Not ready to leave my child

[Emzyjade]

My baby boy is 9 weeks old and I dont wanna leave his side, but my boyfriend is wanting to take him out without me. Am I been horrible or unreasonable for saying no? I know hes the dad and wants to do things alone with him but I'm not ready for him to be out my sight, but his dad doesnt seem to understand that

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Maybe start with a short period of time and build up. How about you start by leaving baby and dad at home and pop to the shop? That way you’re in charge of how long you’re away rather than having to wait for them to come back.

[Kempton]

Perhaps you could suggest going out for coffee as a family. Then get your partner to do nappy changes or you get the drinks in leaving them to get seated. Sounds silly but these are all small steps. Then build up to you popping to a nearby shop while they are in the coffee shop together. Eventually you're going to want a bit of time!

Or if being out is scary, can you try having baby sleeping in a different room with his dad, in moses basket/carry cot, while you sleep in the bedroom (I'm sure you need your sleep!).

I don't think I didn't want my partner taking baby out but I do remember feeling nervous that he might get something wrong without me there.

I remember going out to the shop (literally cornershop) and leaving my sleeping baby with his daddy. I got the food and literally ran back to our flat (not good after an episiotomy!). Think I even cried when I got in. Obviously baby was fast asleep beside his daddy (reading in bed) and perfectly happy.

You've carried him for 9 months. It's a bond like no other. But remember his daddy cares for him too. Small steps. Then one day you'll be yelling at your boyfriend to take the baby out because you need 5 mins lol if you're anything like me that is!!

I'd also say it's really important they have their time together. I'm finding that now with baby number 2 on the way, it's really a reassuring knowing that my son's dad will be able have him for a few hours while I spend time bonding with the newborn. And of course vice versa. It's one thing my friends with multiple kids suggest, making sure both parents get one on one time with both children.

Best of luck. Enjoy your newborn