17 weeks tommorow... Feeling down

[Baby_j]

Hi ladies, just wanted to get some stuff off my chest.

Ill be 17 weeks tommorow, everywhere i turn there are woman will bellys much bigger than mine. I have the smallest bump i think and i know ive mentioned it before, but i just want to look noticably pregnant!

Also me and the other half have been arguing non stop latley. Its got to the point where i'm staying at my mums and hes saying he has to 'think about what he wants' and that whatever happens 'he'll always be there for me and baby'. Hes never said this before, we've been together coming up to nearly 4 years.

It started when i had to quit my job, due to it affecting my pregnancy so i been out of a job for 2 weeks. Ive always worked and never been without a job so its kinda weird for me. Obvs just my boyfriend working and i understand hes stressed out having to work overtime and stuff, but my self esteem has gone downhill, especially as im finding it hard to grt a job, and if i do i wont be in it for long maybe untill just before i give birth.

Im just so stressed and tired, i wouldnt of left my job if i didnt have to and im scared that ill be left to look after baby single handedly. I hope its just a phase we're going through. I do have fanily support which is good.

Sorry for rambling! Just wanted to get everything out

X

[2princes1princess]

Hi hun, im.pretty sure your bump is perfect so dont get worrying about that, you will have scan next few weeks and you will see your little bubble all happy and cosy as for men! Well from my experience they are incredibly selfish. Everyone argues but hun dont stay together for the baby you got to do what's right for you both and sort things accordingly. Ive just put this website on a different post but its worth a look to see what help with money you guys are entitled too. Www.entitledto.co.uk xxxx chin uphun.really hope thinga work out for you xxxx

[Baby_j in reply to 2princes1princess]

Yeah i had my 12 week scan and saw the lil one which im happy about. And heard the heartbeat aswell. Its just annoying cuz i want to look pregnant so its actually believeable if that makes sense!

Ill have a look on the website. Thanks very much for ur help x

[2princes1princess in reply to Baby_j]

Don't forget your only 17weeks hun your bump will be enormous soon lol yea I know what you mean lol I didn't 'feel' pregnant with my youngest until 20wk scan when found sex out and I started buying blue lol xx

[mumtobe_ras]

Hi Hunny, I'm so sorry you're feeling down. It must be hard enough going through all the emotions associated with pregnancy, then having to leave your job and to top it of problems between you and your partner.

Firstly don't worry about the size of your bump, I'm nearly 18 wks and my bump is virtually absent. It doesn't mean anything is wrong or your baby is not healthy...I had the same worries as you and spoke to my midwife who put my mid at rest. If you still have doubts, put your mind at rest and speak to your midwife, don't scare yourself hun...its not good for you.

Your boyfriend probably just needed to think about things and like you said he is stressed and probably scared as you...I hope you both work things out.

[Baby_j in reply to mumtobe_ras]

I know i properbly sound stupid wanting a massive belly! But i think id feel more closer to the lik one and more happeir if i were to look pregnant.

I am scared and a little worried as ill be having my own child and i want the best for them, but we been through alottogeter and managed to cope then, so im worried he'll just get up an go (although he says he wouldnt ever do that) but my emotions are all over the place so it hard for me to try and keep calm

X

[mumtobe_ras]

Hi Hunny, I'm so sorry you're feeling down. It must be hard enough going through all the emotions associated with pregnancy, then having to leave your job and to top it of problems between you and your partner.

Firstly don't worry about the size of your bump, I'm nearly 18 wks and my bump is virtually absent. It doesn't mean anything is wrong or your baby is not healthy...I had the same worries as you and spoke to my midwife who put my mid at rest. If you still have doubts, put your mind at rest and speak to your midwife, don't scare yourself hun...its not good for you.

Your boyfriend probably just needed to think about things and like you said he is stressed and probably scared as you...I hope you both work things out.

[CharlotteDavies]

I'm 31+5 weeks and I can remember feeling exactly the same wanting a big pregnant belly and believe me now I've got it wow how difficult it can be !! I love my lil man more than you could imagine but he really does give me grief now I'm bigger, try and enjoy the smaller you for now and it will come, as for the other half well their all drama queens and sometimes can feel left out when your pregnant because all of a sudden it's not just you two any more hopefully things will work out for you both xxxxx