Pregnant

[Loulou123886]

Hi guys I'm new here I found out I was pregnant on Saturday now I'm terrified I'm gonna go for my 12 week scan and there going to be no baby has anyone else felt this xx

[MammaAya]

Yes I have felt this. My first daughter is 3 and a half yrs. When I was pregnant with her I had symptoms that resembled a miscarriage- bleeding and pain. It happened at 7 weeks and at 5 months. My baby girl came out totally healthy the day after her due date. Now I'm pregnant again and having the same symptoms. I have now found out that many women have these symptoms and it doesn't mean high risk or anything. I felt so much fear with my first pregnancy I really think it's the thing I will work on most with this one-time to overcome the fear. Wish you all the best

[Loulou123886 in reply to MammaAya]

Thank you hun and congrats x

[Kempton]

I doubt you are alone in this. I'm about 9 weeks and as I've had so few symtoms, it's hard to believe anything is happening! My hubby isn't even getting excited yet as "I haven't seen anything yet so I'm waiting".

In some ways ivf was easier as at least we got to see our baby's heartbeat at 7 weeks.

Just keep calm, eat well and keep busy. You'll get to 12 weeks soon and wonder what you were worrying about! Best of luck!

[Loulou123886 in reply to Kempton]

Awww thank you so much for replying my husbands so excited one thing that is happening is im crying a lot over stupid things like having no bread forgetting my purse and so on xx

[Kempton in reply to Loulou123886]

Hormones!!!

[Mitt45 in reply to Loulou123886]

Defo hormones! I'm 14+4 and last night was crying because my husband took my wii and guitar hero to the charity shop because I wont be able to play it again. I haven't played it in years! Was laughing at myself in between my genuine tears 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[PastyC]

Feeling the same, this is my first and am so paranoid they wont see anything there at the first scan...another 4 weeks to wait....man they make you wait! The anxiety is unreal and I've never been an anxious person before. Then the waves of nausea come and the irrational crying and I remind myself my body clearly is behaving pregnant But I too am crying at everything and crying because I'm worried I can't do this or am gonna be a terrible mum. Any tips for natural remedies to anxiety please share with us!

[Kata89]

Yes I did! I’d had early miscarriages including a pregnancy of unknown location, sac but no embryos. But she was there wriggling around, so I was definitely convinced I was going to have a baby at that point. However, the worries kept going through out my pregnancy just they changed, now she’s 7 months I’m still worrying about everything so it doesn’t stop. Good luck with the scan!!

[Hidden]

Hey love, if you can, going for a private viability scan from 7 weeks is a good option. It would have to be private as the NHS don’t offer these. They check the development and position of the embryo and it’s really reassuring x

[copperkettle4]

I had the exact same worry Loulou! Other than feeing a bit grotty there were so few signs that it was hard to know if there was baby there - I was convinced they would look in there and find nothing! It made me extra emotional at the 12 weeks scan when I did see her waving her little arms and legs around in there! It feels like a long wait getting to the 12 week scan but you'll be there before you know it. Easier said than done but best just to switch off a bit until you reach the scan! x

[NewPharma]

I've just been for my 12 week scan and had convinced myself on the morning I didn't want to go and didn't want to look at the screen at first.. then before you know it baby is on the screen wriggling and it's the most amazing thing. I hadn't had many symptoms apart from extreme tiredness so know exactly how your feeling!

[laurafig]

Definitely had this feeling. It’s such a surreal moment when you find out and the embryo is only the size of a sesame seed at the beginning so no wonder we don’t really have a connection. This is why you wait for a scan.... because if you scan too soon you will really not have much to see.

I’m now nearly 21 weeks and it still feels surreal. I still don’t look that pregnant... just a bit bloated and it’s easy to hide. We just had our 20 week scan and it still blew our mind that a baby the size of a kitten was in there!

What I’ve learnt is that all media, tv and books about pregnancy just show a huge glowing bump but the reality is that it takes 9 months for your little one to develop and it’s not an overnight thing. It takes time and it’s gradual... just keep listening to your body and take one week or day at a time 👍

[pinkie93]

I'm 18 weeks and still take pregnancy tests occasionally because of this fear, it's pretty normal.

[kirstyblue]

You sound just like I was!! In fact I’m 19 weeks now and I still doubt it even though ive has 3 scans and have a belly 😂 completely normal to feel like this but a positives a positive and baby doesn’t just disappear.

Wishing you all the best x

[Loulou123886]

Got a scan Friday and consultant they want they think it may be twins

[Hidden]

I didn’t used to have any anxiety with my first 2 pregnancies had scans all was good so when I got pregnant with #3 thought it be the same but we’ve had 2 non viable pregnancies found at 12w scans and 1 found at 9w only because I asked for an earlier scan still mc at 12w. After 3 mc you get earlier scans were at the point were we don’t build any hopes up now to avoid disappointment.

[Loulou123886]

I went for my scan im 6 weeks and 4days baby is fine heartbeat was seen so now I can chill back for a scan at 12 weeks x thanks you for all your comments x