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I have to go in hospital for two weeks to 'coordinate' my illnesses! And also (my doctor's words) to learn how to be an old woman!!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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🀣🀣🀣 you have to laugh...what a comment! Please don't let them do that😱

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Actually - he was right! How often do we say "I can do that", "I'm better than that"? And we CAN'T!

In a way it was a compliment (?!)πŸ˜‚ He's seen me deteriorating in the last couple of years and he REALLY want's to help.

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Fingers crossed you can be coordinated!

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What an insult! I trust you responded appropriately πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ€£

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I thanked him! He sees I am not the woman I was and is concerned.

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When you find out, please let me know. I could do with some hard information. πŸ‘Ή

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That's how I took it! He doesn't see me as OLD. I've been with him for 25 years.

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That's what I was going to say. Take notes please!

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Great OLD minds think alikeπŸ€”πŸ€”

When I am an old woman I shall wear purple

With a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.

And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves

And satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.

I shall sit down on the pavement when I’m tired

And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells

And run my stick along the public railings

And make up for the sobriety of my youth.

I shall go out in my slippers in the rain

And pick flowers in other people’s gardens

And learn to spit.

You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat

And eat three pounds of sausages at a go

Or only bread and pickle for a week

And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.

But now we must have clothes that keep us dry

And pay our rent and not swear in the street

And set a good example for the children.

We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

But maybe I ought to practise a little now?

So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised

When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

😈😈😈

Yup at 81 I wear a lot of purple. It always was my favourite colour as at one time it was reserved for Royalty. As a commoner...........

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Yes I love that poem, found it a few years back and was already wearing purple so I knew it would apply to me.

I have a purple coat so whatever is underneath I'm still in purple.

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I have a puple jacket too... My favourite colour... As long as I don’t have a purple rinse I’m happy πŸ˜‚πŸŒ»

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Ha ha! I've never worn purple in my life and I couldn't, just couldn't start now.

I prefer a gentle blue!

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I am a bit ott with purple which has always been my fave colour. My hair is purple. But I try not to wear too much purple when my hair is that colour. But can't do much about purple walking boots...my hat is beige though. πŸ˜‰

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πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ I had thought of blue hair, but I've got no guts!! I did have a black stripe in the front some time ago (it looked good on white hair). Unfortunately pred has made my hair darker so it wouldn't look 'right' now!

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When I was younger I was tempted to go bright red. But have never dyed my hair any colour. Snowy white seems to suit me.... I love looking at others though, especially now the colours which seem to have been stolen from a peacock feather!

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Mrs. Slocombe... are you being served comes to mind. My fellows admin on Health unlocked Hughes sticky blood forum Mary F , choose her as her avatar.

When she is administering , we are all being, β€œ well served!”

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I daren't say her main line...

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Meow!

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Loving the Purple Walking Boots 😜

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My favourite colour has always been purple, but I associate it with royalty more than age. πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ

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I'm also a Jenny Joseph fan. πŸ‘

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This is one of my favorites. But purple is not for me. πŸ˜’ 😁 . Thx for including . πŸ€—

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The poem that defines my life. I dyed my hair purple (semi permanent) last Christmas and may do dark blue next :) I always have money for butter though as it's one of my favourite things πŸ€— I love the freedom of the third age. I have started wearing makeup and my wardrobe is very bright. My son has always thought me a little weird anyway, warning his friends about me! Think it started when he came home and found me laying on the floor in a crystal set up. I remember he quite casually said "don't mind my mother, she's a witch and a bit weird, but mostly harmless and I love her". I was treated like a celebrity at school events and his friends would always come and tell me things like "we really like going in your car as your driving is exciting"πŸ˜† This was 30 odd years ago and I haven't changed much lol!

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Not sure now where - but a couple of days ago I saw an elderly lady in bright purple striding along the pavement as I drove past. And yes - she had a red hat on!!!!!

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πŸ€”πŸ˜„πŸ‘

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Was that you she saw????

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You guessed correctly and what is more and I saw them both 2 days running and it was lovely time. For the first time, 2 of my longer standing UK mates happened to be up here at the same time and so at long last they met the person I have kept on saying to them, one day perhaps you will meet..................my one day became two.

Guess who was a very happy πŸ‡

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In this case, not unless she was visiting Portsmouth!!!!! But I did see jinasc.

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When are you due back home?

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Slept in my own bed last night - like a log I might add :)

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How long were you away altogether? How did OH (or you even) manage?

I would have been in bed for a week after that journey!

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We drove 2880 miles and used 2 ferries in 3 weeks and 2 days. Usually I do all the driving but this time I handed over after 2-3 hours for a while on days we were driving for longer. The worst thing for both of us was stairs - we do stairs here but they are fairly shallow treads compared to English ones! OH is fine as long as no hills are involved - bit limiting for walks but easy enough to avoid by not going there!

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Fantastic!πŸ‘

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Constance, I am about the same age as you, and have no intention of thinking I am old, that is the route to being old.

Forget β€˜you are are as young as you feel’ as sometimes many of us feel πŸ’―

Rather β€˜as young as you think you are’.

Will be interesting to hear what they try to teach you.

Best of luck with the coordination and hope they can help you, as you have been going through a rough patch.πŸ€žπŸ€πŸŒ»

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Hi Marymom

I don't think many of us would say 100% to be honest. (Not at 80)!

I think we just have to get our heads round what we CAN and what we CAN'T do. I'm hoping the hospital will sort that out for me.

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Oh come on Constance. One is as old as they feel. I am a believer that it's all in the mind.

I have PMR for ages now, still get plenty of pains, but I don't lay down and cry about it.

I convince myself that tomorrow will be a new pain free day. If you listen to others that you are old, then you have given up and 'will' feel old..

I'm 76+. But I'm a little devil. I love telling jokes to my grandkids, I love my cyber world and have made friends with folks from all over the world.

I drive everywhere, both abroad and the U.K. I have never thought for one moment to stop. ( even though the pmr pains in my arms kick in sometimes )

Some of my friends, both male and female gave up driving at the age of 70 years.

80 years today, is the 60 years of age yesterday ...

Don't let anyone convince you that you are old ...

YuliK 76+ 🌹

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I don't - I just admit I can't stop time.

Don't you realise how lucky you are? "I drive everywhere" etc etc. I was advised by my doctor and rheumatologist to give up driving over 5 years ago. "I have pain in my arms sometimes"?? I have had PMR for 7 1/2 years, I have very aggressive Polyarthritis, I am in pain all day and wake up unable to move during the night!!

I'm not complaining (really)! But what isn't possible, isn't possible. I just want to get all my illnesses (there are others) sorted out and help to grow/be old graciously.

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I think you are a realist like me. We do what we can do within our own limitations. Your last sentence resonatedβ€” β€œ grow/ be old graciously.” πŸ‘ to you. Do keep posting. πŸ€—

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Oh dont start being an old lady please! Let them coordinate your illnesses but dont give in. I want to be remembered as being a mad woman who dresses oddly and does daft things like going on zip wires with their grandson even with pmr. X

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You're starting early!

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I know but i just cant help myself. I want to absail down the tower in portsmouth but OH said we arent insured for enough!!

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Actually being an old lady isn't too bad - accepting it is the difficulty!πŸ˜‚

I won't "give in"I want to grow old with grace and dignity

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You may have trouble with those last two! I know I would.

Hope all goes well for you.

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I didnt manage grace and dignity in my younger years so theres no hope really. When in court i have been attacked by the doors and ended up hurtling down the courtroom with my silks in my coffee and a manic look on my face as i try and avoid the court clerk who is standing there like a rabbit caught in lights!! Mad cat woman is my aim now.

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I actually think we should celebrate our age. It really does mean something to have exceeded the allotted three score and ten. I find it patronising to be told otherwise. When the dentist says I have a young mouth it means I'm old. He'd never think to say that to someone who was really young! I'm not young, I've earned some stripes and I want that acknowledged. And I don't want to be figuaratively patted on the head and told how well I'm doing and how young I look, as though that was some sort of achievement, or how great it is at my age that I know how to use a computer.... We are now elders, we are the wise ones of our times, and we should expect to be treated with respect.

The other day I was walking along a path and a little group was coming towards me. Once upon a time I'd have stepped to the side, onto the grass, but I don't any more. They are acting as though I'm invisible, so I'll act as though they are invisible. Once the young man taking up my side of the path knew I wasn't about to step aside for him he flinched away at the last second as he passed me so he didn't hit me. That might be my equivalent of wearing purple and not caring what people think.

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I must admit the young people I have met here in our area are very helpful and friendly.

Our local council authority runs a 'pocket money' club where youngsters help with shopping, walking out, light garden work, baby sitting, etc etc. You give them a minimum of €5 per hour. It's an excellent idea.

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It's a super idea. We used to shovel our elderly neighbour's driveway when he still lived next door to us. I expected we would get similar care as we aged but we didn't. By the time we moved hubby must have been about ten years older than the former neighbour had been when we first started helping him out and I was the one who did most of the shovelling at our house as hubby was often out at work! Oddly enough PMR never slowed me down with the shovelling, even when I was undiagnosed and could hardly get out of bed! Don't think I could do it now as I have very pred-weakened arms.

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Probably!!

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Yellowbluebell πŸ’ƒ

I love you for that reply. πŸ‘

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You are only as young as you feel in your mind...minus the occasional reality check from PMR every now and then! 😜

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Good luck! Let us hope a shiny new you emerges from this good sorting out!

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Good luck with it all. At least he's lookin after you!!!

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Powerwalk, possibly the Doctor making her feel an old decrepit is not to Constance's benefit. That my opinion. He should be building her confidence.

I edited my post by adding 'the doctor'

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Thats a bit harsh. She didnt take it that way! I was trying to encourage her. You have my heart thumping with your cutting reply to me.

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Oh Dear Powerwalk

My humble apologies dear, I was actually directing my reply about the Doctor. Not about your kind reply.

You are a very kind soul and I wouldn't offend you for the world.

Sorry πŸ™

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Thats ok. We're good xx!

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I think I must explain! My doctor is marvellous - when he uttered those words he was smiling - he has known me for 25 years, he knew I would appreciate it - we laughed together. He has NEVER upset me in all those years. I trust him 100%.

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I think knowing someone is looking after you is great. Dying to hear how your tests go.

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I think that's where confusion lay....we are usually judging drs by our own experience!

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Have a good rest if you can!

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I don't think that is the idea!!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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Never learn to be an old lady. All in the mind.

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No it isn't - it's all in the body!!

Anyway, what's wrong with being old and accepting it? As long as one keeps relatively active and is happy why not just enjoy it?

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My body is much older than my chronological age but I love my little life...most days. I have actually felt happier or at least more content the older I have got.

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Thumbs up to all the happy oldies!πŸ‘πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸΎπŸΈπŸ₯ƒπŸΊπŸ·πŸ˜Ž

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Thank you so much Constance . Join us oldies when you are feeling better. πŸ’ƒπŸŒΉβ˜€οΈπŸ€πŸ‘πŸ‘β€οΈ

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Yulik, I'm not "i'll"!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Not feeling bad at all, I have just a few illnesses that are fighting each other at the moment and I need them to be sorted out so that I can carry on my happy lifestyle.

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That's good Constance. Keep the spirits up ...🍸🍺🍹🍷πŸ₯ƒπŸΎ

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I think you are supposed to wear purple....

β€œwhen I am on old woman I shall wear purple...”

What is that even from?!

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Thank you!

I’m off to the shops to buy every shade of purple there is- I’m 50 and now inspired to call myself delightful delicious in purple!

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Do you know - I don't think I have ever seen a dress or jumper/t-shirt in purple!πŸ˜‚

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I bought all the t shirts πŸ˜‰

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( oops- I see I’m several paces behind! Others thought of this poem straight away yesterday- I should have scrolled up. I didn’t see all the dialogue above this.)

Y’alls commentary is pretty epic!

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Sure you'll teach them a thing or two too Constance.

Best wishes and keep us updated. xxx

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Constance, the way I look at this ageing mallarkey is...

You’re only 66:8 plus VAT πŸ˜„. Don’t know what the German equivalent of VAT is.... As long as you trust your Doctor you’ll be fine.... Wishing you all the best... Lena 🌻

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Sorry, only just catching up Constance, CoOrdinate your Conditions but always remain Young At Heart πŸ’•

If you get the opportunity to see the Pharmacist that would be well worth a Consultation as to when to take each Med for the Best Results & they can check for any contraindications.

Let us know how your getting on, when do you go in?

Take Care

MrsN 🌷🌷🌷

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Thank you!πŸ€

Could be a while - must wait for an appropriate space.

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