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[Io1000]

I am 87 yrs old and live alone and at the moment have exhausting visits from children ( 50- 60 yrs old) for their 3wk holiday from abroad and I am exhausted.Is it permissible to step up my B12injections to help me cope?I normally have one every 2wks.I s.I. Initially I had one 6 wkly but my need has crept up.My GP thinks that is my dose and I haven’t enlightened him as to my extras from Germany.Thank you for your advice.Ann

[Jillymo]

Hello Ann,

I can fully understand your stress of having to cope with these vistors for such a long period of time. It is of no wonder your feeling exhausted. It wont do any harm to step your B12 up to see if it helps you over this phase.

Maybe when they next visit it might be worthwhile suggesting they stay in a B&B as its now too much for you.

Bless you. 😘 💐

[Io1000 in reply to Jillymo]

Thank you Jillymo.I know what you mean about the B&B but I have the room to put them up and their fare from Chile is enormous .They do help but don’t really understand about PA and I do love to see them.

I will step up the B12 to one a week and see if that helps.yours gratefully Ann

[Jillymo in reply to Io1000]

I would be down sizing to a smaller property. 😂

Bless you.

[Ana_conda in reply to Jillymo]

😆 Great minds think alike!

[Marz in reply to Io1000]

Do you also take a good B Complex to keep all the B vitamins in balance ? It may help. Also VitD levels may need a boost.

You are doing incredibly well hosting your family ...I too find visiting family stressful and I'm only 78 !!

[Io1000]

you made me giggle so that’s a help in its self.I have wondered but love my home too much with all its memories of my husband.Plus can’t face all that packing up.Much love Ann

[Jillymo in reply to Io1000]

I couldn't face the thought of moving either. 😱

I niether have the strength or energy to do so and the memories within these walls are precious. My son emigrated to Bulgaria which was a huge wrench for the pair of us. Hopefully he will visit next year but I dread him seeing the decline in both my health and stamina. Even to go out for a meal has become a challenge.

Enjoy whilst they are there and take time out for yourself ( and recovery ) when they have gone.

Take care of yourself. 🤗

[Io1000 in reply to Jillymo]

Dear Jillymo,I completely understand.You want your children to spread their wings and not see the heartbreak they leave behind.My son is an astronomer in Chile and if I am lucky I see him once a year.This year he has brought his Chilean partner which makes feeding a bit tricky.I lost my husband 10yrs ago and he was good at what we called camouflage I.e.pretending all was well when it certainly wasn’t.Going out for meals is hard work but I am learning to say no and send them off by themselves or get a takeaway.I do hope you get to see your son soon and are brave enough to let him know that you are not 21 any more.We can’t protect them for ever and you never know he might be glad to be kept in the picture instead of the dark.My warmest wishes to you.Thank you for your wonderful help and confiding in me.I wish I had more words to express how comforting your words have been.Love Ann

[Midnight_Voice]

Where did we go wrong in that we have 50-60 year olds that we still regard as “children”? 😛

[Io1000]

That is a sad comment as adults they may be but they are always our children.We always respect and treat them as adults but we always love them as our offspring.Unnecessary comment Midnight Voice.

[Io1000]

Thank you Marz for the reminder.My other vitamins are all up to date.

[EllaNore]

Hello lo1000, I'm 63 years old in December and yesterday I was watching my 4-month-old nephew his mother was here too because their house was being worked on and I got pretty exhausted at the end of the day just from having to hold a conversation all day with somebody and being more active than usual. I take my B12 every day and I needed to take an extra injection today because it was a little too much for me. But I would never not want the company because I spend most of my time alone and it's very nice to have the company when they're here. And I don't really want to tell them that I'm tired and I need to take a nap so I just keep pushing myself but by the end of the day I'm pretty tired. PA is quite the thing to have to deal with but it's okay to take more B12. In fact you could probably take an injection every day if you needed to. I think most of us do. I know I inject everyday and I know many people that do so don't be afraid to inject every day if you need to. I hope you had a really good time with your family. I know that nobody wants to tell somebody that they're not well or that they're tired when they're having such a good time and nobody wants to be the party pooper or the person that needs attention because there's something wrong with them but you are 85 and there is something wrong with you do need to be careful and not over do it. In fact I fell yesterday holding the baby in the car carrier and it hurt me pretty good so I have to be extra careful not to fall when I'm holding the baby or at all. 😬 I'm so used to being very very strong that being only 25% of what I used to be takes me by surprise sometimes at how weak I am. So be gentle with yourself don't overdo it and definitely go ahead and take more B12, every day if you need it.

[Io1000]

Thank you so much ElleNore for your understanding.Our children don’t want to see us getting frailer with age and we don’t like it either.You are doing so well.I hold your hand virtually and will take more of the golden B12.

[EllaNore in reply to Io1000]

Thank you so much lo1000, I accept your hand and offer mine. 🫂💜🫂

[Io1000 in reply to EllaNore]

Thank you.I value your friendship.Hold on tightly.Ann

[Hockey_player]

I hope you have a great visit! Some people inject every day or even several times per day. B12 is not toxic. If it makes you feel better, you might consider having injections more often all the time.

[Io1000 in reply to Hockey_player]

Thank you Hockey player.I understand your suggestion but normally fine with a fortnightly injection.

[wedgewood]

I know exactly how you feel Io1000.I’m your age —son in New Zealand , daughter in Germany with children and now great grandchildren

. Yes it’s so expensive to get here that I can understand that they need cheap accommodation! But it is stressful ! I always take extra injections before , during and after visits. — It’s an absolute necessity! No harm done at all ! Also living alone makes it a bit more stressful of. course .

Great thing is that my daughter can bring some wicked B12 ampoules from Germany . I order them from on online German pharmacy and send them to her address. I can find the very cheapest Panpharma B12 depot ampoules by accessing online pharmaceutical comparative sites

medizinfuchs.de

or mediPreis.de

search for ref no 16199653 for Panpharma. B12 depot . So yes You will be directed to the cheapest offer ( it’s never a pharmacy that will ship to U.K. !) Then my daughter will bring them over with her . I digress, sorry .

Yes you will need some extra injections . Then you will be fine !

[Io1000 in reply to wedgewood]

Great to hear from you and share the same problems.How useful to have a daughter in Germany.Chile is no help at all.I need to replenish my stock so must do some ordering.I have B12 prescribed for once every 6weeks so add my own from Germany My local pharmacy has run out at the moment along with other drugs.

I will take a leaf out of your book and be generous with the injection whilst coping with the temporary invasion.However I will miss them so much when they go home.

Every good wish to you.

[wedgewood in reply to Io1000]

Wishing you well for the visit . Yes , the awful bit is when they have all gone back . You probably need an extra jab then too . But live for the moment . 👍