Message from melissa

[Yellowbluebell]

Dear HU PMRGCAuk, I cannot thank you enough for the overwhelming outpouring of love and support. You are a truly an amazing community!

To those of you who complained that my posts/comments to your posts were "upsetting," please accept my sincere apology. It was/is NEVER my intention to be unkind, cruel or to upset anyone! All you ever had to do was tell me that I had upset you... and we could have worked it out .

To those of you who found my blog "NSQAF" "distressing," I am sorry you felt that way. The blog was written as an observational piece, about how (I believe) as WE get older we resist anything new and different. It was not meant to be finger pointing and I had included myself throughout the piece.

However, I stand firm in my belief that I provide more than ample "warning" and information about my blogs, so that you can make an educated decision, before reading them. You cant have it both ways... you cant read the warning, click the link, leave the HU PMRGCA website, read the blog and then complain that you were "distressed" by it. That's not how life works.

I apologise for my part in this unfortunate fiasco and hope for a peaceful resolution. It is still my belief that this is an AMAZINGLY valuable forum, and the recent show of caring, compassion and camaraderie tells me you have something special here... don't risk losing that!

Mamici1 (aka Melissa)

[GerriMc]

I must say, I have never been offended by any post on this forum. I’d be lost without the support and the inflammation I have gotten here and am most grateful for it.

Actually, when I think about it, if I ever was offended, so what, it’s not all about me!

I’m so grateful to everyone on here and those who keep the forum going! Xxx

[Yellowbluebell in reply to GerriMc]

Exactly. We are all grown ups. As Melissa can't post still this message is via me and as we don't have a problem with each other then it's time to unblock her and put this to bed!!

[Marilyn1959 in reply to GerriMc]

Hi GerryMc. Your reply says you are grateful for the 'inflammation' you have gained from this site. Hopefully not! That has really made me chuckle! X

[GerriMc in reply to GerriMc]

😮 of course I meant Information not inflammation. Not sure if it was. Freudian slip or overzealous autocorrect! 😁

[Rimmy]

Great !! thanks Yellowbluebell for relaying this message from Melissa - I see Kate has been called back in after a very 'short retirement' from the site - and I'm sure will rectify this disappointing 'hiccup' very soon - and reinstate full membership for Melissa and then we can all just 'get on with it' !!

Best to everyone

Rimmy

[Yellowbluebell in reply to Rimmy]

Thanks Rimmy. This is ridiculous but hopefully Kate can sort it especially as it's clear me and Melissa don't have a problem.x

[Dontwannabesick in reply to Rimmy]

Hope so x

[nickm001]

We all have very powerful censorship tool - if you don't like the post, stop reading it and move on... Don't understand why would I (or anyone) complain about any post unless it is directed personally to me.

Welcome back!

[Yellowbluebell in reply to nickm001]

She not back unfortunately but she can private chat and like! That's why the message came through me. I totally agree, if you don't like a subject then dont read it or get involved, move on to the next post. Act like a grown up. X

[markbenjamin57 in reply to nickm001]

Well said nick..

[SheffieldJane]

Gosh I got excited too soon on the other thread. Kate gives me hope. She is firm but fair.

[Yellowbluebell in reply to SheffieldJane]

I didn't realise she still couldn't post as I could see her liking posts but hopefully this will get sorted soon and.we can get back to normality.xx

[Grants148]

I also thought that Melissa was back,hope she soon will be,and yes, l agree,no one is forced to read a post if it is of no interest to them xx.

[markbenjamin57 in reply to Grants148]

Agree..

[JanboC]

Why has "Question" been removed and also "Dear administrator" is no longer available.? Or is it just me? I have every admiration for Melissa and can't wait to see her back on the forum again. But I am still very upset at the way she has been treated.

[PMRpro Ambassador in reply to JanboC]

It is obviously an intermittent fault on HU. I have no link to 5 different posts, neither from my emails nor from within the site. Later notifications have worked. The link here for your reply was very slow.

[JanboC in reply to PMRpro]

Thanks for the reply. x

[piglette in reply to JanboC]

Question seems OK for me, although I am getting not available errors on other posts.

[Yellowbluebell in reply to piglette]

I have just been able to get question up as well.

[PMRpro Ambassador in reply to piglette]

It has just come up

[Yellowbluebell]

Trying to get my responses up took ages And I had to off the site and back on to get them. Obviously a site thing.

[PMRpro Ambassador]

I have just had an email from the forum thanking me for telling them about the fault. The tech team think they have sorted it.

If anyone gets such notices again can you please tell the site Help Centre.

[Yellowbluebell in reply to PMRpro]

Thanksx

[teesher]

Go girl Melissa. I love your blogs - keep them coming. x

[Dontwannabesick]

Good on you YBB, and hugs Melissa. X

[stellafmdm]

I've never been offended by Melissa's posts! All I need to do if I think they may upset me is to ignore them. Dear Melissa always gives us plenty of warning re the content!

[SheffieldJane]

Add another like. For some reason I am unable to like an original post.

[maria40]

I came late to this discussion but I was awake in the night and realising how much everyone on here meant to me. Dorset Lady's gentle wisdom and humour, PMRpro's encyclopaedic knowledge and kindness, MB's off the wall posts, Pepperdoggie's beautiful garden and so many more. But Melissa's posts had a particular flavour which really conveyed her personality and they, particularly her blog posts, were always preceded by caveats about content and lack of relevance to PMR/GCA so they could be skipped. I appreciate that moderators have a difficult task when threads are very long and could be seen as irrelevant to the subject. But we are all humans first, PMR/GCA is part of that humanity and, as it is known that stress is an exacerbating factor in this illness, anything that makes us laugh and feel part of a unique, warm and welcoming community with which we can identify, can be seen as therapeutic. I hope a way can be found to reinstate Melissa. Thank you for her message and please pass on my very best wishes . I, and I know I'm not alone , certainly miss her.