I'm ten weeks pregnant and I went in for a sonogram yesterday and the dr said he didn't see anything in the sac but we did at 6 weeks.

[Lisa1985]

I am so so scared because I didn't have a miscarriage and it's like my baby " disappeared " . I haven't had any pain , cramping, bleeding , spotting , nothing. Everything has been going perfect. He didn't say I had to have a D&C . He said I can go back in a couple weeks to do another scan. The baby isn't in my tubes either and my uterus and sac are big and measuring the right size for ten weeks. What could possibly be going on ?? Please please help me !!

[deemuir]

Hi I have no idea what to say but wanted to reply as noticed no one has yet.

pregnancy is a confusing time as it is without drs not being able to explain whats going on when something unexpected occurs.

Have you tried to get hold of your midwife to ask her to explain what it could mean or possibly your gp.

Make a list of questions and make sure they answers them in person rather thanover phone.

Take comfort in that you get to have another scan in a few weeks time but do talk to someone before then.

do you have a good support network and someone to talk to as well?

sorry not much help but the ladies on here are very supportive and always willing to listen. Xx

[Lisa1985 in reply to deemuir]

The dr is the one that did the scan. I don't have a midwife because I can't have my babies naturally. I've had to have two previous c-sections because my oldest son was breech. Thank u so much for your help.

[gigglysheep]

I am so sorry to read that ur scan didnt go well. I'm sure there are a number of reasons as to why they couldn't locate the baby and not all of them known to us without being medically trained.

A few possibilities that I am only guessing at:

1. Maybe baby was playing hide and seek with the sonographer. They are so tiny at that stage (only approx 20-30mm) and have such a vast space to swim around in that it is possible they found a dark corner to hide in.

2. Maybe ur carrying a lot of fluid, making it hard to see baby?

This situation must be very frightening and confusing for u. I know this is easier said than done, but in the interim between now and the follow up scan, u need to try to stay positive and relax. Stress is no good for the little one. Also, make sure u have a support network as u will probably need it with either outcome. As Deemuir said, the ladies here are always ready to listen so use the post section as a blog and get all ur feelings out. I have done so a few times during this pregnancy and each time have felt so much better just to have vented it out.

I really hope u get a more positive follow up scan and will keep everything crossable crossed for u xx good luck

[Lisa1985 in reply to gigglysheep]

Thank you. I will keep this in mind . I pray that it's one of those two. I keep getting bigger and growing like I'm suppose to. Just so scared. I know my baby didn't just disappear

[wizzywoo]

The replies you have had from the other two ladies on here are spot on. It was not good that you have been left so confused and uncertain about what is going on. They obviously think that it has not been a miscarriage as they would have told you in no uncertain terms if they thought baby had gone and they would have been giving you your options to complete the process. So like Gigglysheep said they must just think it is some kind of viewing issue. But two weeks is a very long time to be left in the dark and so uncertain. I would contact the hospital or clinic where you had the scan asap and tell them they have not explained things clearly enough to you and you need to know what's happening as quite naturally its stressing you out! Two weeks also seems a very long time to wait for another scan. I would query why there is this delay and whether they could do another one sooner so that you can find out what's going on sooner.

You do need to know one way or another asap and I just don't think a two week delay is fair on you and your emotions.

I am also surprised you haven't been allocated a midwife. I too have complications with my pregnancy and am under consultant led care but I still have a midwife to go to about more day-to-day, mundane issues. I would query this with them. My midwife is a great support resource and I can phone any time with queries which is really helpful if you have a complicated pregnancy.

Fingers crossed for you and let us know how you get on.

[kaz123_3]

Hi I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I just wanted to say that at the beginning of my pregnancy I had a similar situation as I was 9 weeks pregnant and when I went for an early scan they told me that they could see the sac but no baby I wasn't told anything and I clearly got worried due to having 2 previous miscarriages, but when I went back 2 weeks due to the bleed still happening they could see my baby and it turned out I wasn't as far gone as my dates worked out even though I had been monitoring and my periods due to trying for #2 and I knew my first date of my AF was 9th April 2013 I still don't know exactly how things happened but I now have 7 weeks to go until I meet my second little boy and I can't wait. So keep your hopes up hun if there was a problem I'm sure they would say if something is wrong I hope this helps you feel little more positive :-). xx

[Lisa1985 in reply to kaz123_3]

Thanx . I'm very concerned because I went today from another another doctors off that ordered a scan and I can part of the baby like a leg or an arm . I'm only measuring 9w 4d but for the last couple days I keep having this weird brown discharge and smears in my panties and when I wipe . Any idea what that could be ?

[Hidden in reply to Lisa1985]

I had that and as its dark its basically old blood..if it was bright red I wud b concerned but the brownish colour shudnt b a problem x