Whoever my father was i owe him a debt of thanks for my insatiable search for knowledge,for it sure never came from my presumed family who are consumed with pettiness and jealousies,and all have stayed in the same locality spewing venom to Aunts,uncles,cousins,brothers and sisters,and i am so glad i was brave enough to break away from that continual harassment ,and more so for being Gay,something which is still frowned on in many circles,and while that kind of bigotry exists, the world continues in insufferable insular ignorance.
It is as true now as it was then, that no matter what, very little of what is taught is learned, very little of what is learned is remembered, and very little of what is remembered is used. The things we learn, remember, and use, are the things we seek out or meet in the daily, serious, part of our lives.
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It does take bravery to break away from a toxic family environment but I'd say first and foremost, be grateful to yourself Roddy, for having had the strength to make up your own mind about the way in which you choose to live your life. Prejudices and taboos in particular take a long time to wane. In a way, with regard to sexuality you can see yourself as one of the pioneers, to whom generations to come will be grateful for breaking free and living as you wish to live. In doing so you are paving the way for a comfortable life for them all. I've had lesser but similar challenges, not with my family but often from society as a whole. But I do have a sense that better is to come, even though it does take time. An all-encompassing society will take many generations of people seeing it as the norm and I'm just glad that I count among the forerunners, with enough wisdom to have seen that the condemnations of others just don't matter so long as we make ourselves as happy as we can! Keep going forward Roddy and congratulate yourself for your own achievements!
Well done you Roddy for breaking away and making a happy fulfilled life for yourself, there's still so much bigotry in the world that needs to be addressed! xx
That took a lot of guts to break away from a very toxic family, well done to you. Also well done for being open.
We are all exactly the same in this world no matter what colour, shape, size, ethnicity, sex, sexual orientation. We are equal.
Enjoy being your own person and be proud of who you are.
Alicia 👍🙏🌞
That will have taken strength Roddy to have broken away from your toxic presumed family and to have carved out an alternative life where you have found love and recognition. It would have been all too easy to have remain trapped and to have been defined by them. Definitely something to be proud of!
However perfect you are there are always people who will see you differently . We can't choose our families but as adults we can choose to have them in our lives or not .Who doesn't have strengths or weaknesses ? Ignore one thing but we will all find ourselves judged for something . It can be jealously . It doesn't always have to be gender , race , religion etc but if you let anyone get you , they have won . We need to live our lives most of the time to please ourselves . It has taken me a long time to realise this but if people don't like me then there are plenty that do .
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Ok, sorry about my post of Pooh thinking of his stomach rather than piglet, so to put it right here a lovely Pooh and Piglet conversation.
How do I make my boomer father stay home? 
Would really like to say Thanks to 2 extra Special People. They never gave up on me,.even though I felt like I couldn't be bothered.Thankyou