One of the people I've allowed to cross my boundaries quite repeatedly called me back to tell me about a "terrible problem" (It wasn't terrible, it wasn't good, I know how it happened), and then, in the guise of asking me to adjust some stuff for her convenience - found ways to subtly neg the situation repeatedly. This is not new for her.
The new part for me is that this time when experiencing this, I used broken record technique to reinforce what I would do, it didn't get me down, and after I hung up I was able to laugh at the pattern of criticism while taking the action part in hand.
For once, I'm just declaring success and appreciating the boundary maintenance, and feeling ready for whatever comes next.
The ability to reply to this post has been turned off.
It is amazing how people perceive things as awful or terrible. Well done on the broken record technique, having the ability to laugh and your success. 😊
Hello you handled that very cleverly and carmly and your approach left you feeling triumphant, unfortunetely we have to deal with all sorts of people in our life's and as I have found some if I could choose to I wouldn't have them in my life and I do try to limit my time to them I particularly try to avoid overly negative people and those who have no empathy for others and are selfish as them types I find are toxic. 🌟🌜
in reply to
Thanks!
Well done Wallowa. It's so empowering when you find you really are able to turn the situation around, and now you've been able to identify the way to deal with it, you can indeed laugh it off successfully. Great news! 🙏
Yes, I remember the broken record from an assertiveness course I did many years ago, and it takes practice. I'm not actually familiar with the boundaries maintenance. I have a lot of difficulty with real time and like many people, look back and say to myself: Why didn't I say xyz? The people I need to say it to are adept at it.
I thank GOD I have been a grateful, and thankful spirited person , even during theses challenging times. There are people who stub their toe, and they believe their world is coming to an end. I do pray those people will find joy in the little things they take for granted.
The ability to reply to this post has been turned off.
Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.
Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.
times. There are people who stub their toe, and they believe their world is coming to an end. I do pray those people will find joy in the little things they take for granted. 
What a stunning morning in Devon
If the 3 wise men arrived today i doubt they would hang around for very long