getting her involved in decisions and shopping for baby, being my weekly bump photographer and choosing his name has really helped her to see the positives of being a big sister to a brother. I booked a 3/4D scan at 24weeks just for her which melted her little heart seeing her brother looks just like her.

She’s being really helpful and bossy towards me, telling me what I can and can’t do/eat which has been so nice.

I was originally worried about the age gap but I’m not anymore more. I now think it’s going to be brilliant having her there hands on and in the thick of things.

I am very excited for the future.

Looking forward to your updates. Stay safe and take care. x

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Thank you for your msg & congratulations to you too 🥰

I love the idea of your daughter being your photographer & helping to choose babies name. My daughter is excited about the baby shopping part & will check everyday I've taken my folic acid., she's informed me that once I get to a certain stage I can't drive anymore 😀🤦🏼‍♀️

She had a moment lastnight where I had to let her get it out her system, she asked me for something & I said no to which she replied I bet you'll buy for the baby though - that was quite frustrating as I always reassure her they will be treated equally but I just let her have her moment. Thankfully all was ok within a few minutes.

I'm so pleased you're daughter is excited now, please keep us updated too

Take care also xx