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Lets start a little group for all those who are usually alone and need more company. Joining?

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Lets start a little group for all those who are usually alone and need more company? Joining? What are your circumstances? Not suitable for families living together or those who regularly get visits or go out.

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Mapl

Hi there wiser lady 👍

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wiserlady in reply to Mapl

Hi Mapl, hows you today, whats your situation etc?

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Nuttyshirlz

Hiya I also live alone

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wiserlady in reply to Nuttyshirlz

How are you coping

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Nuttyshirlz in reply to wiserlady

not Quite sure to be honest. Think I’m doing ok now. First week did do some crying. I live alone I’m used to living alone. But for some reason Coronavirus as made me more aware just how alone i am. If that makes sense 🙂

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wiserlady in reply to Nuttyshirlz

Freel free to private mesage me if yo uwant to chat

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vulnerable

I’m not exactly alone...

But I am lonely

AndI’d love to join your group please

Maggie 💝🌈

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wiserlady in reply to vulnerable

Hi everyone, it would be great to form this group, how do you who are suitable and keen suggest we go about it. One of the things I find hard now is when people I speak to on zoom or phone are talking about all their phone calls and visitors and it makes me feel very left out because they have loads of interaction with people and I dont. It feels worse to hear about all of their interaction and rubs salt in the wound.

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vulnerable in reply to wiserlady

Awe no! Don’t feel like that🥰

Everyone of us is different. Yes, I’m shielding with my EX!!!! I’m ready for the hills!!!!

I have iPhone, laptop, Zoom, Whats App Skype the list is endless- however that doesn’t mean I am proficient at any of this technology.

My daughters are frontline NHS I FRANTIC WITH WORRY. And on top of that they are shopping for me.

MY EX has mental health issues...

I must keep busy for my health and sanity.

A Wee Group would be excellent for any of us who wish to participate.

Hopefully this comes to fruition. Talk to me anytime you like

Maggie💝🌈👼

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wiserlady in reply to vulnerable

well please message me for pms if you would like to do that. Think we are all in different situations even if live alone.

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wiserlady in reply to vulnerable

why not private mesage me?

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vulnerable in reply to wiserlady

How? Do I need your contact number? Name ? Facebook to use messenger?????

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Roukaya

Hello

I would be quite pleased to join

I am on my own in Lock Down

I have no one in UK and my Mother is based overseas

I know to well that the Lock Down is doubly harder for those who live alone because on my own case my little freedoms such a Swimming, travelling and going on excursions have all been restricted

I call it the double slap

If we had someone with us , the anxiety and isolation would be so much less

But if we could help to remove each other’s sense of isolation we would feel better and more at peace

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wiserlady in reply to Roukaya

Yes I agree. Unlike you though I am used to being at home on my own - not able to go swimming etc, so this situation is more normal to me. Doesnt mean I like it though.

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wiserlady in reply to Roukaya

Why not private message me if wanting to

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vulnerable in reply to Roukaya

Totally agree

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wiserlady

Hi Jerry. I know you are into cooking and baking - gluten free - have you got any other interests or hobbies? How are you coping with being on your own so much?

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wiserlady

Have always had a fascination for bonsai trees Jerry. Do you grow those? Or do you mean garden size ones? Love listening to music , some baking/cooking, reading, working, watching films and tv selectively, writing

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wiserlady

Ah thanks for photo. My ex (he died years ago) used to grow such trees I think. Fanned apple trees etc, perfect ones, plus won prizes for dahlias, roses, chrysanthemums and fuschias.

Can find it hard to turn my brain off so tend to be doing shopping lists, crosswords or whatever when watching tv.

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cherrybailey

Hi wiserlady I live alone and would like to join I don't have a stomach so live with low immune system I was so scared I went into isolation 4 weeks ago today. After a week I got low and cried which did me good I think it was a multiple of things that week I had been to the dentist 2 different hospital app one a syst removed stitches Disolvable thankfully. I had waited a year 60th present to go Disney Paris with my family could not go, my brothers 60th bash cancelled. I am a strong positive person hey beat stage 4 cancer 13 years now buggered if I am going to loose to this virus. Thank you and keep safe x

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wiserlady in reply to cherrybailey

Hi. Some people were quick to say they wanted to join but I could not find a way to make it possible to make this a group thing, and very few responded when I asked for ideas on that. So if you want to you can private message me and we can write to each other here. I work full time, from home, so would respond when I can. It is up to you. Have a nice day anyway and hope you are coping well.

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Narwhal10

Hi wiserlady,

Great suggestion of having this little community. I live alone and have done for years. It is rare that I am lonely though. My home is a sanctuary. I’m sorry that others upset you by saying they have had lots of interaction with others. It would be better if people were more mindful.

I am very fortunate, I’m quite introverted so, like a cat 🐈, I choose who and when I interact. I don’t use social media and only a newbie here. I’m extremely passionate about health, both physical and emotional. I meditate daily and can hypnotise myself (a bit like chicken before a tornado 🌪) to cope with acute pain.

😊

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wiserlady in reply to Narwhal10

Hi. Some people were quick to say they wanted to join but I could not find a way to make it possible to make this a group thing, and very few responded when I asked for ideas on that. So if you want to you can private message me and we can write to each other here. I work full time, from home, so would respond when I can. It is up to you. I am also very passionate about health - mental emotional and physical, and have often been able to help myself more than the doctors ever did. Have a nice day anyway and hope you are coping well.

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Narwhal10 in reply to wiserlady

Hi wiser lady,

Sorry I haven’t replied until now. I can appreciate the irony of helping yourself more than doctors can.

I’m absolutely fine emotionally/mentally with lock down - my body is a different thing. It needs a lot of rest so I listened to it and treat it with respect.

I hope you are safe and well.

😊

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RecreateMyself in reply to wiserlady

Hi wiserlady, I’m a bit late to this post but I’m interested in joining. I’m 49 and live with my long term boyfriend. He’s very independent and into his hobbies so I don’t have a lot of support. I work full time and have isolated myself from all of my friends.... not a good situation to be in. Hope u are well and I’d love to hear more about health and how u helped yourself more than some of the docs did.... I’m just getting into my health and wellness. Nutrition, vitamins, weight loss, emotional health, exercise, hobbies (which I don’t have any), being social and positive thinking.... thanks for listening- Kris.

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lynngold

Hi. I just joined here. My husband left me two years ago after a 25 year marriage. I’m alone and not good with it. I struggle with anxiety and clinical depression. It was coming on before Covid, and now being isolated, I’m in a dark place. I am talking to my therapist, but looking for a support group for people struggling without the support of someone in the home.

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RecreateMyself in reply to lynngold

Hi lynngold, I’m sorry for your marriage ending after 25 years- it must be difficult. I hope u are focusing on taking good care of yourself! I see u say your in a dark place and I know how that feels. I was there within the last 1.5 years and seem to be just coming out of it slowly... very slowly. Just know u are not alone and I’m here for u.

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Ochg

Hello wiserlady,

I am new to this forum so only just found your post. Would love to join.

I have lived on my own for a long time now, 20 yrs or more. I have always enjoyed my own company, and having a very full and demanding career, the solitude once I got home was a real pleasure. I also always had some sort of pet, parrot, cats and various dogs at some time or other.

After 42 years in my career I decided to retire early 18 months ago. I had great plans at that time, was going to have loads of walking holidays with my faithful border collie. BUT, one week before finishing work my dear companion, who I thought was as fit as a flea, was taken from me with bladder cancer. This knocked me side wards, but not one to give in I searched and finally found a wonderful new puppy.

Life was going well then wam bam a few weeks before lockdown I collapsed, AFib had arrived. Due to the immense impact of my symptoms could no longer care for my puppy so had to release her for re homing, now that did break my heart.

Then lockdown. I have never felt so alone in all my life, just like what Nuttyshirlz has said.

I am having an ablation for my Afib soon so fingers crossed will be heading back to some sort of normality in time. But what all this has shown me is I do need folk, and this site has been a tremendous source of support in the last few weeks since I joined.

I do hope you and others here are keeping well, and safe. I

I would love for use to 'keep talking'.

Best wishes,

Shirley x

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