At long last….

[Bramble2000]

At long last, I have a carer coming in once a day to help me. Having been bedbound pretty much for the last year, I’ve lost so much muscle I can’t do allot such as washing and drying my hair. Someone did this for me today and it was bliss. I even had my back washed! It’s quite a strange experience having a complete stranger bathe you but it has to be done. ☺️

[DorsetLady PMRGCAuk volunteer]

Good news for you…and as we know if you cannot do things for yourself, someone else has to..🌸

[Temeraire]

Am very pleased for you. I know its hard to accept help but you have done so gracefully. Best Wishes.

[Bramble2000 in reply to Temeraire]

Thanks. It is abit embarrassing but at least they were female! I’m not sure if I’d cope if they were male. X

[Temeraire in reply to Bramble2000]

Can understand that. I’d be the same.

[PMRpro Ambassador in reply to Bramble2000]

Carers are usually female - men have to cope with it. My husband did without a murmur.

[Bramble2000 in reply to PMRpro]

of course but I couldn’t be looked after by a male as I’m a survivor of extreme abuse by a male.

[HalleysComet in reply to Bramble2000]

you must make sure that whoever sends the carers to you has that distressing information.

[Thirtynine39 in reply to Bramble2000]

You wouldn’t have a choice in a nursing home being bathed by a male nurse or wiped in a toilet.

[Bramble2000 in reply to Thirtynine39]

it’s a good job I have a choice at the moment then, isn’t it? Thanks

[Bramble2000 in reply to Thirtynine39]

It comes under care and support statutory guidance “dignity”. You can all for same sex carers under this.

[Rachmaninov2]

I can imagine how blissful that was Bramble, it can be quite a relief when we receive the help we need. Wishing you all the best.