hello
hope you’re all well. I have mental health nurse doing home visit tomorrow and I’m going to try my hardest to admit to self harm/distress I have felt this week. It’s at 3:00 tomorrow. We also going through and making a care plan so labour is managed best way possible with ptsd triggers so hopefully goes well.
Has anyone else done one of these care plans and have any advice ?
Take care, me 
I haven't has to do a care plan or anything but I have seen the mental health midwife at the hospital.
I suffer depression and anxiety and was so anxious about telling her how I felt because I didn't want her to think I would be an incapable mother. She asked about my support and I have an amazing fiancé, both sides of family and close friends. Filled in some papers to test my levels of anxiety and depression and eventually I opened up to her. She was actually really nice about it all and didn't judge. I no longer felt she thought I would be an unfit mother.
I would definitely recommend telling her hun. Especially if you struggle mentally in the future, they can help more with having the understanding. Wishing you all the best! Xx
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
I find it hard to share with the nurse because even though she’s so lovely and kind, something is putting a barrier between us. I’m ok with my MH midwife and psychologist but this nurse I struggle to connect with. This is only my third time meeting her.
Obviously only share what you want to but do you mean you disclosed self harm or solely depression/anxiety?
It can be hard to let people in. Some people you just can't gel with. I had depression When I was younger where I self harmed. After a few attempts at counselling and meeting my fiancé I was okay but after having 3 miscarriages I started with the depression and anxiety.
Are you having any help with how you're feeling? Like counselling or any medication? If not maybe it's worth having a chat with your doctor.
I hope your meeting wasn't too bad xx
Hey thanks for your message. To make things worse with our relationship she had forgotten our apt so after waiting 40mins I spoke to lady in office and was told that. I had to sit in the bathroom for a few mins as I was feeling bit eugh!
I stopped counselling recently while doing trauma group, and came off medication when was pregnant. My midwife did suggest about going on medication and to discuss with MH nurse. I not keen on medication while pregnant.
Have apt with GP tomo and then group so will see how day goes. How are you?
Ahh :/. That's probably not helped things :/. Has she rebooked with you?
I was very unsure about medication and refused to take it which actually made me a lot worse. I was on sertraline before finding out I was pregnant and stopped when I found out. After a few months and a lot of talking with doctors n my midwife, I started taking it again. It is the safest one to be on while pregnant and no medication goes into the breast milk. Although I'm on 50mg at the moment and have spoke about increasing it, my mental health midwife said even if I needed 200mg, the worst that would happen is our boy may have a bit of wind when he's born.
It maybe something to consider if you think it'll help. One doctor asked if I wasn't pregnant would I take it to which I replied yes so that's why I restarted. It's better to keep you on a steady emotional level than up and down.
I'm doing well thanks hun. Hope you manage to get things sorted x
Thank you for sharing your experiences it’s helpful to hear. I hear a few people of sertaline, have you found it helpful? Yes I know what you mean because when nurse let me down, my 3yr old niece playing playdough with my mum and I sat there and she didn’t notice but I was so knocked I went to bathroom, as I said, to sit there on own because knew I’d gone into a shut down mode! I heard new GP is a lady and meant to be nice so hopefully il have a good chat with her! I do feel quite alone in the MH side of things.
No nurse off sick so they said she will task her to be in touch ASAP as she’s going on holiday soon! I was more knocked because I’d psyched self to be honest and planned few things so think that’s why took me some time
Great to hear things for you are ok x
Ahh I see. Hopefully your GP will be nice and you can open up to her a bit. Fingers crossed it goes well tomorrow for you!
It has helped. I don't have half as many down days as I did. Once I got past the first 2 weeks of slight side effects and it got in my system I have been coping better. Me and my fiancé communicate better too. Before I just just to shout at him or get all emotional all the time n I didn't open up to him. It worth talking to your GP about if you think it'll help.
Thank you x
Fortunately apt is 8:20am so can get seen first thing
I do talk to my fiancé too. I’m unable to go into details because he gets angry at those who have hurt me so I keep details to self and so if triggered I keep that to self often too! I’m sure if i opened up he would listen because he is a good listener.
I’m glad you’ve found your way through in a manageable way and I thank you again for your supportive comments x
How was your appointment hun?
I know what you mean but I'm sure he'd rather you turn to him than bottle it up and get upset.
Thanks hun. I still have bad days but they're bearable. We have little bundles of joy to bring in the world :). I'm sure you'll be an amazing mother! X
I have not had a mental health nurse but I go to counselling for infant loss. I would suggest writing all your concerns and questions down and having the list to go through. I often do this for consultant and midwife meetings because I hate once they leave I have forgotten to say or ask something. I hope they are supportive for you x
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