Not a question just more of an update. Doesn't it feel strange that despite all the years of trying, failing, putting the pieces back together, coming up with a plan and trying again.... finally getting a bfp, then failing.... getting another and waiting on the second dreaded 2ww for reassurance that this is the time.... starting to nervously let people know at 12 weeks..... getting all set at work for handover and all the while a bump growing. Doesn't it feel strange that I now start to have waves of realisation that we are imminently expecting to bring a new life into this world? How can I not have realised this before? This is what we have been aiming for for all these years. A true miracle. My oh marvels at just how big the bump can get, delights in getting a kick in the head even. And still we have moments where we are only just realising.
Maybe it's because of the pain and heartache we have been through, some kind of self defense mechanism has still been there, acting as an emotional curtain?
Who knows?
But slowly (and very soon) we will realise and our little miracle will be here. I am so cautiously excited! 🤗
Another miracle happened yesterday too. We hadn't realised that mamas and papas comes flat packed!! Oh dear. Building flat packed furniture is NEVER a good thing. We always get narky at each other. Not yesterday. Me with my bump, my oh with his recently broken collarbone (I know right? Great timing). We didn't argue once. Only one part upside down, but we got there.
Maybe we will be ok. Oh my goodness, this shits getting real!
Big hugs to all. Good luck at whatever stage you are at. And eeeeek! Stay calm?!?!? Xx
I know right. I'm 34 +6 and suddenly the nursery is basically finished, the pram is sitting in the hall, tha Scotland baby box has arrived and the bump is getting bigger and bigger by the day. This means that in 5 short weeks there is gonna be a baby here. Ahhhhh!!
Aw not long now! I found it so hard to believe it was happening up until she was in my arms.
I can’t say the same about me and hubby with the flat packed furniture 😂 we argued tons and I was at work for most of the time he was building it.
This picture also makes me laugh as my friend who think she knows everything about motherhood said I would never use a changing table and it’s a waste but we are still using it to this day and my LG is 16 months. Saves a lot of back ache!! Xx
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Yes, I have asked lots of friends what the one thing is they couldn't live without. That, and a nappy bin are pretty top x
You popped into my head the other day as I knew your due date was coming up just before mines!
Love that you are finally accepting things have turned out how you imagined. It’s so difficult and I totally struggled to enjoy the pregnancy as well.
Imagine my surprise when LO decided to make an early appearance on Saturday with no warning 😂. Baby Adeline was born at 36+5 weighing 7lb 5 already with a full head of hair ❤️.
Whole new level of worrying takes over as soon as they are here and I miss her being safe inside me 🙈. But she is the best thing that’s ever happened and worth all the pain and heartache along the way!x
Oh wow. That's amazing. Congratulations to you all. I am nowhere near ready. On holiday from work but still manage to be sat here eating my breakfast and logged into my laptop with last minute requests! X
Get off the laptop and start relaxing! I managed 5 days off work before she was born, all the grand plans of nesting and getting some Netflix time in went out the window x
Oh completely because of the journey we’re extra cautious at believing it fully! I’ve spoken to woman who haven’t had struggles and they have/had worries but not in the same way.
Thank you for posting your journey, and in such a positive way and for keeping us updated. You’ve given me so much hope (although I’m sitting here at 11 weeks worrying if baby is ok, I’m sure that will continue!).
Nursery is looking fab and motherhood is imminent!! Believe it xx
I am getting there he he. Each milestone feels like such an achievement, although still tinged with worry and a bit of guilt as we know lots of other people are still struggling.
Hopefully we can all focus on the positives at least a little to get us through. Like getting kicked about from the inside- that is so sore sometimes I feel all bruised, but at the same time really reassuring xx
I feel guilt too and think about everyone still struggling, when I’ve said this to OH or to someone close to me they don’t understand. It’s like a club that you’ve been part of so long and always routing for each other, that doesn’t stop. I have a long way to go myself though.
Feeling baby would reassure me, looking forward to that, it’s strange not feeling anything (other than the usual symptoms), your next milestone will be a pretty big one!! Eeeeeeep!
It won't be long. When I first felt anything it was like small muscle spasms, a bit like when you get an overactive muscle in your finger or eye, except once and barely perceptible. But that got stronger and more frequent. Probably took until 18 weeks before I started to even notice that. Enjoy every part where you can xx
I still can't believe it's happening even though she's kicking hell out of me!! How are you feeling? I'm really calm about the birth but bricking it about having a baby (I know, I know, that's the whole point we've been waiting and working for all this time, but I'm petrified about doing things wrong!!)
Yes that! Ha ha. It's amazing isn't it. It is the one thing we have all focused on for such a long time. I guess we spend so much time on getting pregnant, we kind of almost forget the outcome in some ways. It is all getting real. Today I have also cleaned the drains! Ha ha - the glamour has started x
So fab to read this message. I'm still in denial now and Luna will be 12 weeks on Friday!
People find this really weird but I know people here will understand how I feel. You wait so long for it that it never seems believable. Even after success you don't forget this journey. Maybe I'm even more proud to be a mum though after all I've been through.
We’re heading back next week for a couple months. Can’t wait to see everyone and also miss winter. It is -2 this morning! We then come back permanently in December as I’ve just taken redundancy at work.
Hopefully soon, but not too soon as my brothers wedding is 1 week before dd. Ha ha. I have no idea what to wear but getting my makeup done for the first time ever. Hope I don't feel like a beached whale drag queen he he x
You sound just like I did and even still do.
I couldn’t bring myself to believe that everything would be ok and I was having a baby. Even in labour I couldn’t take it in and now at nearly four weeks I still have to pinch myself that she is here, she is ours and she is just perfect. I get so overwhelmed with love for her just looking at her I’m sure people think I’m mad. I completely feel humbled that we got lucky.
Look forward to seeing your post when your wee toots arrives xxx
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Aww thanks Snuggles. I am sure I will be exactly the same as you xx
We were exactly the same as you and even now... my miracle here it feels surreal. Enjoy the last couple of weeks, the best moments of your life are around the corner ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
That's great. You must be so excited! Get your sleep in (as much as you can!) now and be sure to go on a few dates with your partner before the little one arrives!
You don't know the sex yet do you? So exciting. Wishing you a happy birth story.
Oooo exciting, all the best for the arrival when they decide to show up 😀 I’m going into sad mode as in just over 2 months I’ll have to go back to work and leave my precious cargo in the hands of someone else for 5 days a week 😢 Just as they start to get really interesting too 😊 x
Hehe! Shit is definitely getting real!! I seem to say that daily at the moment! haha! You, OH and bubba have totally got this hun! Lots of love to you all xxx
Veryyy big hugs to u lovely! I am sooo happy for you! Hope u have a smooth and great delivery and so excited that u will meet your little miracle soon! Wish u all the best in the world!xoxoxo
I can imagine how u feel honey and it is so exciting😍Just take a great care of yourself and everything gonna work fantastic,I know😍😘🤗🤗🤗
Ahhh. It's amazing watching your bump grow and feeling your little one move around. My little girl used to stick her knee out to the left and still did it when she was born! I honestly really miss being pregnant! Such a nice milestone to put the furniture together too - well done for not arguing 😂 Are you keeping the gender a surprise? Xx
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Yes, although we have very strong feelings it will be a boy. We will get a shock if a girl pops out ha ha x
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We were surprised twice; my OH announced "it's a boy" and when I picked her up and looked I announced "it's a girl" 😂 x
Awwww, your post has just brought tears to my eyes so couldn’t read and run! I think when you’ve had so much heartache along the way, it’s hard to fully believe until little one is here.. Your so close to getting your miracle! ❤️
Flat pack furniture is the worst! Luckily for me my husband has zero patience with me and does everything himself but I agree with other ladies, once you’ve mastered it together, your set to conquer the world! 😂
Thank you so much. I am sorry I made you cry! It wasn't my intention. The chest of drawers was a victory and a milestone he he. But we still haven't even opened the boxes for the other stuff 🙄. We will get there x
Most definitely could do babe sudden and unexpected lol but you’ve done all the hard work getting to this point , I am so happy for you and your partner!
I totally feel you. I remember we had our transfer on the same dates and what a rollercoaster to get here. I too had a big moment of realisation today, I came back from hospital where I was expected to have an ECV but to our surprise we found out that baby had turned head down these last few days. I got home and started washing the baby clothes I would need to put in the hospital bag and started crying. . A mix of fear, excitement, happiness and thinking what a journey it has been to get here.
I still have two weeks left, feeling exhausted, can’t sleep, can’t sit and moved recently to new house which still needs some works being done - nevertheless we’re almost there and every time I feel my baby move in my tummy is such a joy.
A whole new part of myself has come out during this journey, I wish the very best to all of us - we’ve been fighting for the most precious thing in life x
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You, OH and bubba have totally got this hun! Lots of love to you all xxx
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